Do you think Marriage is real necessity in life?

@subha12 (18441)
India
August 21, 2008 6:23am CST
I am asking for all. do you think people who are happy to be single, need to be married too? I think its the way the society portray the things, If you are not married, you are looked down. People get much worried when are you getting married. Do you think it is real necessity for all?
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@jnk3dfx (721)
• India
22 Aug 08
I think Yes... if not marriage at least you need a partner. Because never seen any vehicle with one Tyre.... Should Have atleast two tyres to run the vehicle... So you cant run your life with a partner. If you want to run like that, I think that would be a boring life inst'it..?
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
thansk for the reply
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I was married for over 20 years. I'm no longer married, but in a new relationship. My new guy and I have been together for 8 years now but we have no plans to marry. I just don't think marriage is necessary anymore.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
its always right when you gfeel to get married
@arikiya (41)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Nope. I think just like anything else, marriage and relationships will differ from person to person. I know several people who have been married many years and are happy, and still several other people have never married their partner but been together a long time and are just as happy as the married people, if not more so. In this day and age there are still some who will look down on a couple for not getting married, but not nearly as many as there used to be. IMO it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks anyway, what's important is that each person in a relationship is happy, married or not.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should be dependent on individual. society should not force it.
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Maybe...no. If you can live with your promises during marriage... then go. But if you cant, you'll just hurt the person you're getting married to. Marriage is a commitment not all about love...it's more on responsibilities. It depands on you if you are ready... but if not...better stay single.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should be like this only
@skenthal (1020)
• Turkey
21 Aug 08
single man - single man cartoon funny
no. i dont think its necessary at all. im single and im happy being single. i have no intentions of settling down any time soon. i like the single life where i do not have to commit to anyone and have no responsibilities. see im young though im 20. so i still have time. but i still dont think marriage is necessary even when im 30. i can just live with my girlfriend and that would be just fine. i think we live in world where people get divorced way too much so getting hitched isnt taken as seriously. and well than whats the point?
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
yes its true. we should think that let people be happy what they are doing.
@usagi412 (39)
• United States
21 Aug 08
i don't think marriage is a necessity in life because marrying someone is just to increase your social statics. and if you are single then you could have more fun outside. people looked down at you because they think that you didn't settle down yet and when you are married they would think that you have a beautifully life. i mean people could have a good life by themselves and maybe even better.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
22 Aug 08
Subha I think its totally subjective. For some its so very important and some can do without it. It depends on the mental make up. I personally feel, during the last phase of our lives. We a companion, a friend, a shoulder to rest on,to share, to love, to care for. That stage is a beautiful stage where ppl get intedependent and develop an eternal bond.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it is really subjective one. but i think it should never be forced affair
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Aug 08
This is a purely subjective answer.Some people would rather be single than sacrifice their freedom[ a bit of adjustment becomes necessary in marriage even if the freedom is not grabbed from the partner].There are others who hate the thought of being single and they would not mind that bit of adjustment with the partner. We cannot come to sweeping conclusions . I know of both men and women who have chosen the state of bachelorhood and vice versa and are happy doing so.On the other hand I know that a person told me first hand that such a state did have its disadvantages of loneliness. Obviously the second person did feel the need for a partner. I din't think society really looks down on such people. First of all the society is made of relatives and friends. Close relatives and friends are able to understand the choice made by a particular person and they would normally be non invasive. if they are invasive these people who haev deliberately made the choice would not bother and would shun their company.On the other hand, if a boy or girl does not get married for some reason or the other/ no alliance gets through[this is more valid in the arranged marriage system]then people tend to gossip. In the current scenario , this is uncommon in the urban areas. I do not know about the rural areas..
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Aug 08
Personlly I feel that it is necessary. The one condition is that it should be a happy one. If one is to be saddled with trauma in married life then it is beeter for a aperson to be single.Better be safe than sorry.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Aug 08
Personally I feel it is necessary provided it is a happy one. Any day, being single is preferrable to a traumatic married life. Peace should not be the price you pay for marriage.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
thanks for very detailed answer. its true that it should be by choice of individual, not the society or others.
• Canada
22 Aug 08
Marriage, no. Companionship, absolutely. Irregardless, I don't think we should frown upon those who remain single. It is a personal and moral choice that everyone is entitled to. People will always need people but may not need to partner with them as a rule.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should always be personal choice
@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I think each person has their own journey in life. If you believe marriage is important, than you probably won't be happy until you are married. If you are happy to be single or even happy to be in a committed relationship without being married, that's what you should do. I don't think you should let society dictate what happiness is to you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
yes absolutely right. society should not dictate
@kassdaw (591)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Marriage is not necessary in life. Look at Hugh Heffner, he isn't married and couldn't be happier. That is proof the married is nothing but paper and legal benefits. If you are looking at "marriage" as... is love necessary for life then yes. You should have love in your life to fulfill your own happiness. But the institution of marriage is nothing to worry about. You can get by without it.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
i agree with you
@thestar (304)
• Egypt
21 Aug 08
i think this is depend on what other believe in . so for some ppl marriage is a basic pillar in them life to complete them life as the best way . and for others it is no necessary at all and when i think about that i reach to only one true that marriage just give the society the organize that its need it .
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should never be forced
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
If you're happy being single then so be it. It's not a crime to be single and be happy. you'll get married if it's time and if you have found the right person for you. Enjoy your singleblessedness.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
yes it should be this way only
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
i've never really believed of marriage as being necessary. two people can still be happy together without being married. to me, marriage is just a formality of the union of a couple. besides, if a marriage ends, there are all sorts of legal issues that you have to resolve. there are cases wherein it takes years before the marriage is dissolved, and sometimes it's even denied. i'm a pessimist and a cynic so i really don't think marriage is worth all the trouble. i'd be content just being with the person i love without saying the words "I Do". shouldn't "I love you" suffice?
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
i am not telling about living together. its different matter. i am telling about people who are single
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
yes i know. but i believe i answered your main question which is: "is marriage a necessity in life?" and my answer is no. i just elaborated and explained why i think so :) technically you're still single if you're not legally bound to someone.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Hi subha, [i]In life I guess it is, no one would like to grow old alone, from the saying "no man is an island"! not unless for the very busy persons whose career is working almost 24/7 and always with the people! it is always wonderful to go home and someone is waiting for us, to join us as well as whom we can share to have a great night![/i]
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
its good if you look at it this way. but its personal choice always
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
21 Aug 08
i don't think that it is a necessity for everyone. I personally feel that some people like to be single, while others are ready to settle down with another. My fiance and I are getting married next year.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
its true when people really want to marry other.
• Egypt
21 Aug 08
I believe that marriage is very important in the lives of everyone, it protects human from extinction as a result of marriage is breeding..also it is difficult to live alone in this life we need someone to be our side..and the man needs to woman and the woman needs to man this can be achieved only marriage...have a nice day.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
its the idea that varies from person to person.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I think that I would leave it up to personal preference. Each individual has the right to decide what their future has in store for them when it comes to making the decision to get married or not. Marriage is not for everybody. It is a give and take. There are sacrifices. I am married myself. It is not always a bed of roses. You need to enter into it seriously and without reservation. If anyone has any hesitation about crossing over into matrimony they should think strongly about it even more. I don't like to judge anybody. If you are happy being single that is fine. And if you choose to marry than that is fine. Marriage a necessity? Not necessarily.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should always be personal preference and not something forced
@amvinay (122)
• India
21 Aug 08
i am not sure about it as if now,but i fell 50 50 percent,when i beome 25 or 26 i think that will be right time to think about this ...if im settled well then i might go for it
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
thansk for response
• United States
21 Aug 08
Not necessary. I however may get married, not because i'll get looked down on if I don't but because I love my honey and i'd love to to the knot with him and spend the rest of my life with him. Besides I don't care what people think of me getting married or not, it is my life... :)
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Aug 08
it should be when you really want to settle down with someone. it should not eb forced