If you were pregnant, and you found you had cancer, would you abort the baby?
By snowberries
@snowberries (399)
Australia
August 22, 2008 6:57pm CST
My friend is 3 months pregnant, and she just found out she has stomach cancer. It's growing rapidly and the doctor's said if she wants to live she should abort the baby. However her and her husband tried so hard and for so long to get pregnant, she doesn't want to let the baby go.
It's a real problem because if she doesn't have treatment she could die before the baby is born, and if the baby lives it will not have a mother. Or, if she aborts the baby, she might not have another chance to have a baby because of chemotherapy.
If you were in this situation, what would you do? Or what do you think is the best way?
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5 responses
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I have always said I would opt for the baby no matter what. I would take the risk and continue the pregnancy. Unfortunately, it's probably the hormones from the pregnancy that help the cancer along. I have heard of such situations before. Your friend has a rocky road ahead, no matter what her decision will be. So sad..
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@snowberries (399)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
Even if it meant that meant you wouldn't live to see the baby born? If it was me, i'm not sure i could leave the father with such a huge commitment. He would have to stop working to even take care of the baby and the quality of life would be much less. It would be so stressful for him. I feel it's not just about the baby and my friend, it's majorly about the poor guy who's left behind with grief AND a baby to look after.
Thanks for your input :)
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
11 Sep 08
wow this is one heated conversation.
charlie is right though but on the other hand it is tough you are always going to doubt the decssion you made weather it was right or wrong i have always said i would chosse my baby over me but thanks to our lord above i never had to chose that with my kids and if i was put in this siutation i would like to say i would do what god has told us to do but i cant gurantee i would but still on the other hand i believe god will put nothing on our plates we cant handel
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
What a tough decision! You know what snow, I've always wanted a baby (when I do get married next year, I will start on that.) and it would be such a difficult choice to do if I'd have to abort the child. This would be choosing between the lesser evil I guess so I'd probably choose to not have the baby and take the risk of waiting once I get better (I'd have to ask the doctor of course what are my chances of recovery.) Sigh... Chemotherapy would definitely upset hormones but at least there would be a chance to have a baby without the mom being sick. I was thinking even if she does continue to have the baby, would the baby be safe with the mom's condition? Tough choice to make, my friend. I hope that whatever she decides on, people would support her. There'd be no room for regrets...
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@Riptide (2756)
• United States
7 Sep 08
This has got to be one of the toughest decisions someone has to face. I honestly can't say what I would do in a situation like this.
Has she looked at alternative treatments that wouldn't harm the baby?
I really feel for your friend and I hope that everything will turn out fine, because miracles do happen.
Never give up hope.
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
20 Sep 08
Hello,snowberries,It is a very difficult thing to choose, as a mother,we hope to have a children,He makes a happy family sourse,and he is the driving forse of our lives.But I don't think it doesn't worth to have a baby if it cost our life.If so,che child will lose his mother,and will not get good care of , It't not a good thing.And that there will be a heavy burden on the child for you lose your life.
There are mangy orphans in the world we can support one of their own as a child,so that we can engjoy family happiniss.
@Ina926 (172)
• United States
20 Sep 08
Some years ago, my cousin went to the Dr. because she was pregnant and was told she had cancer but, they couldn't operate on her because the baby was developing on the cancer so she was going to have to wait and see what would happen to her and her baby. Well, she started going to church and got through her pregnany with prayer and faith, she delivered a healthy baby girl. When the Dr. checked again for the cancer, her growth was gone. I know that everybody has his or her beliefs about God but, I beleive that the Lord saved her and her daughter.
