do you tell your loved ones that you them everyday?
By kayedanda
@kayedanda (1850)
Philippines
August 26, 2008 9:27am CST
saying "i love you" comes easy to some people. others just find it so difficult to utter the words. when i was younger, i belong to the latter group. i always hesitate to say "i love you" even to my mom. before, telling someone that i love them was very hard, it's like the words refuse to come out of my mouth. now that i think about it, saying i love you (not casually but one that comes from the heart) requires maturity that comes from the experience of ACTUALLY having felt the strong feeling of love.
now that i'm a bit older (and i can say that i have loved enough to drop all my inhibitions in saying the words), i do not let any opportunity pass for saying "i love you" to people that are dear to me. i say "i love you" to my one-year old daughter every time we talk, i say "i love you" to hubby before going to sleep and any time during the day that opportunity presents itself, i say "i love you" to my mom even through text.
how often do you say the magic words? are you like me when you were younger who held back? or do you express your love not only through words but through actions as well?
tell your loved ones how much you love them. life is short. you never know what will happen, so don't miss out on the chance to express your love for people closest to your heart :)
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12 responses
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
I tell my wife every day that I love her and always will. Some people may get concerned that continually saying it reduces its meaning but if it is always said sincerely then I see no issue and would have to disagree. I will say it to my Mother and Sister on emails; and on the rare occasion that I do talk to either of them on the phone I will generally tell them this at the end of the conversation too. I speak to my children every week on the phone and ALWAYS tell both of them that I love them even if they rarely say it back..... I feel what I feel and seeing as I am so far away from my Mother, Sister and kids at the moment I wish to let them know the same.
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
it must be lonely being far away from them:(
you mentioned that saying the words often loses its meaning, but yes, you are definitely right that if it comes from the heart and not just said in passing or as some duty that you have to perform everyday, the impact will remain the same.
may everyone realize the importance of saying "i love you" like we do :)
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@vsraovsr (734)
• India
27 Aug 08
Mine is the same story just like you before but after my marriage, I never miss any oppurtunity to say those precious words to my hubby and kids. Still, I feel shy to say the same to my parents and sibblings as we are not much used to that kind of expressions straight away.
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
i see. well, that can be a problem, i think. when people around you are not used to saying the words often, it tends to get embarrassing to mention it to them in normal everyday conversations. anyways, as others in this post has pointed out, there ARE other ways to show people that you love them :)
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I am one who knows all too well the importance of letting loved ones know that they are loved. I tell my husband for one. My young son is someone who tell everyday how much he means to me.
Children are very susceptible to attention and affection. A little love goes a long way through a child's heart. They gain a special perspective in the world when they know that they are loved and cared for. It is important to let people know that we care. Tomorrow is not promised to us. 
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
my. that's one deep answer. and i agree with you that children who feel cared for and loved grow up to be better persons than those who were deprived of it. you know what my mom told me when she learned i was pregnant? "love your child so that she may grow up to be the person that contributes positively to society rather than be a burden of it"
nice response. thank you for that :)
and please forgive my awful mistake. i omitted the word :love: from my title. *sigh*
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@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 08
Hi there!
I do say that to my dear everyday. And yes, i agree that three words are a magic word which will cure every wound in heart. It's amazing! Right?
Whenever i don't let my younger sister(16 years old) get the thing she want, she will give me that puppy look and say "Sis, u don't love me anymore?". Sometimes i just cant stand it, and will give her the thing she want. How about you? will your heart melt when your daughter says that to you?
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@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 08
Yea yea...that's the look! Just can't say no, right?
My younger sister always give that look to me and my parent. She's always baby of the family.
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
OF COURSE! do you know my daughter knows how to get to my heart already? she just stares at me with those big woeful eyes and i just...oh. it never fails to get at me every time :D
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
my youngest sister sometimes do that too, but not as much as svetlana (my daughter) does. kids today! they are extortionists! hehehe
@serenity264 (366)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Honestly, I don't say I love you to my loved ones every day. I'm just not the type of operson to be very mushy, or emotional and all that stuff... I do show my love for them in my own way though like giving them gifts and being there for them.. I am a very fierce friend, and since the only relative I have with me now is my mom.. I show her how much I love her every day, though I don't say it as often as I should, my mom and I have an open relationship sure we have arguments here and there but we have a very open relationship and it's hard for me to keep secrets from her.. x)
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@serenity264 (366)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
hehehe thanks kaye.. it's just it's really hard for me to say the words.. lolz.. Happy mylotting! x)
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
well, i think what you do pretty much equates to saying the words everyday so.. :)
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Aug 08
I think your last statement says it all. Very important to say it everyday. My grandkids hear it everyday.
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@angelle1123 (17)
• Australia
28 Aug 08
I always say "i love you" to my boyfriend whether it's through text or personal. I want him to know how much I love him. But of course, it's not always the word but more importantly,you have to express your love through actions. With my brothers and sister, even to my parents and other relatives, I do not usually say " i love you" but I know that they feel how much I care for them. I usually say, "i miss you" and "take care" most of the time.
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@rikkabren (238)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
yes i do, and i think your right about that. life is too short youd never know if youll be able to wake up early in the morning so when ever i go to sleep id say and show my love to Hendrix pogi. ==))
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
hi there,
Yes its true life is short that you'll never know happen next, but for me it is very hard to utter this words because im not use to do it. I think saying i love you is not just for the sake of saying ,it should be also followed by action. I believe action speak louder than words. If you constantly show that you care and give your time and effort to your love one is better than saying those words that sometime become a habit to say it without meaning at all. i prefer seldom saying it when i feel it deeply in my heart that would catch the attention to your love one.
@jhellie_baby (374)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I always say i love you to my boo. I always remind him of how special he is to me and how happy i am that he came into my life. even though we havent started anything yet, like a family or so, but i know that someday we will get there:) good luck
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