Correct me if I'm wrong....

To be honest i was like this. I expected favorable responses. But i was never rude to anyone who responded to my discussion even with negative responses(except once). It is natural here i think. Views will vary to person to person. So i don't take it seriously now. Let them be as they are. But in your case i think that person did not do the right thing. That person should respect you for responding to his/her discussion.

I've come to the conclusion Tess, that if you dare to offer an opposing opinion (however polite and respectful), you will see your rating go down a notch or two. Life would be so boring if we all had the same opinion, so I love to have a friendly discussion and I'm definitely not a 'yes man'. It's crappy you had a nasty response to your honesty, but I hope you keep being you and don't let it get to you and affect your responses! I think a lot of people are here just to make money, and I've given up answering all the discussions on money sites, money links, how to make more money, blah, blah, blah - there are a few people who post the same discussion (worded slightly differently) six or seven times every day. It just becomes a nuisance in the end!

it is true when something controversial is started, there can be different types of responses. the owner should be prepared for anything. its bad to state that it is not appreciated. you were not wrong i guess.

I don't mind opposing opinions...I just expect to be given a little respect, not be put down and told I'm a horrible person for having my opinion. I think that's where people mess up. Disagreeing is great and it would get boring if everyone thought the same way or avoided contoversial topics but there are things such as tact and diplomacy. It's a fine line for some people and I'm sure I have crossed it myself. There is no reason to get mean when disagreeing with another person (unless of course the other person was mean first or being a jack@ss in their own opinion and then I think the gloves can come off!)

I would agree with you. I see so many discussions that are started that are just foolish and they are obviously people just thinking they are going to make money writing whatever they want. Then you find something that is actually interesting and you get criticized for joining in. That doesn't make sense. People who post topics that are truly ones that deserve to be discussed can't believe everyone will have the same opinion or what would be the point in posting it.

Many times I end up awarding a BR to responses I dont completely agree with simple because they put forward an interesting and meaning full argument. When people put forward their honest views its a good thing. I hate it when people tell me something just to make me feel better (OnMyLot) in hopes to get the BR. What you are saying is totally correct. I good discussion welcomes every aspect of an argument. Hope people who who undermine posts simple because they dont agree with it, read this and understand. You can never always be correct. Its very important to take in all comments and understand all points of views. Ultimately its left to you what you want to believe. But its also important to respect others thoughts. Dont worry Tess, you just do your thing. Dont worry about what people think. Not all of em are like that. HappyMyLoting!

Well I don't want anyone to agree with me, but to be honest. However honesty can come with respect as well. I don't want someone to scold me, or slap my hand. It's one thing if they don't agree, it's another if they come off insulting while doing so. Not saying you did, I have no clue since I haven't seen the post you are referring to. But I have noticed in most cases where one does not agree with the other, it's not really over a different opinion, it's because there was disrespect, correcting and even brow bashing that was going on. So I do post to many discussions where I have a different opinion, but I do so with understanding of the other person's feelings. Unless it's something so outlandish and sick, then well I will toss a bit of emotion in there. But in the end my goals are two things, being honest and respecting the author. Sadly there are times that even with respect, it doesn't work, the author is just wanting a bunch of yes men to reply to them, and well nothing you can do to make it any better besides agreeing. I don't avoid those either, but you see my star, it takes a beating sometimes because of those people right there. I find those people are immature and sometimes not very mentally stable. So after that first run in, I avoid them like the plague after that.

I dare you to disagree and have a different opinion then the OP! How rude and unconsiderate of you. lol j/k This seems to happen a lot here. I think some people only open threads so they can get validation that they are right in their way of thinking. They don't want to discuss an issue, they want to collect a bunch of like minded people. Good for you for speaking up and stating your opinion, that's what a discussion board is all about.

Hi TessWhite, I agree with you it is a discussion forum and I actually find it refreshing to hear a completely different view point from mine and have even mark best response to someone that looked at what I had written from a different perspective. I for one Tess would avoid answering to this person if they are that unaccepting of others views. Ellie :D

I, too, thought that the discussions on myLot was to hear opinions and/or answers from other people from around the world. The response you received from being honest was rude. If they disagreed, they should have had the courage to state their case rather than dis you. To me, that is a sign of a closed mind. That person seems to have only wanted validation of his point of view. Tess, keep on being honest and true to yourself!

Hey Tess, I'm afraid that there are people out there that think that they are right about everything. And if you oppose their opinion, they become defensive. My twin is like that. I have no idea what makes people like that think they know everything. To oppose their thoughts or opinions is to oppose their so called knowledge. They don't want different views, they want validation that they are right. I think it's sad when people are not open for "Discussion" just validation. leenie

I think the person who told you that should be told to read the guidelines here. Any response to post as long as it is relevant whether positive or negative should be accepted. I think that you should be open minded to accept whatever answer will come out from your discussion. Also I think that everyone is free to express his or her won opinion here so they should just let them be. to that person who responded that way.

I am in this kind of situation several times. I know they are honest people but their words made me frustrate. If it is because of culture barrier, I will explain why I initiate the discussion. Perhaps I should be happy to have frank friends and learn a lot from the unexpect responses.

That was very rude, discussions and posting are encourage here so why post something like that? I think if you don't like the response maybe the author just rate the response but don't tell that the opinion is no needed.

I've had the same problem and find it very rude. I've also had the bland responses like, "Thank you" or "Nice to hear". Then there's the people who post something controversial just to get responses and never engage anyone who posts to their discussion. Personally I like a good discussion and a good debate. It's always interesting to read other people's opinions, even if I don't agree with them.

Yes, I agree with you. The object here is to start a discussion and let others share their opinions about it. I don't expect everyone to agree with me or to share the same thoughts about a subject that I do. If we all agreed on everything, what point would their be to have an opinion about anything? Differences are what makes the world work today and no one should be mad if you say something that they don't agree with.

How boring would that be if we all had the same opinion on any topic. I don't ever expect to see the same answers, that would be the same as if we all looked the same, dressed the same ......well you know what I mean. hahaha

If it was a political discussion I can understand that. People take their political discussions pretty seriously around here. Other than that I think that people should take things with a grain of salt and realize that people are not trying to be rude when offering their two cents. I'm sorry you had that experience TessWhite.

When you look up the word "discussion" on Wikipedia it redirects you to "debate", which of course is "a formal method of interactive argument." Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't argument mean opposing positions? I have to say that when I find a discussion that has dozens of responses, and they are all in agreement with OP, I get bored stiff, flick through and then dont even bother responding. I love a good argument me!

I like discussions with opposing views. It makes it more interesting and sometimes you just learn something new. If I post a really good discussion I hope everyone gives me their honest opinion whether that means they agree with me or they disagree. I don't understand those who get offended by those who think differently then they do. Do they react that way with their family if they disagree over a topic?