About Parents...

I am still influenced by my parents, but much less so then when I was a kid. I think that it's appropriate for parents to have some level of involvement in their adult children's lives. But some people go over that line, at that point, it's time for the adult child to declare that their lives are their own.

The influence our parents have on us is life-lasting. They built the foundation that we stand on. As far as intruding, I don't think intrusion is permissable, but it also depends on your willingness to be coached. There were many times when I picked the phone up searching for advise, because they had been there before. I think the guidance they offer needs to be taken in perspective. And if an overbearing parent does intrude, discussion about an understanding is necessary.

my parents has a big influence with us. even if we are all married we still have their guidance and their reminder. we always have all their reminder with us. we even taught our kids according to how we grew up.

Wow, those are very good questions. I think mainly a parent's level of intrusion is based on how much the adult feels insecure about making their own decisions. I mean, for example, some people are afraid to make a decision about an issue, their parents gives some advice, the adult takes it so they can have someone to blame when it goes bad. They had no confidence in their ability to make the choice and didn't want to be responsible for the outcome. Which is kind of chicken if you ask me. Some people i think just can not get away from the apron strings. But basically a parent can only have as much influence as we allow them. Since we are adults and we have own on lives, families, jobs, etc. I would hope that I can give my daughter enought guidance to help her along, but trust that I've taught her well enough so that she won't need me to be intrusive. I don't want to appear as though I'm a busy body.