Do You Always Butt In when Your Partner Is Talking?

ah my husband always yells at me for that. hes always like let me finish what i have to say. but i say that i will forget it or what you were saying is wrong. so i need to inject my opinion or statement. i think everyone is guilty of this to extent some more then others. and me i do it all the time lolol

Early in our marriage there were arguments that would end up with both of us TRYING to make our point at the same time. Talking over each other, neither of us fully hearing what the other was saying. After 30 years together, we hardly ever argue about things. If he is upset with me about something, I let him get it all out of his system, then I tell him why I did whatever it was that upset him. The same goes for him interrupting me. Most times, we allow the other one to make the point, then the other has a chance to give their responses. If I forget something while waiting for him to finish, to me, it was not important enough for me to actually bring it into my side of it.

I listen first. Then I'll ask him if he's done. When he says yes, that's the time that I will say what I have to say. This is to avoid clashes which will trigger a fight between the two of us. As much as possible, I want to remain calm. Keep posting. HUGZ!

usually i will wait until they are finished unless however i feel it is necessary to interrupt them to say something before they go one, what they may have to say but haven't yet may change my response to them so i have found it better to wait it our and see what all has been said and then make my response

As much as possible I try to avoid cutting in when he is still talking and when I feel that I cannot stand it anymore, I walk away. When he is talking a lot (sometimes not so nice things) in front of other people, I just let him be because I feel that it would embarass him if I criticize him in front of others. However, I do talk to him about that when we are alone and I tell him, "That was not a nice thing to say." I do try to explain my side when we do not agree on things. If he sees my point then well and good. But if he insists, then I keep quiet specially when it's not that important. And soon enough, I forget all about it. In that way, the relationship is peaceful. We were brought up in a culture where men are considered the head, and although the women can express their opinions and try to convince the men, ultimately the final decision is theirs.

I try not to, and when I catch myself doing it, I stop myself. If my husband is RANTING and screaming, I will jump in and hold my ground, calmly. No need to listen to someone scream. I never scream. I was raised in an environment where if you didn't respond instantly you were accused of not listening. It's a hard habit to break.

Funny, I am the same way as you. I butt in when I think of something and I don't want to forget what I was going to say, if I don't say it right then and there, I will forget. My husband complained about this all the time with me. I guess I do it way too much or maybe he wouldn't complain. I don't think of it as being rude but he sure does. He hates it when I butt in and makes sure to tell me. Then I get upset because he points it out to me. But I can't seem to help myself or I wouldn't be doing it anymore. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good Mylot day, Chris

I'm bad at that, I always butt in when people are talking. It's funny though, I hate when other people do it - ha!

I got you!It happened to me that i forgot what i wanted to say when i waited until he finished but mostly thats what i really do i let him finish talking or expressing his side before i burst out mine.

Hey eihdra, I'm like you I butt in too! If I don't try to cut my bf off he will just go on and on about the same nothing! I keep telling him I know the mantra and he doesn't know what a mantra is so then I have to explain that to him and once again we get nowhere. It's really difficult enough for us to have a conversation because half the time I'm trying to talk to him he's not paying attention to me he's looking at the tv or just drifting off. He not the ranter, I am. The only thing rants about is cleaning and them I don't want to listen, I cut him off!

Hmm.. Me. I don't butt in. I always listen to him and wait for him to finish. I rarely butt in.. I only do when I ask a quick question. :)

I'll usually butt in, cuz i need him to understand my point of view. Most of the times, we argue cuz of some tiny weeny misunderstanding, of cuz butting in won't really helps, at the end we'll both be shouting at one another. but i guess tt's a form of venting our anger as well, aft tt we'll make it up.