Not Friends After The Marriage?
By TheCarter
@TheCarter (369)
United States
August 24, 2008 10:59pm CST
I had the strangest rash of disappearing friends. I had friends that used to literally camp out at my house for weeks! We would go everywhere together and do pretty much everything together. We all liked doing the same things, I saw no reason we couldn't be friends for life. I got married and I stopped hearing from them. I come around and they leave. Did I violate some code of brotherhood by getting married? I thought we were cool, what happened? You ever done this or had this happen to you? Please share your experience.
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5 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Did you violate the code, well yes. Have you ever heard the expression " bros before hos"?Or the song / " Those Wedding Bells are Breaking Up that old gang of mine"? Maybe they thought they would be cramping your style with the Mrs.Or they just let you go because they assumed that since you are married and they are not , that you don't have as much in common. Or you are automatically not free to do the same things at the same time you used to.Suggestion, check it out with the Mrs. first , and then pick a night and call up the old gang. Maybe they can come over or you can meet up and play poker or watch a game or go to a sports bar.Make thast night your night out with the fellas.
@TheCarter (369)
• United States
6 Sep 08
There is just no love there anymore. I almost feel like a stranger now. One of my other friends says it is because they are all attracted to my wife so they stay away. Do you think that is possible?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Yes. That could be true.One or all could be attracted to the Mrs. so they stay away. The problem is you will never know until you ask them. But if you feel like a outsider,you may never get the chance. I am so sorry. It is sad when you are not as close as you used to be.
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
25 Aug 08
Hi carter, I think he was trying to give you time to settle in your life and then you also forgot.. you should have contacted him.. thanks and enjoy :)
@gemini_rose (16264)
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25 Aug 08
Yes this happened to me, I too lost all the friends that I had once I became married. Its funny how that happens, it is like they do not feel comfortable being friends with a married woman anymore. It was not long before they had just all disappeared without a trace!
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I haven't been in this situation because I've never been married. But I have read a lot about the disappearing friendships after being married. It seems like the married couples flock together and hang out while the single people stay together. And I don't know why this is. I guess after you're married you are seen in a different light by your friends. I can't honestly give an exact reason.
@magna86 (1786)
• India
25 Aug 08
enjoying life being a bachelor and enjoying life as a
married fellow.. is totally different!!! the former has no limits at all. but the later has endless limits!!! may be because of that ur friends.. keep up
a limit to meet you and have fun with you!! may be you can openly talk with them.. and sort out the problem!! they are you friends right??? so dont hesitate.. and have
a word with them for their behavior!!
