Being single is cool
By rhyannefranz
@rhyannefranz (770)
Philippines
August 23, 2008 9:40am CST
Is it? It's worry and hassle free, you don't have to please anybody, you just do whatever you want to do with your life. No hindrances, no rules and no limitations. But sometimes when you see two people holding hands don't you just envy them. So which do you prefer the single life or having someone to love
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@Dido1988 (28)
• China
23 Aug 08
I like the life with myself. Maybe one day,I feel lonely and hope being loved by one,but that will occur in the future.
Now,I am enjoying in my life,and control all my time.The most important,many friends care and help me, so I neve feel lonely.
How about you?
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I am committed now to a wonderful person. I love him so much and I know he feels the same for me. Being single doesn't mean you are alone, you still have your friends and families that makes you happy. Thanks for the comment dido1988.
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
It depends. If you find no love at all with any man, then i would say that it would be better to be single. Why complicate your life with someone you dont love in the first place. But if you fall in love with someone... wohoo... its a different thing. surely, there would be a lot of responsibilities, limitations, rules and pleasing... but im telling you, if you are doing it for someone you love, You would love doing it. Its no longer tiring and complicated, but a gift that you give to your love and to yourself.
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
So it does depend on the person really. If he/she likes to be single and it doesn't bother him/her to see people who are not single then go for it. And maybe this applies to all relationship, even with gays and lesbians right. Thanks for your opinion lucky_witch. So are you single at the moment or you have that special someone?
@ellie333 (21016)
•
23 Aug 08
Hi I am single too and at times I miss the intimacy of a relationship but at other times when I see the heartache and rows some of my friends go through in their relationships I think how lucky I am to be so independent. I think there are pros and cons to both. I am 45 now and don't want to be on my own forever. I would like someone that I could share my life with but I will not accept anything less than a mutual balanced relationship with no baggage. Perhaps I'm too fussy but I don't want to be controlled anymore. Ellie :D
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
Yup, I do miss those free and easy days, like you said - don't have to please anyone, go anywhere you like, come back anytime you like. And the most I miss, is the peace and quiet of being alone!
However, there are times that I enjoy - someone to share my happiness with, a shoulder to cry on, someone to watch horror movies with, someone to rant & grumble to. A few of the reasons why I chose married life!
@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Being married does ties your both feet and hands to responsibilities but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy and be happy. It is a gift rather than a curse. A gift that you shouldn't take for granted. I envy you for being married, wish I'll here my guys proposal in the near future. How did you do yours?
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@heroinelover (58)
• China
23 Aug 08
I can't agree with you more! Although sometimes I like watching romantic movies, I spend most of my leisure time on watching horror fiction or cartoons. And I often even don't know why I do the things I do. I can hardly suppose there's someone who can understand and be tolerant of my behavior.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
I think both have great things about them, but I like being in a relationship for 5 years now. It's good to know that you have someone to come home to, someone that loves and cares for you and that you can love and care for, someone to spend you time with. Not just a partner, but a best friend that is around all the time.
I don't feel limited, I can do a lot of stuff on my own and so does he, we have seperate friends and we also have couple friends we see together when going out. I don't feel like I've lost a personal life and I never want to do that.
I do prefer being together, but only in a very fullfilling relationship.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
25 Aug 08
I had a hard time at first when my boyfriend went out with his friends but now I am used to it and it's better. Perhaps also because we live together and I get to see him every day; it's easier to share if you see someone 7 days a week then when you see them one or two nights and he goes out one of those two nights.
I guess a lot of woman are possive, I must say I didn't like it when I saw a girl who was trying to flirt with my boyfriend. I was there and I saw he didn't make any moves, he was just talking with his friends looking the other way. Not interested at all. But I couldn't help walking up to him to give him a cuddle to have it cleard up that he was allready taken *blush* .
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Not me, if I see him with another girl who is flirting him. I'll probably approach her then smack her right on her face. And pull my boyfriend out of there.
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
5 years is really a long time and I hope my relationship stays that long. I consider my boyfriend as my friend to I try to tell him everything about me. But there's one thing I don;t like about myself. I am possessive, I don't allow him to go out with his friends, I want him to go home early from his work so that he could check up on me everyday. That are the reasons why we frequently quarrel.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
It has its advatanges and disadvantages. Now that your life is full of energy and vigor you wouldn't mind doing it on your own. But in life, it does not stay that way. There will be a time in your life that life would slow down and you would see a different perspective in life. A life that need a partner in life.
Enjoy your life right now and eventually you will see what I am telling you in time.
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Depends on the moment. I don't usually -want- love, but occasionally I wish I had someone to love, you know?
But actually, being single's pretty good. Less stress in the long run too.
I'm fine with it mostly. ^_^
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Well I hope you'll find that special someone that you can grow old with. It's nice to have someone that you can share your life with.
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
hehe.. as of now, i am single.. i prefer it this way.. hassle free. free to go anywhere..
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
hi ryan, guess this questions were only meant for single individuals and it does make me not qualified to answer this question. LOL! Still, i want to give my part of the story (smiles). Yeah true being single is cool but I really like my life as married now than being single before. It's really wonderful to be with someone we love and be with the person that makes us complete. Someday when you find someone who would complete you as a person you'll understand me. ^_^
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
So does it mean I am not also qualified to comment here. Ofcourse not. Everyone is welcome to give their comments and I am trying to read them one by one carefully. I rate them on how I perceive them. Being in a relationship makes you see a new colorful perspective. But being single has rewards too.
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
If I may ask are you married also? Yeah well, i guess everyone is entittled her side of story...
@nizhama2 (295)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 08
I prefer my life now, be a husband to a wonderful women with a lovely three years old son. Compare to my life when I was a single, I'm more happy now. Sometime my wife or my kid give me some headache, but it is still better 'million times' then my single life. I think the most important thing is 'happiness', if you have it in a single life, so nothing to worry about...
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@saroodebolan (408)
• Pakistan
24 Aug 08
hmmm.. yess being single is really cool... you can do wht ever you want... to tell you the truth i was a very daring person... but now that m maried... i have to be really care ful, because my husband loves me so much... and i can not afford to do some thing that is harmful for me....
i love my life having a lover... but still i miss tht life being single.... coz i could do wht i wanted
@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Congratulations being married and all. What do you mean by the word daring? Well you should take good care of him, and love him each and every day of your life. And in return he will love you till the end of your days. I am always positive in looking at life and I love happy endings. So again Congrats, thanks and Good luck to you and your husband saroodebolan
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@saroodebolan (408)
• Pakistan
25 Aug 08
well i used to do dangerous things, adventrous type... can not do it coz i cant afford to harm my self...than alot for you comment dear... n thankz for your wishes
@SCORPIONTKM (24)
• India
23 Aug 08
Being single is cool..I agree with the statement.It gives you a lot of freedom.
@Peppersquirrel (437)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Being single is very important to me, because I do not want to deal with men and they totally stress my life. The only I am not very happy about is being jobless, job hunting from place to place everyday, and having to depend on my parents to pay my bills.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
24 Aug 08
having someone to love shouldnt have hindrances or limitations. if it does.. yer with the wrong person. being with someone shouldnt change who you are or the things you like. be with someone who is compatible with the person you are truly happy with being.. who is happy with who you truly are.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
24 Aug 08
yes i agree.being single is cool but there are times you need someone.i have been there but being a single sometimes very lonely.friends arround you it helps only few hours and thats all.its my opinion have a nice day.
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@steeleIC (107)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I definitely prefer being married to being single. When I was single I was always lonely. I felt like there was a half of me that was missing and I was always looking to find it. When I met my hubby I knew he was the missing piece to my puzzle of life. We've been together over ten years now and I couldn't be happier because he is my very best friend in the world.
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