have you ever had this problem?

My answer to that is the grass is always greener on the other side. If you were single you'd be wishing you were with somebody. It's just a kind of wanting your cake and being able to eat it too. I think everybody that is in a realtionship has had those thoughts. I think every single person has wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship also.

Hi ya jhl930 I was married (well techinically still am) for 10 years but have been seperated for 2 years now and it has been the best time for me ever. I can do what I want when I want (within reason). I don't have to think about anyone else apart from me and my kids and life is just great. I think you are aware that the relationship with my husband was abusive so that is why it is so great for me to be on my own now it doesn't mean that it would be great for everyone to be single!

I think that this is probably very common. You know.. we always want what we don't have. In your case- freedom! You cannot have it both ways though. Either you make up your mind that she is what you want and be happy with that or decide that it is not what you want and make up your mind to make a change. No one can make that decission for you! Like I said, I am sure we ahve all wondered "what if" before. That is normal. However, if alot of your time is filled with "waht if" eventually you are going to act on it if you do not make a firm decission in what you really want. If you decide to stay with her-- do so and never look back and never blame her when things are not perfect. Life is NOt "perfect". Being single would not be perfect either. Remember, YOU chose. No one else.

how long have you been together? sometimes when its too long, you get burnout. it can also be a case of spending too much time or much too less time together. I had been in a 9 year long relationship. There was an instance when I no longer know my self. Every dream, every decision, every action, I have to consider my partner. I needed space then. Its not about finding someone else, its all about being alone.. I never doubted my love for him and his love for me....but it does happen. Its like emotional exhaustion. We openly talked about it and agreed to cool it off a bit, after all, he was going on a business trip out of the country. After a month, I missed him more than ever and I no longer feel the need for space. A few months later he went back home, proposed and we got married a year after. We've been happily married for 4 years now. I wonder, if I didnt get that much needed time to be on my own, would it worked out this good...maybe, maybe not. I hope you get thru that. Maybe its just a phase, if it bothers you so much, try talking to your girlfriend and work things out. Goodluck.