How do you handle mylot bullies?
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
27 responses
@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I haven't had to deal with that yet, but the few rude people I have run into I just try to ignore. There are some sensative topics posted on mylot and I know that that will draw people who don't agree with me or anyone else, so if they get out of line I just don't respond and try to put an end to the disagreement then and there.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Thanks alot for your kind advice..I am really quite a shy person..except for when it comes to writing..I love to writ and perhaps it's easy to ignore a person, instead of telling them to stop;)+
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@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Luckily I haven't come across any bullies yet, but I'm still new here. If I did, I would report them to myLot. Have you encountered bullies?
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I have..more know it alls..then bullies though..they sprinkle your discussions with not so nice things and make it like they are MYLOT's right hand guys..but they only scare folks away..+
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
They don't hit you or anything but they make it their point to gather a group and instruct them whose topics not to go to;)+ I have had them actually come on my topics..not recently but in past:(+
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Thanks for the advice..Seems though I never seem to hear any responses when I send messages to MYLOT ..they are really busy ..
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
5 Nov 06
I can see that cliques can very easily be worked - in fact, I am sure they are - to artificially increase earnings. I have found one person admitting to more than one account but it would be less easy to deal with a person (or group of people) who decides to actively report someone's posts or rate them badly as a matter of course.
I think the community is still small enough that an email to myLot expressing your concerns would be investigated and replied to.
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@LadyElektra (1078)
• Canada
5 Nov 06
I would also report that because we want to keep this a friendly place :)
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I didn't know that there are bullies here. That is just crazy.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
It has happened to me..not recently but did ..and I wanted to see how people handled it.. I think newbies should know they don't have to put up with people belittling them for their topic;)+
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Thanks alot..I see many people ..who make it there business to discredit other's post.I can see if someone is downng MYLOT but if a person doesn't agree with a topic there are lots more to choose from..I say don't be a discord spreader;)+
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@sameera786 (650)
• South Africa
5 Nov 06
I have never experienced it so I wont be able to comment on it.
But people have the freedom of speech.That is what mylot is all about.To express your views.
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@all_n_one (2003)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Yea we do have a freedom of speech and some people have to realize that. A bullie is somebody who would pick on you in every topic no matter what. If they do that in one topic it isn't a bullie just somebody that disagreed with the topic and expressed thereself.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Sometimes how we express ourselves makes a world of difference;)+
@kataztrophy (1836)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I have yet to deal with anyone like that on this community, but at other communities I usually contact a moderator about it.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Be glad that you haven't had too..as I almost quite mylot due to one..if the person wouldnt have stopped I would have left.
@dreamsncharms (1340)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I have been harrassed before but I just moved on from it. Many people on here seem to think that unless you agree with them your a bad person. They will post a discussion ask your opinion on this or that but if you have a different opinion and prove your point of why, you can be called stupid, and told to shut up ect. I really wish so many people would grow up.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I think it's quite a gift to know how to disagree without belittling the one you disagree with..some have such low self esteem that they project that on others..Because they are self seeking and money hungry they presume everyone else here is out to scam mylot...and they are not..
I truly believe everyone here is here to share and discuss..I don't believe people are out there to create mile long discussions to gather money..
If it happens that a discussion grows this long..does it mean the one who created is money hungry that perhaps they hit a topic that everyone feels comfortable with..
I believe there is one God yet in mylot we have several who act though they are:)+
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Wow, I am glad that I have not had that happen to me yet. But you are right, there is no reason for that. I mean, what is the point of asking for an opinion if you are just gonna be mean about what is said anyway. No one thinks the same, some may have the same views but not everything is the same. That really isn't fair and I hope that no one addresses me that way.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
oh come on you have always been nice..i think you are one cool person..if you are a bully the so am I..I havent heard you controlling others;)+
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I couldn't agree more..I hope people will be more sensitive to the feelings of others..and realize that what they say can really hurt people especially if they are sensitive;)+
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I have had a few bullies post cruel responses in sensitive topics. I respond with a post like "please don't be so harsh, this is intended to be a safe place..." and if someone is gross, I report them. I've also posted comments about the inappropriate post that the person is banned from my discussions and I will continue to report them until they are permenantly banned. Let's keep dialogue open and friendly!
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I agree..it's good to hear others express how they feel about it and to admit that others have felt it too..Bullies don't even recognize they are bullies because they are so use to doing it;)+
@massaj03 (4367)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I actually haven't came accross anybody like that so far..Hope I don't..but knowing me I would probably ignore it, cause I don't let that stuff like that bother me, cause it would be them showing their own stupidity. Now of course if they did do something that did happen to bother me in some way I would report them.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I hope you never have to encounter it and hope you can counter it with what you say here should it happen:)+
@annereinee (144)
•
6 Nov 06
i haven't encountered one yet, here. most have been friendly. but some are kind of snob. so i think that makes up for a new topic. how to you handle snobs. lol. as for me, i never mind them. they sure got problems of their own and if i mind them they will just add up to my own concerns. well, same goes to those bullies, if there are.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
hahah..now that's right..What is your definition of a snob;) I always thought they are people that are stuck up and are too good for the average "joe"
@all_n_one (2003)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I guess things i have done people could call me a mylot bullie for. The harassing part they would have to do that allot of time for it to be harassment. I have also been reported allot by people for discrediting there topics. I get a message one day responded back and now mylot doesn't even listen to these people's reports on me. I have quit that now and focus on myself more and making money on here. If i see one now i don't agree with i just report it or contact mylot directly. It is different if somebody makes a topic where i have a different opinion i only report ones that are just there to get money and nothing else.
The guidelines say it now to so i report it even more. Mylot is happy to delete a big discussions that is only about getting responses for money it saves them money. We all want money and want response but you can tell the difference. I have noticed now when i report topics mylot get them now within a hour or so.
All that being said i don't believe in discrediting people's topics anymore just report it and let mylot decide. I had to report one the other day that gave users the wrong tips on mylot and it was deleted in a few minutes. I can honestly say mylot is working hard now.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I hope you are not a bully ..
I think you are very intelligent..but intelligence doesnt always guarantee that we do things the right way all the time..
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I can tell you it was my first few days here..and someone called me a liar and told everyone in my discussions that I was a liar ..and went on and on..And everywhere I went for three days that person appeared and finally condemned me to banishment from mylot they told me I would no longer be on mylot "come monday"
They never apologized..and I am sure they found out ..they were wrong..as I still hold to my earnings which..by the way sit at $54.19 ..thanks to MYLOT
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
The same happened to me..till I told mylot..I have this posted because others may experience it too and wonder what to do..I have seen already that others have had it happened..
Thanks for sharing;)+
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
5 Nov 06
I assume that by Bullies you are referring to someone who argues and blatantly gives abuse to those who post something they disagree with.
The suggestion that most have put forward so far to report the person is not a bad one, because that kind of behaviour does not help the site or it's members.
Personally, I would just ignore them.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
bullies are those who push their opinion like they are God and think they are right no matter what.. and insist on telling everyone in the group so ..they are dominating and disrespectful..demanding attention and respect but not giving it..
Bullies are not those who beat you up ..I am speaking of those who think they are all it..and threaten you with actions against your topics..
They are insecure and scare others away by saying people are lying about their earnings or their successes or resort to name calling..
I refer to such people as bullies..but bullies in all reality are the biggest cowards..they use other peoples topics to boost their egos;)+
@firelight (1858)
• Australia
5 Nov 06
So far I haven't had a problem with anyone here, although I haven't been here long. The best way would be just to ignore it unless it becomes excessive. There are people like that everywhere that we have to deal with, there's no point letting them upset you too much, or you're rewarding them for their effort.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Sometimes it's hard to ignore them..it's not like on yahoo where you can press an ignore button..some people make it a point to just be everywhere you are just to make it difficult for you..they are not team players..rather they are hate mongers..
I haven't had too much trouble lately as I have notified proper authorities..I am sure though others have and wonder what to do;)+
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Well you hang in there and congregate around those who are not out to push others around..there are those who want to build themselves up by pulling others down..sooner or later they will be found out and find themselves very much alone..
Thanks for sharing and know you have a friend over here;)+