Live with someone you hate/cannot stand

I don't think I could do it either. At least not for long! Regardless of whether we did not have to interact we would still be within the same space and the tension in the air would be horrendous! And imagine if the two of you both decided to "subliminally" try to get the other one to move out? It is a nightmare waiting to happen!

Hello I dont think i could stay with someone i did not like . they must of done something pretty bad to get on my bad side . I keep thinking maybe if the house was big enough maybe i could live with them , or maybe we could live in peace . I think maybe just knowing they were there would be the issue . what if they started something ! i think there would not be peace and that it would be way too stressful !!!

My mother and I never got along. She was quite abusive at times. I stayed there because there was nowhere else to go. I went to work and earned my own money as I had to buy my own food, even as a young teen. It bothered me but I never showed it. I just ignored her and stayed out of her way as much as I could.

i am trying to imagine what you are asking here... so far.. i guess i am blessed that such thing hasnt happened to me.. but i do have people whom i 'hate' and cant stand at the office... but have to meet and see on daily basis.. good thing i dont have to report to these people, but i do need to attend meetings with them.. most of the time - i just ignore them...

I have went through that tough period, but luckily that was just half a year. I'm not sure if I can stand any longer. So, I would say I can stay with someone I hate/cannot stand in under the same roof, but only for a while. I will go crazy if I've to face those person on daily basis. Frankly, during that time, I'll try to avoid talking too much or seeing that person often. So, I kept myself in my room most of the time when they are at living room just to reduce more interaction. Of course there was times where she stayed in her room too...so it's a bit like "Tom and Jerry"...LOL

I had lived in a hostel for 7 years. We had room mates changing regularly. So I kind of adjusted to every kind of human being. This 7 year training was very useful after I married and started living in a joint family. Was able to adjust very well. Learnt how to ignore things I did not like.

That's difficult for me as well and that's irrespective of talking or not talking. That hardly matters, the hatred is still there! SV, I think we should have our priorities right. Gone are those days of living with pains, sufferings and resentments. We should move on and live each moment of our lives. As long as I feel that I have my values in the right place, I would do the thing that I find would be peaceful for both the ends. However, having said this, I cannot let go of some ppl in my life who are most important. Like I can never disclaim my parents emotionally no matter what. You take care, hon.

Dear sandhiya.......if you would have asked me this question 10 years before, I would have given a long lecture saying that yes we should learn to adjust and we should try to compromise etc etc.........because 10 years before I was influenced by our decent Indian culture which teaches us a lot to tolerate, die but tolerate......die but sacrifice..... but today I will tell you, leave this person as early as you can and don't burn your blood and bear all this torture. Nothing is impossible, we have to find out what are we worth and give new starting to our living, no matter what it will costs you. Like in moive ASTITVA how Tabbu left everything to find herself..............I hope nobody has to go through this, but if circumstance fall on you......then fight for open air rather than die in suffocated atmosphere. Sandiya, actually I know.......you know all this and you have been a brave girl, but I just gave my opinion........Have a nice day dear.

No, I don't really hate anyone, but if people are not of good moral character I will not share space with them as wherever you share space that is a relationship and in that case, a toxic relationship. I only wish to be around people who make a positive contribution to society.

I think I would apply a bit of brain here, as opposed to heart (feelings/emotions). If it actually pays eventually to put up with this person, I will to the best of my will power. Mind over matter..you know. Then again, it would also depend on how long I would need to do it and how disturbing the person is.

My hubby and I are in this situation currently. We allowed a friend to move into our home. He needed help due to multiple knee surgeries. He's been here for YEARS. Now we are expecting our second child. He hasn't moved. Nor at present is he making much of an effort to. I try to avoid him. I have gotten to where it affects the relationship. It is awful.

No, I could not do it. I actually did do it, for a short time, and I was miserable. I moved as soon as I could. I couldn't stand hearing the voice, seeing messes left behind, hearing the complaints, even looking at them. Even not talking to them, it is a bad situation, though I can't imagine a situation that would allow no interaction at all.

This is a very difficult situation to be in! I don't think I can do it also! It will affect my daily routine in the house and I wouldnt be a happy about it. I will probably spent all my time outside if this have to happen with me.

Been there done that and it was the most painful part of my life. It has shaped and made me stronger. I have to lived up to it for some months and I am just so glad that it has ended.

I am doing it with my mother in law. She is one woman without whom i would be much much happier but still we do have to live with her. We all hate her like anything and dont talk to her as she have no talking sense. Whenver she is talking rubbish i simply go to my room and switch on the tv at a high volume and ignore her.

we have a joint family.i would like to live as a nuclear one but i feel i have certain responsibilities towards them,so i have to compromise alot.if i have my way,i would feel guilty and i couldnt live with a guilty conscience.

I don't want to close my doors about this topic now. I am considering it. But currently, I am not ready to do that. I am not ready to live with someone whom I can't stand or I hated so much. I am not saying that I don't forgive them but time heals the wounds. It takes time to move on and be with them again. Who knows? Above all, I know in the future, all things will all be settled.

i just hate to hate somebody, i always do my best not to hate somebody because if i hate a person it will take the grace of God to love the person. i cannot stay with someone i hate in the same house or room, i will try my best to reconcile with the person and love him/her. so hatred is not good, please try to love and admire somebody today!

Hi dear it depend on the condition in what condition u want THAT to happen as for sure no one will like the idea and do that in Normal circumstances, as u will feel uncomfortable and irritating But if u r forces to do then i am sure i will manage it as wont be having other way,Right Take care

No, I cannot stay or living in the same roof with someone I do hate most or someone I did not talked too and not even sharing my bed to someone I do not like for that is my first and foremost reason to talked to my Husband if there will be things we do not understand in anyway and we always make it sure to talked about the problem before sleeping.........