How do you find a pessimistic person?

Foremost, I feel that I should be upfront about this, because personally, I don't know how to find a pessimistic person. But this does not mean that I don't know anyone who is a negative thinker. Because in fact, I do know some people who are pessimistic, particularly a few of my present officemates, in-laws, and relatives. For instance, my husband and I got married more than five years ago and during the first few months we just got married, we both decided to purchase livestock or put up a small business. Unfortunately, before we could bring this into realization, my father-in-law commented on a negative side and offerred an option which he personally thought was more worth investing our money with. My husband and I talked about it and after reaching another decision, we finally agreed to his father's option; but the basis of our agreeing to it was the thought that, "parents know better..." and this is partly due to our respect with our parents. Unfortunately, their suggestion of an alternative investment with our money proved useless. Our funds depleted, in contradiction to hoping that it will increase. Somehow, I do feel regretful about it and personally, I was not happy but was just convincing myself that it was bound to happen. Had we followed our primary decision, I believe that our cash flows would have been better. Anyway, regarding your dilemma, a lot of people and wives feel just like you do. They say that one should avoid pessimistic people but I know that this isn't applicable to your case, as he is your husband. It's adviseable, instead, to serve as an inspiration for him to be better and eventually see the good in every possibility. Remember to be a blessing to him and maybe, just maybe, this is your purpose why God gave you to him as his wife. Regards.

After reading your thread, i make a conclusion ... dear prettyD ... If your husband was a pessimistic person and you are optimistic person, then why don't you show your optimistic characteristic much bigger and stronger than you husband characteristic? How to make a bigger characteristic? Just proof it to your husband, your optimistic will bring high effect with your husband characteristic, and don't forget to prey ^_^ Just keep optimistic & never say give up ^_^ GBU

Hi there, Naturally it bothers me. Since like you, I am a very optimistic person. I believe that if something goes bad, there is still a bright side towards it.

Hi there! Personally I think negative thinkers lack confidence on themselves. They are afraid to try risk sometimes and that would prevent them from embarking into other opportunities in life. Maybe you should tell your husband to look always on the bright side to keep the blessings and good things coming in. There is a saying what you think is what you get. Its good that you're a positive thinker. You can break the flow of negativity. Ciao!