friendship or love?
By yashassid
@yashassid (208)
India
August 24, 2008 1:10pm CST
Me and my friend share a friendship bond of 10 years, we both are classmates since childhood. Now he got a girlfriend and spends all time with her and we hardly speak once or twice in a week. I got a girlfriend too and I do understand that relationship but he means the most for me. So tell me is there anything that I can do to make him realize our FRIENDSHIP?
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Does LOVE really separates FRIENDSHIP?
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5 responses
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
First off, welcome to mylot!
Thanks for opening a quality topic, I'll do my best to give a good response.
Love can sometimes seperate friendship when one friend envies the other or can't understand how much they are involved in their relationship. On the other hand, a love can consume so much time that it's not a bad thing to ask where things are standing and that you would love it if you could spend some more time.
Perhaps you could also try double dating? Bring along your girlfriends and go out or something like that, it could improve the relationship between the two girls also.
If you are understanding and he is aswell it will get better over time, a new love allways takes up more time then after the crush has gone and turns into actual love and a relationship.
It's allways a good thing to share your thoughts if something bothers you, he's your friend so he'll understand, you want the best for your friendship.
Take care! .
@yashassid (208)
• India
24 Aug 08
thanks for helping me out you got a valid sentence "A new love always takes more time then after the crush has gone and turn into actual love and relationship"
That's true...
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
Thanks, I'm glad I could be of help.
If you need any help getting started with mylot don't hestitate to ask .
@GlitterExplosion (415)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I find it sad when good friends start to ignore your friendship in pursuit of other things, such as a relationship or a crush. While spending time with you lover is important, you can't forget about the other things in life. Friendships are important. It's rude to push people out of your life just because you are getting lost in the passion and love of a relationship. I am not saying your friend should stop spending time with his girlfriend, but the fact that he barely talks to you is not a good thing. It is not a good sign. The best thing to do is to e-mail or call him, and talk to him about it. He might not he realize what he is doing.
@GlitterExplosion (415)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Give it time.
Give him time.
If he truly cares about you as a friend, he'll contact you. If a friend stopped talking to me, I would be worried.
@yashassid (208)
• India
24 Aug 08
Yes I have tried speaking to him about this, but Love is making him blind.
@pp_earn (210)
• India
24 Aug 08
No, Love really never separates friendship from anyone.If you have proper coordination between love and friendship,things go fine.All you need is understanding and care for everything.You should have time for both friends and love too.If you want your friend back,you should talk with him about the matter,give him gifts,let him remember about the past when he was with you and let him realize that you also need him,things will definitely go fine.Best of luck.
@Raja_Franklin (683)
• India
24 Aug 08
Generlly love does not seperate friendship, but sometimes it happens.