Do you hve extra-marital affairs?

back in 1982 my marriage was basically over. he didn't want a family, he didn't want to do anything with us, he just wanted a meal on the table when he got in, and then was off on his own. he wanted me to bring friends home for him to screw. a friend of mine took me out for my 25th birthday ( b/c he forgot ), and i met a friend of hers. we ended up being friends which lead to a romantic relationship. i left that other idiot on our 6th wedding anniversery. i went through alot of mental stress and once a violent incident. this marriage was over. that's when he realized he wanted to be married. i had no feelings anymore for him. he made my skin crawl and i couldn't put my sons through life like that. a few years later, i married the " other man ". and we've been married since. my X hasn't seen my sons in 15 years. i feel that extra maritial affair was the right decision.

I don't. I think if I want to be with someone else, I should just leave. My marriage is not perfect but hey I can leave if I don't want to be here.