regrets in life

Philippines
August 22, 2008 9:55pm CST
I don't know if there's one person in these planet that didn't had a mistake and regret he/she had done it. I have so many mistakes, bump in the roads that I want to correct if possible. Just a minor fix will do because not having mistakes at all does not make you a better person. But there is that one thing you really need to change in your past life. So which do you regret in your past life that you would like to alter, or correct?
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
My main regret is not actually telling someone who was so special to me how I really felt before he passed away, he passed away so suddenly and this is why i tell people now don't hold back, tomorrow may never come..
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Live each day as if it were the last. That is a great saying that people misuse nowadays. Because there are some who do it in a negative way like having lots of girlfriends or simply tasting each one then leaving them. Thanks lilaclady.
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@Munchkin547 (2778)
23 Aug 08
My biggest regret in life is not carrying on at school when i was 16! i got nearly all A and A* grades in my gcses and could have done anything b ut chose to go out and work. I made it right by carrying on when i got older and am doing my degree now but i do sometimes think that if only i had done it sooner i would be qualified now and life would be more sorted! but i can't change the past, i just have to do the best i can now!! my philosophy in life though is you regre the things you do and not the things you don't so i try not to let opportunities pass me by! xxx
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24 Aug 08
It's really nice of you to say that, thank you! Well it was difficult to go back to studying after serveral years away from it but well worth it so if you get the opportunity you really should do it! For some people though finding a job and working their way up works better, my father never went to university but worked his way up i a company and ended up with a really good job, so it just goes to show that if you have the determination in life then you can achieve your goals and dreams one way or another - even with mistakes, everyone makes them!! take care xxx
24 Aug 08
Oh and thank you for the best response!! xxx
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
You are such an inspiration to me. I too am not studying for the moment, but given a chance to study again I will do in a heartbeat. I thnk you deserve my mark of best response.
@douchrti (176)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Nice question to ask here. So often we are so caught up in life, we forget to look back and reflect on how we can better ourselves for the future. What I regret, I wish I would have been nicer to my younger brother when we were growing up. When he hung around with us older guys, we frequently gave him a bad time. Looking back on that, I wonder if he remembers those times. We are close and have been for most of our adult lives, but it bothers me that I was mean to him long ago. It must have been hard on him. I need to tell him I feel this way,
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Thanks for the nice comment and for the nice story. I think you should tell him how sorry you were. Maybe he has forgotten it for it was long time ago but I think making amends with the past is quite healing not just for the other person but for you too. Again thanks douchtri.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I really don't have any regrets in life. Granted I have made my share of mistakes or bad decisions in life. But just like your achievements or successes, mistakes have there place and purpose in the bigger scheme of things. Sometimes mistakes put us on the right path. Mistakes teach the lessons for future success. Mistakes teach us the "what not to do's" of life. Mistakes promote growth and maturity.
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
And mistakes sometimes make us miserable. Sometimes it consumes our whole life and makes us crippled. Is that the right term? Mistakes sometimes makes us a better person or it totally breaks us. So be strong in life and you need to go on no matter what.
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@auntiedis (165)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I actually have two regrets in life. The first was giving up horseback riding for teen love. I was on the fast track to Madison Square Garden and then the Olympics, and I gave it all up. The second was not re-enlisting in the Marine Corps.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Awwww... if I was that maybe I too chose the path that you chose. The marine corps thing is not really my forte so I can't comment about that. But if that's want you want maybe you could still apply as a marine corps. Is that possible for your age? Anyways everything happens for a reason. You just have to go on living.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 08
im an IT by profession. i even had my masters to this field. but i was not able to full practice my craft. just lately that i begin to enhance my skills. this is because i love my job before. it didnt require much IT skills. so i become so comfortable with it. but on the other hand, it developed my leadership and management skills. partly, i regret why i didnt practice IT before. but i know God has a purpose why. i know He has something better in-stored for me.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Yes he does and he has made you flexible. More experienced in a lot of things. God always has purpose in the things that comes into our life. I too believe that and I know my time will come so as yours. Thanks for your comment chellymarz.
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• United States
23 Aug 08
I have a few regrets that I would change if I could. I made poor choices and did not consider others feelings a couple of times in my life. I don't want to go into those details. Some are painful some I am ashamed of. Those few things in my life are the only things I would change not only to ease my guilt but to maybe have prevented others pain.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
We are all humans subject to errors. What is good is if we admit the mistake and learn to say sorry for this and learn the good lessons out of it. Actually there is no use crying over a spilled milk. Instead of regretting mistakes in the past, the best way is to move on and do better in your life. I too have had lots of mistakes but I can't find of any major mistake that I would really like to alter. I believe all those mistakes were allowed by God in order for me to learn lessons. Those mistakes make me think better the next time around. They help me be more careful with my moves and decision. In totality all the past mistakes have made me a better person.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I'm actually pretty happy with a lot of mistakes I've made... I have been looking at that statement for few minutes after writing it down & it sounds a bit funny... But what I mean is, if I haven't made the mistakes I've made, I wouldn't know the things, or wouldn't have learned the things I have learned... I wouldn't really correct too many thing in my past life for that very reason... Live & learn, I guess...
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• India
23 Aug 08
Every body commit mistakes in life. Every one learns from his own mistakes What type mistakes you are talking about. Impurity, dishonesty,cheating or so on. I think if you have not willfully harmed and made injury to other's heart with your preplanned action, you need not worry about minor mistakes occurred in while struggling with life carry no means. Do not worry and enjoy the life like any thing.
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
Yup, one of the biggest regrets in my life is that I've not done enough for my aunt who passed away in 1999. She was dying from cancer; and was alone, since she was unmarried and had no family. We sent her to the hospital - the doctors weren't too keen on allowing her to go home; they knew that it was terminal. I wished I've done more, spent more time with her. The night she passed away, I was there but she was past recognising anyone. It is irreversible - this mistake of mine - and I'll live to regret it1
• United States
23 Aug 08
I really have no regrets. I have made mistakes, yes. I have taken the wrong path a time or two and had to go back and start over, but I do not regret any of it. Each mistake, each misstep along the way has brought me to where I am today. I cannot regret that, my life is good, and I am happy. I tell the people I care about that I love them, I do the things I really want to do. Before I retired from pharmacy, when something started to bother me, I would ask myself, "Is this something that I am going to remember when I lay dying?" If the answer was no, and it was 99% of the time, I had to let it go. There is one thing I do not want when it comes time for me to pass, and that is regrets.
@nizhama2 (295)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 08
So far I'm really satisfied for a lot of my decision in my life. I think I did great until now, but as a person, we are not perfect. There must be some decision that we made which we hope we can change it. One of my wrong decision - I guess - and I hope that I can change it is my decision not to complete my study at second degree after finishing my first degree. I got a good result in my first degree, and have a great chance to complete the second degree, but I chose to work first. After ten years I start back to study for my second degree, but it's too hard to go back to 'study world'. That is my story. How about you?
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Right now I stopped but how I wish I could study again. The reason why I stopped is financial again ofcourse. But I am looking forward to continue my studies just have to find a job so I could support my studies. Try to finish your second degree, doesn't matter if its been 10 years. Thanks for the response nizhama2.
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@tirror69 (43)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
my regret in life is when i meet the special person early as possible as i expected...sometimes with need to set of obligations in our life(i also did that), during that time i meet her but im in the midle of performing my obligation's,in order to survive i need to choice between them,sad to say i choicemy obligation,it does'nt mean that she's not important to me but i set my priorities so i need to perform it...
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@fwangaa (3057)
• China
23 Aug 08
yes,you are right,you will change your act if you regret the thing, then you will do it without regret,i have a lot of regret,so i must change my act to get rid of my regret to happened in this kind of things.
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• Philippines
24 Aug 08
yeah,..,mistakes is a lesson that can be learned,..,.,i have so many regrets in my life.,.,but those regrets are an obstavle that test a human if he/she can mangae her/his self..,.,.that then way of being a human here,m,min this world were moving.,.,.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Well the thing I regret the most is when I walked out to the stage and never look back to my band and let them wait for almost hours.I just can't imagine it anymore.I just realize it was all wrong throwing all the efforts I made.:-(