Have you ever delete one of your friends because of objectionable content?
By dragon54u
@dragon54u (31634)
United States
August 24, 2008 8:49am CST
I'm not shocked easily but this morning I was. Some posted something very graphic and I immediately deleted them from my friends list. Perhaps I was too hasty, but has anything ever led you to delete a friend other than their not responding and supporting you?
Are you offended by graphic content or do you just shrug it off?
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16 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Aug 08
yes, i have once. it wasn't anytrhing grapic it was her attitude. i felt like she was looking down her nose at me. she's always whining about not having any money & threw it up to me that she was pysocologist. if she's so smart & knows so much why is she broke all the time. i wouldn't get on here & try to mooch off preople if i didn't have a penny to my name.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Well, it takes all kinds to make up this wonderful world, doesn't it? Good thing about the internet, you have a choice of who to associate with. The one I deleted was a nice person, it was just a real shock to see that in my inbox!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Aug 08
it certainly does & i believe it gets worse all the time. really some strange folks out there. greetings from tennessee.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I am offended by some graphic content but I won't delete a friend just because of one discussion it would have to take more then that. Now if they kept writing the offensive content over and over then I would seriously think about removing them. You have a right to the way you felt and you felt justified in deleting this person. If you feel you took actions to soon then just re-add the person to give them another chance.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I probably will. I looked at their other discussions later this afternoon and while they aren't really substantial they're non-offensive.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
And you probably won't. Things are pretty nice here, the people are great. This post just shocked me and I reacted before I thought much about it. The person is really very nice.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I'm not too worried about objectional content. I just shrug it off unless that content breaks some kind of law somewhere. I think American's are a bit uptight about things when other countries have had far more objectional content on their televisions for years. I just think American's have a lot of issues with a lot of things. I think those other countries are doing fine despite what people think about that sort of content ruining countries. I just don't think some of it is such a big deal.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Yes, we are definitely still rather puritanical on a lot of things. The younger people are more relaxed--too much so, to my thinking, but every generation has said that!
@metalhalo (599)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I wouldn't delete someone based on a graphic discussion. What might be offensive to you may be the "norm" for someone else. This site is for people to strike up conversations about their own curiosities or questions that they have just about life in general. Deleting them because you didn't agree with their topic of choice seems a bit judgemental.
Of course there's always going to be those who try to push the envelope as far as possible. They think the shock factor will get them more responses. Sadly..in most cases it works.
You can either ignore that type of discussion and respond only to the ones that peak your interest or delete the person and continue on deleting people..because somewhere along the way everyone is going to have different views on things than you do.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I think a lot of people don't realize that they'll have to put in some serious time, about an hour a day at least, on here if they want to rake in thirty or more dollars a month. Or they make a bunch of friend requests thinking those people will participate in their discussions and don't do the same. Most people here, though, are good at the team work it takes to enjoy ourselves while making some cash.
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I would probably delete a friend if they posted something graphic or derogatory about me, but not if they were doing it in general. I've had a few friends who were a little over the edge here on Mylot.
I have deleted friends for constantly being negative on every response, though.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I haven't come across anyone that consistently negative, thank goodness. It's a cheerful bunch of people here and very few are looking for an argument.
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I guess it would depend on what it was and my mood at the moment. I don't appreciate seeing that sort of thing here and can normally stay away from where it might appear, but I know it's not always possible.
Would I delete a friend because of it? Refer to my first sentence.
Friends on myLot are more than just friends, they also help us increase our revenue. If you start deleting everyone you don't agree with, you will have a much smaller list and few people to read/post to your discussions, and it will also limit the discussions you see that you can respond to. I was just going to comment on a photo I saw that another of my friends commented on, and I couldn't because I wasn't that person's friend. They lost out on that deal.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I guess I'm becoming a bit prudish in my old age, but it was pretty graphic and I don't care for that sort of thing. Also didn't think before reacting.
Too bad about the photo! Did you send them a friend request? I do if the person is interesting.
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@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Oh, I'm not judging you, and I might have done the same thing, again, depending on what it was and my mood at the time. No sweat, sweetie ...
Actually, I thought I WAS friends with the one that posted the photo I was going to comment on, so maybe they deleted me. I just started a discussion about that, based on several discussions I've read recently.
(But yes, I did send her a request anyway).
@GreenMoo (11833)
•
24 Aug 08
I've not deleted anyone from my friends list yet. I've never found anyone's comments to be distasteful or too graphic just yet (though I haven't yet read all of today's discussions, so I might do later on LoL). Something would have to be pretty offensive to make me want to delete them if they're posting were generally interesting, something offensive in a prejudicial way rather than anything else I think. Otherwise I'd normally just delete the discussion or comment and move on.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
That's what I should have done, just deleted the discussion. You have a lot cooler head than I do, I tend to react before I think! I have passed on discussions before when I have nothing to contribute. I'm surprised at myself that I was shocked by a discussion. I've been around the block a few times, as they say, and thought I wasn't capable of feeling that way anymore!
@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Aug 08
hi dear i have never done anything of that sort so far..actually never needed to do so..and i wouldn't really delete anyone because all have a different way of thinking what i might think objectionable might not be obscene for someone else so i would rather ignore it and not delete...not necessary all my friends and i think alike so i would ignore what i cannot relate to..i have not seen anything graphic here till now so i don't really know how exactly it would be ..but most probably i would shrug it off..what you did is also fine as it offended you..i would all the same again never delete any friend for not answering my discussions or supporting me at all it is their choice..take care dear and Cheers to our friendship..sorry about this long break..take care
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I didn't know I was such an old prude!
Thank for the reply, good to have you back!
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I have never deleted a friend. I really do not remember who my friends are, they request, I approve and that's the end of the friendship They do not respond to my discussion, I respond to their's more.
But, yes, I am offended by vulgar and graphic content.
In my opinion, I do not consider Mylot to be a site like that. There are many sites that would be geared toward such content.
Some people use Mylot as a way to entice other's.
I did see a discussion by a female last night, that was rather inappropriate, could be what you are referring to.
I find it offensive and unacceptable.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
We do have a section for that stuff and I generally avoid it but I have all my notifications turned on so I saw this one. I guess I'm just an uptight, stuffy person.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I should've done that. I asked the question because I felt guilty about deleting someone because of one post. I'll not be so quick in the future and do as you've done.
@coolcancy_nh (80)
• India
24 Aug 08
first i will ask him about the reason....i.e,....why he has done that..... if he has done it without any wrong intention....but just fr fun....then i will advice him(not to do that again)....... if he is my frnd, then he will surely nt let down my words..... nd will do watever i said......
nd if he will do it again after my repeated warnings....then i will surely delete him b/c he is nt respecting our frndship, therefore he is nt my frnd....
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@coolcancy_nh (80)
• India
25 Aug 08
hey don't worry......this depends on our mindset nd the situation at that particular time........m also nt sure that i will do whatever i said earlier.....
but still....i will say that, it is necessary to know his intention before deleting him....tc:)
@SummerChick (513)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
No I won't. My first reaction would be a message to him/her wut's the message all about. And if I really find it so offensive then I will just delete the message but not the person's name on my list.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I'm not sure my reaction was right, I probably should have waited.
@JocelynJiang (17)
• China
25 Aug 08
I agree with SummerChick if the person who send the message is my friend.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
25 Aug 08
No, I have never deleted a friend because of this. Though you never know, this might change. However I did delete a mylotter off of my pending friends request page because of some comments that was uncalled for on a couple of discussions I had started.
As far as graphic content goes, I usually just shrug it off.
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@successlog (3172)
• China
25 Aug 08
Hello dragon54u
I have joined mylot for about 2 months.I have make a lot of friends here.and every day, i can receive some friend reques in my account.It is encouraging to me to get these messages.I also always send the friend request to the ones who i respond their discussions or they respond me.I never delete one of them since them.I always try my best to respond their discussions which i could deal with if i am interested in the content.of course, if not,i will don't respond.I think i can make friends with all people with my pleasure.Just discuss with our same points,drop the difference.It is the better way to communicate with people.It is my opinion.
good luck