do you keep things to yourself?
By jhl930
@jhl930 (3601)
United States
August 24, 2008 4:31pm CST
i know in a relationship i have always been the kind of person that will tell my other whats going on in my life and about basically anything she ask about, thats just me i don't really keep anything to myself unless someone tells me to just keep things to myself and then i won't say anything, but i have heard of other people that keep secrets and its not bad secrets i don't guess its just things that are going on with them that they don't tell their other about, is that normal, do you do that, and did you do that before you got married maybe when you were just dating that person, what is your opinion? thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and i hope that you decide to respond, and i hope that you all have a great day, and evening and the rest of the weekend is great as well!
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6 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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24 Aug 08
I have a lot of things that happened in my life before I met my hubby that he knows nothing about. Mostly because I do not really want him to know and mostly because they were things that happened before he came along and I do not really see that he needs to know.
I do keep things to myself sometimes now unless they are really bothering me, not because I dont trust him but just because that is the way I am. I tend to try and deal with things myself and do not tell anyone.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
27 Aug 08
Sure I do.
I tend to keep most things to myself. I simply can't trust anyone and I can't even trust myself sometimes.
Normally I will let go a bit and start sprouting nonsense when I am in a melancholy mood or simply drunk. Then I will regret it a bit later on since people can't keep secrets.
@dementia88 (900)
• United States
24 Aug 08
in my relationship i dont keep things to myself. and ithink of i did it would show me that i wasnt in a good marriage. but with friends ships and family i do. i have a hard time trusting people, so i tend to keep somethings to myself. the only one i am completely open with is my best friend and my husband
@wendy1980 (131)
• China
25 Aug 08
If the thing is not relevent to my honey,I will keep it to my self.I never told him things about my work,but if he asked me ,i will tell him.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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27 Aug 08
Hi there jhl930
I am a bit like that. If someone tells me not to say anything then I don't tell anyone but if they don't say that then I assume it is no big deal if I tell anyone. It's not like I am a gossip or anything because I don't rush off and tell the next person I see but I would talk about it if it came up in a conversation.
@beatrizguiselle (1118)
• Spain
24 Aug 08
hellow there jhl930! I do believe you have to keep things to yourself. Im not saying EVERYTHING. What i mean is just let your honey know things that are important, or of relevancy. i do tell my honey everything all the time, but if one of my frieds tells me to keep a secret, and this does not involve my honey at all, then i dont tell my hoeny what i was told. My point it all depends on the situation you know....It could b e something you should tell, or something of low importance that you must keep to your self as it could be important to the other person who told you. And just to add somthing else... It would't feel right if you told any of you friends a secret, then that friend goes ant tells her/his girlfriend/boyfriend....What i mean is, its a trusting issue. and i believe that TRUST is a must in ANY relationship, and that includes friends who told you things (that you should keep to yourself). Anyways, Thats just my point of view ;)
And you too have a great day!
