What would you do if your mother-in-law is so mean and pushes you to the limit?
By simplychic
@simplychic (41)
Philippines
August 24, 2008 2:11pm CST
What would you do if you'd have a mother-in-law like that? Would you still continue respecting her for the sake of your husband, or would you fight for your right?
To those who are having that kind of experience, i bet they're really in a tough situation and it is a major decision to decide what to do. It would be easier if your husband is mature, fair and just. But if he's not, he would only look at you as someone showing disrespect for his mother, and worst, the situation may turn against you. However, if i would be in that kind of situation, at first, i would just ignore it for the sake of my husband. But if she would continue what she's doing, then i would have no choice but to fight for my right.
4 responses
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
24 Aug 08
But her in her place in a diplomatic way. My mother in law disrespect me in a way that I didn't like and I show her another side of me that she didn't know did exist. Now she talks to me as if I am her daughter. To tell you the truth I don't respect her because she makes that happen by herself. Her son was upset about it but I never told him to choose between us because she is his mother but the bible says that the man should leave his mother's and cleave on to his wife. If you are not strong those mean mothers in law will disrespect you and makes you to be mean and miserable. Talk with your husband and make him understand what is happening with the relationship between his mother and you. If he does not show any interest then speak with some member of the family that she loves and ask he/she to intervene. If this does not work out then take it in your own hands. You are married so you have to take that in consideration.
All the best.
@simplychic (41)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I believe that what you did was just right. It is indeed in the bible that in marriage, man and wife are united as one and that the man should leave his parents and cleave and love his wife above anyone else. Thus we, as wives, don't deserve such meanness from our mothers-in-law. If we're not doing anything bad to them, they don't have the right to make our lives miserable. Since you are the wife their son married, you are already a part of their family, and so, you deserve to be accepted and loved by them and everyone in their family. Thanks for sharing your experience. Wish you too, all the best. :)
@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
31 Aug 08
I would do the same as you. Deal with it for the sake of my husband but if it continued to go on, stand up for myself and fight back. Wouldn't be afraid to tell my husband what I really thought of his family. It's not disrespectful, it's being honest and standing up for yourself. And besides, you are his wife.
@joimarquez (1836)
• United States
26 Aug 08
oh my gosh..if this happens to me im pretty sure im gonna rebel...i cant have anybody pushing me to my limit and just ignore it..i would fight back and show her im no pushover. if my husband hates me for it, fine but he has to see it on my point of view too. good thing that i dont have those kinds on in-laws, my ex-husband's mom wasnt like that at all..she thinks of me as the daughter she never had (thats what she always tell her friends about me hehehe) and now my husband's mom gonna visit us for the first time but im not worried coz we get along on the phone and emails. wish me luck hehehe.
@aidenofthetower (1814)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Sadly this was the situation with my mother and my husband. It is a horrible thing to have to deal with, no matter which side of it you are on. My husband didn't fight with my because I didn't want him to. This was for both of them, but it caused a lot of issues and I always felt like I had to protect them both (especially him since my mom can be quite venomous). She lived in our house and it was the hardest year of our entire lives. It is important to try and stay in touch with the spouse, that is most important because that is who you are married too. Try not to make him or her feel like they need to choose sides because that can be hard for many people, but remember that the two of you are married and evil mother-in-law aside you have a life to live.
