do you become tactless when you get angry?

Hello, I think that a normal reaction of a normal person with a very good level of EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT...Even me, I have a long patience and kind,but sometime, I lose temper and I really think what most true words to tell, as in really direct to the point

Knowing that I have a similar problem, I try to avoid fights like this. Instead, I'll walk away to remove myself from the situation, and then come back when I've calmed down. Its not easy, especially since I can be an extremely volatile person, but its taken me ten or more years to recognize that trait and work to correct it.

I too am very tactless when angry and do not think of what I am saying when I am angry. And I do end up hurting others for which I regret later.

Not usually. Although there are 2 different scenarious to consider. Here on the lot, since I can type the response, it gives me enough time to think and edit my words, so that I can try not to be tactless. But in person, it is a different story..... It is very difficult to hold back, so I take a deep breath, and literally step back, to reconsider what I feel like saying, and what I actually say. I have been hurt way too often by tactless cruel comments, to respond in kind. Since I know that a person's words can continue hurt for a long time, I really make a concerted effort to NOT say anything I won't still mean later, after cooling down.

Well I do but I really don't shout it out, instead I draw it on a paper and soon I would found myself laughing at it. I would usually draw myself in my animal avatar and my enemies in another animal form. Usually making them into animals really makes it fun and then my anger just fades aways slowly. Well sometimes I draw myself doing whatever I want to the person I'm angry with e.g. punching them, kicking them,tying them up to a tree etc. In that way I don't get angry anymore and it feels that I already have get even with that person already.

I use to be a Short Tempered Guy. I use to get angry soon and use to shout on every one during my anger. I will throw my mobile, i will beak it. Total i use become monster that moment of time. I use to hurt those who are the reason for my anger. If it is my because of parents i used take all those anger on abjects... But Arround 1 to 2 years back i got it realized this anger is not good for any one not even me. I started doing some meditations, now i can say I can control my anger up to one extent. And I will not get angry for small reasons and will not hurt or break any anybody or anything.... Good Na....

we are the same. i used to be out of myself when i am angry.. but that was before. this time, i have it under control, all by the grace of God. though there are still times that i did get lost of myself. but i dont shout anymore. i just said it gently.. well, it take some time.. and when i am angry, i am sure to tell the person involved that i am angry at him or her. but when it is the situation or a teacher, i just kept it to myself and pray instead. it took some time either.. either ways, it is under control.. and there were times that i get to it again, but it is a process actually..

Depends on situation,why i get angry...if someone get me mad...yes, I'm become tactless when i get angry and i didn't know that i already hurt someones feeling. But when i get angry, because I'm just tired or too many problems,I'd control my temper not to talk or just go to my room alone until i get cool.

Hi, I have the same problem that you have, when I'm really angry I cannot control my temper at all and the words that I say are for hurt,but I think that a lot of people do the same in such situation or not? Nun

Well, when I become angry I do become mad, but I don't get "out of control". I explain: this means that, even being pissed off about something/somebody, my "soft heart" stops me when I try to me tactless. Yeah, I know, it's kinda weird, but I know that's better for myself and for the others. =)

I have learned to control my temper by taking deep breaths or counting to ten, the usual things. It's just as much for my own benefit as it is for others. When I lose my temper and get really angry I say things that hurt. Whether they are true or not. It is a horrible habit but I prey on weaknesses when I get angry. I will dig into whoever I am mad at, find what they are afraid of or what will hurt them the most and throw it in their face. Sometimes people say things out of anger and then make up for it by saying they are sorry, they didn't really mean it, but they really did, deep down. When I say things in anger, I usually don't mean them, I am just trying to do whatever I can to defend myself. Which is why I work so hard to not get angry.