how do you trust?

@jhl930 (3601)
United States
August 25, 2008 10:04pm CST
i know that i have written a lot of discussions about my girlfriend and i do love her to death, but i really need some help on this one, in the back of my mind i hope that she wouldnt cheat and she said that she wouldn't that she loves me, but there has been times before that she has lied to me about other guys, and there has been some reall shaky stories, like one night she went out and "her phone died" all night long, and i tried to believe that i really did, and then another night she was out until like 1 or 2 am and she didn't answer her hone all night long, and when she finally did she just said that she was trying on bathing suits in wal mart, and she just turned her ringer off because when she took a picture with her phone it made a noise, and its just things like that and the fact that i have done caught her in two lies and shes got a history of lying to me, and to make it worse we are miles apart right now, and today she was suppose to be so sick and i called three or four times to check on her and she didnt answer her phone and when i got ahold of her she said she was sleeping and eating, and everytime before i have called her she answered the phone shes a light sleeper, and she said she wasn't on any meds at all, and then tonight she said she wasnt going anywhere else, and i tried calling her for the last hour like five or six times to make sure she was ok and she still hasn't answered...after her lying to me about other guys, how am i suppose to trust her...please help...thanks for taking the time out of your day to read and hopefully answer my discussion, i really appreciate it, and i hope that you all had a great day and i hope that you have a great night from here forward, thanks!
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
I think you know that trust is earn. I don't blame you dude to feel that way caused it happened twice or maybe more. You just love her too much! And you accept everything about her and it's part of loving her. It takes time to trust... It takes time to regain also trust... especially if it happened so many times.Even your in a relationship both of you still have your own life. It shows that you love her more then she loves you I think so.Why don't you just talk to her about this matter and discussed what you feel. Love is sometimes not wanting to know the truth and accepting why is she doing this to you. Be open about it before in the end just getting hurt and expenting nothing in the end. Reality bites aaaa! Or just follow her visiting her that she's not expecting you will be around! How many times will you forgive and still she wont change for you if she really meant that she loves you very much. It's a big question?Face it and you will know the answer. Sorry if I was brutally giving you this advice take it or leave it. Have as nice day!
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
26 Aug 08
i know what you mean i have tried to talk to her about these things and it just ends up in a fight, i don't know what else to do, i really want to trust her, any more advice??
• China
26 Aug 08
I'm so sorry about this. As a girl,I even don't know how to console you. It seems that you haven't solve the problem now and you still don't know why she lies to you. You should know if she really loves you now. I'm sorry to say this. But I hope you two can solve the problem without fight or break. Good luck.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
If i trust that means i love the person so when i trust i make sure that i love the person. But sometimes you can't give your trust ven if you love but though I need to be more mature enough to know when to trust people when not.