Losing a friend
By Barb42
@Barb42 (4214)
United States
August 23, 2008 4:45pm CST
Have you ever lost a friend? Was it to death, a bad experience, or just moving on to different interests?
I lost a school mate that I had known all my life a few years ago. She and I no longer lived near one another but in different states. But we still kept in touch with one another through email or by phone. I talked to her just a few weeks before she found she had esophagus cancer. I knew she was having problems, but her doctor didn't think it was anything to worry about. And, when she passed away, I was totally shocked. I had talked to her older sister who lives in my state not too long before that and she thought she was doing good. But, when her daughter emailed me to tell me the bad news, I could not believe it.
I also lost a cousin with whom I was good friends. My husband and I were in the Air Force and away from home. She got married, and in 7 months she was dead from cirrhosis of the liver. She was very young, only 24. We came home for the funeral and it was a very sad occasion.
And now, one of the friends I've made on mylot has left. I just hated to see her go. It won't be the same around mylot, for sure! I always looked forward to those discussions and comments of hers. And I enjoy her emails, but that isn't like 'seeing' her online every day. I know she's busy, but hopefully, she will find a need to come back online and check in with us! It's hard to do without your friends, right?
3 responses
@sassysammy81 (369)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Yes losing a friend is horrible,I lost a very good friend a few years back and when I found out i was very upset about the situation.I had lost contact for about a year with him,due to I moved out of state,but that don't change your hurt when you find out something happens to loved friend for many years.
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@Anne18 (11029)
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23 Aug 08
I lost a friend a few weeks ago because something happened and she wouldn't talk to me about it even though she had said a few weeks before that I was her best friend and that she could tell me anything.
I was really miffed about it but now i know i am better off without her and i know she is worse off without me but i am better without her in my life. But I will speak to her if and when I see her by just saying hello
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I know it hurts when someone is hurt and can't talk to their best friend. Sometimes I wonder if that person was really a close friend. I've always heard there is a friend for all seasons, just not that all are for ALL seasons in your life. We are sometimes blessed with a friend, though, that turns out to be the friend of a lifetime. I do have a really close friend in real life that I met when our children were young. Her husband worked for the same company that mine did, but he got moved to another state and we lost contact with one another for years, other than an occasional card or my husband talking to him through the company. But, then my husband went to retire and had to go to the same state/town where he worked. So we got acquainted again and her husband retired 7 mos later. Now we live within 35 minutes of one another and stay in touch constantly by phone, email, or eating with one another. Thank goodness, her husband and mine are friends, as well.
@kittenmc (464)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I sure hate that you have lost 2 good friends like that. {{{HUGS}}} I have lost a few friends over the years. Some were distant and some close, but still sad to see them go. Here lately I have missed Mylot friends and my blogging buddies because I am taking care of my sick mom. So, I do know what you mean when you say you miss your friends.
