Will you throw something to your spouse when you are mad at him/her?

Hi youless, [i]When I am very mad to my husband, I will be talking and talking, lol! call it nag, I don't care as long as I can express..lol! I never tried throwing him anything yet or wish not ever..lol! I am just glad that he is the type of person who will tease you a lot in moment like this and he is just there laughing and when I will demand him to explain something, he is there to talk![/i]

If the pillow is made in cotton, I think it is Ok No worries! Ur husband will understand whatever u do.

I take it it includes your partner too! Yes loads of stuff I have thrown at my ex! My ex used to anger me so much and fustrate me that I used to get so angry that I would throw stuff, plates, vase, I even throw a cup of hot tea over my ex once, the cup smashed against the wall and the tea went over my ex, I even squirted my ex with blackcurrant juice once because I was so incensed and my ex loved winding me up and so I retaliated, I let my anger get the better of me, you think they would learn wouldn't you that if they push you, you will throw stuff, stop it!!!

I never done that in my life. I used to have arguments with my bf but I never throw things to him or anyone. I have seen those kind of things from parents and I don't like to do the same as it doesn't look good at all. I used to live and share the apartment with my childhood friend who is married nad has a child. She likes to throw things at her husband when she is mad, any thing that her hand will get. There was a time she throw a sacuer plate with cake to her husband. The living room and kitchen was full of icing cake. I was the one who cleaned up their mess because her husband left the house after that incident.

I am not married but I always thought that the best thing to do is for me Not to have anything fragile that I could throw at my husband.I wouldn't trust myself. Knowing me, I would throw whatever I could get my hands on.

LOL. does throwing something to your boyfriend being considered here in your discussion? I remember one time, I caught him looking at a girl. It was so irritating that I keep quiet and let him approach me.. then when he does, I throw him my bag and even slap him.(F.Y.I, we are actually inside the mall when this happens. that is why it's kinda embarrassing.).. I sometimes can't help my anger, especially if I keep it and don't let him know what I feel. but little by little I get to learn to express my anger, not by throwing things, but to shout. LOL.

That is a nasty habit to have. Today it may be just pillows and soft toys. Or even small object. What if one day you get so angry, you just do not care what you can grab to throw at him? And what happens if you happen to pick up a vase? Or a chair? Or worse still... a knife? Imagine the kind of damage that can occur? And if your spouse knows how to dodge and deflect the object thrown at him? What happens if the deflected object hit someone else in the family? Worst still, your son? Try to change this nasty habit. Cos when we are angry, we some times do not know our fury. And when that rage gets to the head, we may not necessarily know what we are throwing until the object leaves the hand and the damage is done. By then, it would be too late!

No... I would never do that... It will hurt us both, and since I really don't resort to violence when am mad... We just don't talk to each other, though we are holding each other together... It may somehow odd, but it is what we are doing, the reason that most people can't tell if we are annoyed with each other or we are angry at one another...

Hi youless! haha..That is kinda cute and funny! haha..Even if you are so angry with him, you still manage to think if what you will throw at him will hurt him or not. haha..You are so sweet dear friend. He is truly lucky to have you and I hope he won't make you angry ever again. haha..In my case when I get upset or angry at my husband, I just don't like talking to him and will spent more time in the bedroom but more often than not, he will always follow me after a few minutes or hours, depending on the gravity of the fight, and hug me. Then I will still be playing hard to get. haha.. Take care always..God Bless!

LOL, no I definitely wouldn't throw anything at him, I'm sure if I was mad enough I might throw something, but never at him. When my husband makes me mad I cry and clean LOL. I do my best cleaning when I'm mad, out of nowhere my usually fatigued body all of a sudden gets a burst of adrenalin and when I'm done I have a clean house LOL. Next time try punching the pillow instead of throwing it! I think you can vent more of your anger that way!

I have only ever done it once, and that was two years ago when he had just told me out of the blue that he did not think he loved me anymore and wanted to leave me. I had not long since given birth to our fourth child and so as you can imagine this did not go down too well with me. I ended up throwing a mug at him, contents included, I was so angry. Well after that things calmed down and we managed to sort through things so it ended well, gosh knows what I would have done if it had hit him, buried him under the patio I expect!

I do get mad from time to time with my husband. I try to avoid throwing any inanimate objects at him though. Just not good practice. Besides I like to curb any type of activity such as harsh words or throwing things. I have a young son who is very impressionable at his age. You could hurt someone unintentionally if your patience or anger gets out of hand. And later on you could regret it. Just think first is my tidbit of advice for you. Good luck!

Well its sweet how you mentioned shows your care and love for your partner even if you are mad at him. But as a nice opinion i would like to say that you must not do that, I dont know about you but as i am looking at this, the situation is in its infant stage of being aggressive. I sincerly aplogize if i am offending you but i think you must stop it before the Pillow turns into a flower pot and hurts your darling partner! I just dont want you to repent over what you did can lead to something serious too. You know habit once formed intensifies and creates negative innovative gestures sometimes in a relationship Have a nice day and let me tell you one thing You really love him alot thats true!

I also had a difficult fight with my boyfriend before. But I don't throw stuffs at him. Though we are having fights, throwing things whether it is light or things that won't hurt him will settle anything.

I think a person that does that to there mate needs anger management, they have classes for that, that is like domestic violence.

No I would never do that because I think that would create more trouble than being mad at him. I think it would be worse if I actually hurt him, because by that time it would be too late. If I ever get mad at him, I will talk to him about it instead *smiles*.

ONce when I was married I threw a pitcher of kool aid at my ex....never do that. It was such a mess to clean up! Sticky and sugary.....and all over the place!

I don't throw stuff but when I am really mad I would be very silent. I would rather have the person leave me for a while until I feel more composed and ready to talk it out. I would not even let the person touch me or hold my hand if I am very mad. I am the type who needs my space when I am mad. I also try to refrain from talking because I am afraid that I may say something which I might regret later on.

I used to quarrel with my husband and used to keep mum for few days never used to throw any object as he wasof a hot tempered man. He will kick me out if i do anything wrong inthat way. This was in 80 's and 90 's. after that he was not keeping well he never used to shout or scold. now i regret for everthing. I lost him this 29th may 08.

You are absolutely right that when a person is in control of themselves they can do things like this but it is very normal even with my wife before she do the same thing but Thanks God that she really changed for she promise for me to change and she did it for me and to my daughter and for sure you could also do it just control yourself and meditate when you are angry of something else...