Trip to Florida with the in-laws. Scream or Dream?
By Vickie7978
@Vickie7978 (164)
United States
August 26, 2008 7:55am CST
My mother-in-law is insistant we go to Florida with them next June. The first thing I can't get past is how she has never once asked, "Would you like to go?" She just tells us when hubby should take his vacation. Then there's the staying a week in a 3 bdrm rental beach house with them along with sister-in-law's family. That makes 6 adults and 5 kids.
I know this may sound great to some others, but to me it's a nightmare. I am very OCD about having a routine and I enjoy my life at home. I don't despise travel, but have no desire to. I married a truck driver and opposites attract. He's used to chaos while I can't stand it.
I've thought about maybe getting a hotel room on our own, but they've decided we're only taking two vehicles. Another no-no in my world. I'm an adult, I own 3 vehicles, I should be able to come and go as I please. What if one of my kids gets hurt or sick? I need to be able to go home if needed.
What would you do? Am I just to paranoid or should I go with my gut?
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3 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
26 Aug 08
There is no reason why you shouldn't be able to adjust the plans a bit in order to make yourself more comfortable and better able to enjoy the trip. Since it's your inlaws, maybe your husband should be the one to tell them that, while you do plan to spend most of the time with the family at the beach house, your family is going to stay in a nearby hotel so that it's less of a strain on you and your child(ren). Because of that you will also be bringing your own vehicle.
Everyone is different and some folks have a great time in hectic situations while others don't. No one should fault you for your personal preferences.
@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Thank you. I don't want to ruin everyone's time and I am grateful since they have offered to pay for everything. I just feel like I'll go crazy if I don't have somewhere to go and get away for a little at a time.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I think you should have a talk with your hubby, and he inturn should have a talk with the in-laws. If staying at a hotel makes you feel more comfortable then so be it, and I for one would be taking my own vehicle. There might be some things I want to see or go do that they don't. Or like you said, what if you needed a vehicle. I have never had that problem, I love to travel, and we have had as many as 16 people at my parent's home for a holiday get together. Some sleeping on air matteresses on the floor lol. But we all had a great time. My daughter and her husband, and their two dogs, and me and my s/o, our dog and his daughter are all planning on spending a week at a beach rent house next summer. And possibly my sister and her husband, and another couple, friends of ours, and I can't wait, of course there will be only adults and no children, other than my s/o's daughter (if she goes). However, if I felt the least bit uncomfortable with that type of situation, I would make a few changes such as staying at a hotel, taking own vehicle, to make the stay more fun and enjoyable.
@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Thank-you. That means a lot coming from someone who travels. However, talking with them does no good. My mother-in-law just always says, "Oh, you'll be fine." I think we sould enjoy the trip, but I just don't want to feel completely dependant on other people.
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@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
26 Aug 08
Hi, I think that for a week you can do that, I don't know how terrible you feel with your mother-in-low toghether but for sure your husband has pleasure to do that, so a week pass very fast, and may be at the end you have funny too..and for the vehicles if something happen also in florida they're doctor and I don't think is a good idea to make the back travel for a sick child..
Nun
ps(look at all with more entusiasm and you'll that you will like it as well...)
