wanna love marriage or arrange marriage...!!

I come from the western world, and it's hard for us to understand the concepts behind arranged marriages, it's just not our tradition, but many many years ago it was more common, but that was in a time when property and family lines mattered more. I can understand some aspects of arranged marriages, but I could never have one myself. I want to know someone before I marry them, and I want to love who I know. There's a lot of men that I don't like automatically, imagine if I got stuck with one of those types, I would go crazy, I don't think I could learn to like some types of men, so I will go with the ones that I do like and perhaps form a great relationship with them in time. I have a boyfriend right now, and I can see myself with him for the rest of my life, and we do talk about it at times, it is a great feeling to love someone and make plans with them which is fueled by the love you share with your partner. Now if my parents were to decide I would not have that passion that I share with my boyfriend and I treasure it, it makes me feel as if there is so much more excitement in my life, I don't think an arranged marriage would give me that feeling so much as a love marriage. I'll take my love interests before my parent's interests any day, they would probably just find me some rich man that would never really give me true love and excitement anyway, just stable ground, and stable ground isn't the whole world to me. Well anyways, happy mylotting! And what would you prefer? That is if you don't mind me asking of course .

I'm white so we've always married for love. I understand why your culture does arranged marriages and yes, sometimes I see it that love marriages have more issues then arranged marriages but I feel that's because you actually know the person. You know for a while what they are like and when they change, this creates trouble. I feel that in arranged marriages, they work with less troubles because they are both scared to say anything as they don't really know the person like couples in a love marriage. I really feel though that everyone should be aloud to date and make their own choices on the people they choose to love and get married to. Isn't part of life making mistakes and learning by them. I don't think it's fair to be forced to marry someone that you don't know and don't even like. Dating is how you get to know someone. If you don't like them then you don't continue it. If you have to marry someone you don't even know, how do you learn to gain that trust and love for them? I couldn't see myself marrying someone that I didn't love and want to be with for the rest of my life.