Advice on the same situation

United States
August 20, 2008 11:51pm CST
Is it wrong for getting fed up with your friends asking you for advice on the same situation over and over? My friend keeps asking me what to do about her boyfriend. He keeps coming around in cycles. For a week or two he is all over her and then the next week she can't get him on the phone. I keep telling her to leave him alone because he is clearly doing something he has no business. Am I wrong for getting tired of hearing about this.
3 responses
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Hi MissMalone, personally I don't think it's wrong to get fed up with being asked for advise its normal especially if its on the same topic. That happens o me all the time with my best friend and to get her to stop and think about the advises I give rather than asking over and over again hoping to hear some kind of approval or something she wants to hear from me and not my own opinion, I tell her that no matter how many times she asks me for advise, if she doesn't like it or is not willing to accept it, it's her call she doesn't have to listen to me, because she'll be the one to make the decision and not me. That gets her into thinking. Sometimes the reason why our friends keep asking us over and over again is either because that's not what they want to hear, or they are seeking for approval. believe me I've had the same probs with my best friend but at the end of the day once I tell her that she understands and stops asking about that topic and starts on a new one haha...
• United States
21 Aug 08
No, not at all. Sometimes giving advice once should be enough. After that it's just overkill. And that can get kind of annoying, especially if your friend isn't taking in anything you're saying. The lack of acknowledgment will continue the cycle forever, lol. Maybe it's time to just walk away if you can.
@pkraj111 (2458)
• India
21 Aug 08
There is nothing wrong with getting tired and angry. If you have to advice about the same thing again and again, it just shows the other one is not intrested in following your advice.. So ask her to decide it for herself