no to broken family

Yes, I understand your sentiments. My parents quarrelled with each other most of the times and sometimes I felt that they were just going to get divorced. It was a nightmarish experience for me while growing up but eventually they have not separated. I don’t know what their issues actually are, (being their child, I have never breached that distance and asked them for explanation) but even now they erupt now and then and create the most horrible domestic scene as possible. However, for my personal selfish reasons, I am glad they are together…I would not really have been able to choose between them, testifying in court would have been a more horrible experience and my child (their only grandchild) seems to be so happy with both of them. So maybe your husband does have a point there…have you discussed this with your children? Never leave them out…they are very sensitive and you never know, they may actually accuse you of something when they grow up and see the world from their point of view.

Hi! I'm really sorry for what happened with you. A broken family might not be good for the children, but either is living in a 'hostile' environment healthy for them. It could be worse you know. I'm not saying that you go for separation, but honestly the way I see it, he has done so much damaged already. It's really funny that he suddenly thinks of the kids now, did he consider their welfare when he was doing all those 'stupid' things and 'enjoying' himself. I do hope everything will be well with you soon.

I agree with the person who says you're already part of a broken family. He's showing you he doesn't respect you and he's teaching that to your children, if you choose to stay, you're showing you don't respect yourself and teaching that to your children. Its not healthy to be in a relationship with someone willing to disrespect and BETRAY you and your vows this way. Before you found out, if he's been cheating from the first, he could've killed you. You have kids so at least a few times you had s%x without protection which means he could've brought home a disease from these women - home to you - innocent. He could've taken away, your life through disease or even your ability to have children. He obviously doesn't care for you.

deemple,I am very sorry for the pain that your husband has put you through.What does he mean, broken family? The family is already broken because of him!!It has always been broke. You can get a seperation or a divorce weather he wants it or not, you deserve to be happy, and so do your children.. You have grounds for divorce.He has been unfathful to you.He is crazy, who does he think he is?You do not have to stay there and take this mental abuse.You should talk to an attorney and get away from him soon, before you lose your mind. You deserve a man that wants you.

I'm very sad to hear that,u know mom, if only your husband knows what he doing,if he only can read what i wrote...His crazy,i already experience this kind of problem with my father, a traumatic situation stays on me...My father cheated my mother for 8 years since I'm in grade school to high school, in order to no broken family they stay together he leave his third party but we his children couldn't trust him anymore, even respect to him, i can't respect him anymore,but in a way to show to his grandson and granddaughter i try to respect him in front of my children.This situation give me a trauma, sometimes i think of different situation when my husband not here at my side even if his on work, I'm afraid that he can do it to me also as my father does.We're also arguing this, cause he always said that his different to my father, and i know it but i can't get off to think of it. I know what you've feel right now, you know what is right for you and for your kids, and you also said that you're a battered wife, if you stay at him your life can be miserable, for me we're there, we don't want to have a broken family but in that kind of matter we have rights, i think that your kids can understand it.Its hard to have a trauma like me..Do what is right?! God's always there for us...

I know what you felt,But can you give him second chances for sake of your kids and also he dont like a broken family then try again once then if it not work out then its enough.Its not nice to have broken family but it would be great if you have a family and always fight each other.

its not his choice.. it is better to have a broken family sometimes. then all the pain of staying together and being cheated on

i think he is just thinking about hinmself very selfishlty. may be he can make this for kids. but he is feeling insecure for the separation,. just ask him again

When somebody doesn't keep their part of a bargain then the contract is broken and its up to the other side to decide whether or not they want to continue. This guy just doesn't want the reputation that goes with a broken family. I sincerely empathise with you. You need to pray and go to God who will help you in this.

You are allowing him to have his cake and eat too. From your post its seems like he has been unfaithful to yo more than once. Don't stick it out anymore, you have feelings too, why should he do what he wants, then make you feel guilty that you want to separate from an unfaithful husband. How old are your children, if they are old enough to see what is going on, explain to them why you think it is best that you and your husband should separate. Your husband will keep you a prisoner forever, and continue to do what he is doing.

I believe that he wants to have his cake and eat it, too. I would not call a legal separation a broken family, divorce, yes. For your information, If you have always been faithful but your husband has not, you not only have grounds for divorce, but you can also remarry with a clear conscience. That is the one excep0tion that Jesus gave.

I am sorry this is happening to you. As for your hubby if he cares to have a whole family he should stop trying to break it up by himself. I think you need marriage counceling, even if it means going by yourself, and I agree with you, children need more security and peace than two fighting parents. Good luck!

No man is worth taking your life. A broken family is not what it would be. It is better for the kids if you separate, they sense the tension between you 2. Tell him if he didn't want a broken family he should not have betrayed you. Hang in there.

that's really crazy! if he don't want a broken family then why having an affair with somebody else. it's hard to handle that situation but if you surrender that to God and you'll pray constantly then God will make a way. just pray for your husband that he will be able to realize what he's doing and for you to have more patience and faith to hold on for the sake of your kids.

Just leave that man. I mean once a cheater, always a cheater. If he doesn't want to be friends, and civil for your childrens sake then forget him. Sounds to me like this is a seriously unhealthy relationship, and I think its better for your children if you seperate. I think your children need to be in a non/hostile/fighting environment and it sounds like that isn't possible if you to remain together. Hope everything goes well.

Well, if he doesnt want a broken family he shouldnt have broken itr then by cheating. You have to do what is best for you anc your children and you shouldnt have to stay with a cheater if you do not want to. You could try counseling but only you can decide if you want to give it a shot. You may want it just for yourself.

It's pretty bad.... yeah but if you guys don't want to fight anymore have you thought about going to a family councilor? try to work any problems you have??