Marrying someone of different religion and culture
By pinkytabor
@pinkytabor (818)
Philippines
August 24, 2008 12:17pm CST
I fell in love with a man who is a Muslim ( i am Christian) and is a foreigner in my country. I was a liberal, open-mided girl while he's conservative and though he's open-minded too, he has high moral standards. I like to wear "smart" fashion which he considers not modest. We were like oil and water; circle and triangle; unfit, mismatched. But we were in love...
Now we are married and have two beautiful baby boys, a one year old and a two year old. Guess what our marriage is going through now...
Tell me, would you do the same? Have you done the same? What happened after the "falling in love?"
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
My wife and I are not of different religions (Well sort of but are both different Christian faiths) but we ARE of different cultures and nationality. I am a Westerner and she is Asian. Thankfully though we do share many similarities and opinions! To top all of this off we are also living in Egypt at the moment which is a predominantly Muslim country. Before this it was India for a year where we had to learn to adapt to a Hindu culture! We too are very much in love and together have had to integrate ourselves into different cultures so many times now it's not funny! Any relationship is always all that we make of it; and as long as it is also always a two-way street and both people are working together as one then love will always prevail as far as I am concerned!
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@pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
i guess i have figured something out from what you said. Love is in every religion and in every culture. if we truly love each other and are not just "in love", then that Love would be our uniting factor which will prevail against these untying factors. ( religion and culture can untie us from each other, right?) :)
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
Religion and culture CAN untie us yes; but true love and true committment to the betterment of each other WILL overcome! The challenge does not always come from the two in love that are different in these ways; it is generally opposition from those around us that casue the problems unfortunately. Love is love and knows NO religion, no caste and no culture; yet many of the more rigid people in society are hell bent on ensuring that we are all as similar in faith and culture as is humanly possible. The key for any intercultural or inter-religion marriage is to gain acceptance not just from the respective families but from society as a whole in some countries. It is a sad and very small minded attitude in my opinion for people to be this way but they are what they are. ESPECIALLY when it comes to religion. All I am ultimately trying to say is that as long as you have full trust, committment, support in each other, you will gain strength from each other and these barriers WILL eventually fall.....
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@pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
You are absolutely right! But i thank God that my husband's family is so wonderful and nice to me. My mother in law is an amazing mom. I guess this is also one factor that affects marriage - the inlaws. It is really a blessing to have good in-laws. :)
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
26 Aug 08
Hi. I am Vidhya(Hindu). I loved a Muslim guy. Now the relationship broke. The problem is not in between us. Both of our parents are not interested because of all the facts that you are facing now. The main question that they asked us is about our children. Just realized that inter religious marriage is not that easy and when it comes to muslim, its not possible. Definitely the other person must change into muslim. All the best for your and your kids future.
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@pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Thank you Vidhya.
It's true that inter religious marriage is not easy but it could be both a learning experience for both parties and very challenging too.
@sachin_vas (24)
• India
25 Aug 08
hi pinkytabor,
friend i like to told u that when some one in love then religion doesn't matter at all.
once they have decide that they can spent the whole life with each other joyfully than how religion can be the decider for their entire future.
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