convert for love?

Actually this happened to me in a quite low key way. My wife is one Christian religion and I, at that time was another. Her parents were very orthodox and were expecting me to convert. I was happy to go with her to church, but I drew the line at that. In the end it was her priest that solved the problem. He explained that so long as I did not actively discourage her, and promised to bring up any children in the religion, then he would be happy to marry us. So that's what we did and it seems to have worked out fine. In the end, I became very disillusioned with all religions anyway. Our daughter is grown up and my wife still attends her church and I don't attend any church. Strangely enough though, I am a Guide at our local Cathedral!

No... Either they accept me for what I believe or we'll go apart... I think difference in religions or any other major beliefs will create more problems in a long run... With that, love we were in once could easily fall apart... Same concept applies to my belief in 2nd chances as well... If I were to break up with someone, going back for 2nds will only end up in same problems & issues... Now that's AFTER we've broken up... Not to say we can't work out our difference WHILE we're in the relationship... If those differences were bad enough to tear us apart in the first place, no use going back for 2nds... Religion, or difference of, is one of those things that can ruin a relationship, or tear one apart... People follow one religion or another for a reason... Those beliefs in different religions will surface in everyday lives, eventually...

No way. I wouldn't expect him to convert. For him to expect me to convert is him saying he doesn't love me all that much afterall.

Luckily my fiance and I have the same religious preference. We met online, through a friend, though. I don't think I could consider anyone from a different religious background as I Did have friends from a different religious background and they were more of an occult for my own tastes, and I did not appreciate being sucked in although unknowingly. I appreciate this discussion.

First off I wouldn't consider a relationship a "hit" until we met, as people can be anything or anybody behind the monitor. Typically after meeting someone if the differences are that major what you thought was a hit will soon fizzle. Personally I am not interested in making any major changes for the sake of a relationship. Nor am I interested in asking a person to make changes to suit me. If a person doesn't have certain qualities that I would be looking for I wouldn't ask them to change, I would continue my search for the person that has those qualities that I want.

i think i have to try it first than i can answer corectly lol :D hahaha kidding

Hi dawnald, hmmm...I don't mind about religion but I will not also convert easily! It will be lots of discussion with my family!

No, I think that what you believe is part of you. Even if you said you had; you still wouldn't really. I guess it really depends on the person. For me; I have really chosen to stay in a relationship with a person of a different religion; but I will not marry that person because of it. I wouldn't ask somebody to change their religion. Have you done that?

I even thought of this kind of relationship before. Of course I am already married and I don't have to say something or anything about this, but if this will happen to me and I am still available, I will still remain in my belief. I will not consider converting to her religion. I guess we all have different beliefs so if religion will not allow us to marry then we just let live-together. Anyway, marriage is just about papers and the law now considers illegitimacy of the children. (neildc @ red/89/1698)

I wouldn't convert to another religion because of the person that I believe I am in love with and that I believe is the one for me. I just don't think I could do that. I just would believe that God would not send me someone to marry who is basically stating that he won't get married to me because he won't date outside of his religion. I would inform him that I believe the same way and that I could not marry him, and even that I refuse to marry someone who is asking me to convert over to his religion because just so we could get married. So I guess that relationship would be over.

Part of converting is actually believing in whatever religion you are trying to join. Also personally, I believe in God (Jesus) so I couldn't go around denying my belief just so I could marry someone. I would probably be mad at the person for leading me on when they knew nothing could ever happen between us b/c I wasn't the same religion.

i dont think converting is necessary because when you are in love u love the pearson for what he actually is

If I absolutely love that person then yes. but you should question why doesn't her convert instead of you. unless he would do the same for you then you should convert. unless you don't have a religion then converting won't be a prob! good luck and congratz on your love!

well marriage is the best part and point in life. i agree with you about you are syaing "marrying outside religion". the christian wedding is the most memorable and one of the most expensive wedding thats why i would stick to a christian partner so that my dream wedding will be pushed through...

i would consider it. but would need to do lots of research on there religion, before making any decision. and then go fromthere

Well... except for the religion part, I have experienced this and things are just ducky. I don't know that I would still be interested if religion was brought into it because I don't want to be religious. If that were to take up a big part of a person's life, then I don't think the relationship could last. My question would probably be if they were willing to give UP religion for me. I know that sounds weird but that's how I feel.

Converting from one Christian religion to another maybe. Converting to a non Christian religion would be like asking me to give up my faith in God. I would never ask anyone to do that much less someone I loved. Nor would I expect someone who really loved me to ask that of me. Makes sense?

Well, seeing that I am not a religious person, I will not become one overnight, that person if they loved me would just have to love me for who I am and not judge his love based on what religion I am or more so lack. Why pretend that I am a certain religion, because I know I probably would not accept it in my head, I won't lie to the person I love, I want to be completely honest with them. The truth is I did meet someone online and we really hit it off, and we met in real life and hit it off even better haha, and thank god he is not religious either hahaha, and I will see him for a month this December in Sweden! Happy mylotting, and have a great night as well!

as LnP said you ahve to be a scot to understand.i married english and well enough said

Dear dawn, if the religion you are going to convert to .. does not split you from your family then you can go ahead if the religion restrict you from being with your family for reasons like, you cant eat the food there, they have alters in the house, cant attend your brothers wedding because it is in a holy ground ... then forget it i have a friend who converted into another religion.. he was not able to become the best man for his sisters wedding becouse his new religion forbade him i have a friend where the daughter were not able to celebrate christmas at thier house because it was a celebration for birth of christ i have another friend where the husband did not allow her to visit and eat at her parents house because they cook certain dishes .. so make the right choice ... don let the religion take you away from your family cheers