What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business
By SinfulSweet
@SinfulSweet (146)
Canada
August 26, 2008 10:16am CST
I think that too often we take too much stock in what other people think and have to say about us. I am who I am and I know that there are people out there who aren't going to like me, and I'm cool with that! Do you want to know why? Because a lot of times what people see and dislike in other people is often times something that they don't like within themselves and aren't willing to face up to at that juncture. So go ahead don't like me if you want to, doesn't bother me in the least... because I know who I am and have come to accept myself as such!!! I'm not going to let other people take up my head space cause I heard them whisper that they think my shirt is ugly, or my hair is frizzy, I like it and so do those who know me and like me and thats all that matters! What do you think?
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17 responses
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 08
hi sinfulsweet,
yes you are right. 'be yourself' is not just a saying. it the secret on how someone looks confidence and feels comfortable with him/herself while another one is always restless with how they looks.
i think most of times we can say what you say, 'what you think of me is none of my business'. yet, there are some exception. i think you will agree that nowadays obama won't be able to say like that. instead, he will says, 'what you think of me is my main business' 
@SinfulSweet (146)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
Well point well taken my friend... I feel bad for politicians who are always out there to get people to like them and have to get their votes, they hear criticism all day from millions of sources and i think that its gotta affect them after a while on some level or another! I guess my skin isn't that thick and that is why I never got into politics to begin with LOL
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@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
26 Aug 08
HAHAHAHA!!! I think you are my new hero that's what I think!
That has been the way I see things for quite a while now so I was surprised the other night when I had a dream where some guy ran off with another girl because he didn't like how hairy my legs were and I was devastated! I woke up realizing that I was still harboring some of that old 'what anybody else thinks about me has something to do with me' beliefs, and I set about doing some internal housecleaning!
I woke up realizing that I was still harboring some of that old 'what anybody else thinks about me has something to do with me' beliefs, and I set about doing some internal housecleaning!1 person likes this
@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
27 Aug 08
You're welcome! I look forward to sharing more lol's with you in the future too! And hopefully they will be just as awesome as this one! 
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@SinfulSweet (146)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
I laughed and laughed when I read your post... that is too funny thanks for sharing you're awesome LOL!
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@paid2write (5201)
•
26 Aug 08
It took me a long time to learn this, as I was extremely shy and sensitive when I was young. Later I realized how unimportant it was what anyone else thought, my self respect and self esteem are what matter most.
Now I no longer care if people don't like the way I look or the way I live my life. I am being true to myself and I am not going to conform. I was picked on as a child because I did not behave like the other kids in my class. Now I know it's far better to be an individual than to be one of the crowd.
I think it's good to think this way, and bad to care too much about what others may say or think. If someone doesn't like me that's not a problem to me now.
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@SinfulSweet (146)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
I can understand where you are coming from as I was a bit of an odd ball in school and never fit in with any certain group... I realized as I got older that the reason that I never fit in was cause I was an individual and not someone who fitted or even wanted to fit into any of those molds anyways!
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I used to tell my son to stop worrying about what people think of you...because chances are they're not thinking about you at all. (We're self-centered creatures...and think about ourselves more than others. Sad, but true.)
That being said, I do think we all need to have a few close friends who DO think about us. And who will be honest if they think we're doing something about which we're not really aware...and that if we knew it we would change it.
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@SinfulSweet (146)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
I couldn't agree more... my close friends aren't afraid to put me in my place... same as my mother. There are people whose opinions I do care about, but I guess its the general public at large. Of course there are times where others opinions of me count, like a job interview for instance where we all put on our best behavior.
It is very true how self centered we are as human beings... but in essence I think that some of that self centeredness is what has kept us around and from going the way of the dinosaur
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@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I agree with you. When I have come across a person that has a trait that I do not like I ask myself if that is something I do too.
And because sometimes it is I try to stop or be better :)
I will not think if people like me or not, that is their god given right, I wll instead concentrate if I like me or not and what my loved ones think of me.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I say, more power to you. You are on the right track here. It has taken me many years to even start to let go of feeling hurt is someone doesn't want to take me as I am. We do all need acceptance in this life. Sometimes we don't get what we want.
We do need to look inside of ourselves and accept ourselves first.
@SinfulSweet (146)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
I completely agree that our acceptance needs to come from within before we can accept others... but please don't think that I was always so self assured and self accepting. For many many years I suffered with low self esteem and my whole life was based on how others viewed me... but then I realized that I wasn't getting anywhere in life because I saw myself as not being as good as the person who's attention I was so desperately seeking!
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@lwethu (242)
• South Africa
27 Aug 08
I agree with you Lol, people will always have something to say about yuo no matter how hard you try to the best/ friendly to them,in that sense me too I don't care what people think about as long as I feel that I am leaving my life in the right way I don't even wait for their compliment.I know I am good I don't need a person to tell me that becuase I know if you not confident about your self other people won't be confident about you. How can you be sure about a person who is not sure about himself/ herself it's not possible.Lol I am good
@lwethu (242)
• South Africa
27 Aug 08
I agree with you Lol, people will always have something to say about yuo no matter how hard you try to the best/ friendly to them,in that sense me too care what people think about as long as I feel that I am leaving my life in the right way I don't even wait foer their compliment.I know I am good I don't need a person to tell me that becuase I know if you not confident about your self other people won't be confident about you. How can you be sure about a person who is not sure about himself/ herself it's not possible.Lol I am good
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
Is that all that your hair is frizzy and your shirt is ugly? Well I used to have frizzy hair as well when it rained, and maybe you like that shirt. If you do nothing to harm anyone, and if you are not rude, and are a nice person, then no one should have any complaints. Oh I will not criticize your shirt. Hmm wonder if you have a photo of it on your profile. Excuse me while I have a look see. (long pause while Suspenseful looks at SinfulSweet's profile, notice she is also Canadian but province not listed. Darn it!") Nope. I guess you just joined and have not had a chance for me to comment on it. But I used to get clothes given to me and second hand and some were not that good looking on me as well.
Nope. I guess you just joined and have not had a chance for me to comment on it. But I used to get clothes given to me and second hand and some were not that good looking on me as well.
@naka75 (795)
• Singapore
27 Aug 08
We should not be intimidated by others when they have bad opinions of us. If we're bothered by them, it'll undermine our development as human beings. Rather than getting agitated and start to belittle ourselves, we should take them as opportunities for us to re-discover our weaknesses and strengths. In the end we grow further and become happy! In contrast, they are the ones who are always unhappy because they are never satisfied with their environment. That is regrettable. Having said so, it doesn't mean we have to be individualistic by being me, I and myself, because still interaction with other people in a positive manner bring so much meaning to our existence.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Hey Sinful wtg I totally agree with you I am who I am an if you don't like its fine with talk about me at least your leaving someone else alone I don't need to please anyone loved your post
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I love the way you stated that! Good for you! I so agree that we put way too much stock into what other people think of us. But I wish people would stop being so judgemental (to our faces or behind our backs) in this world of our! And I think it is very hard for some people to get to the place where they can just let it go and not worry about what other people think! It took me a very long time to get there / here! Good for YOU!
@deni181273 (177)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 08
I think, we can be our selves. Be your selve..as long as not bothering other people or your community, I think is OK. If there is some one not like you, well, be cool my friend, may be there is some thing in your self like strange behavior...Watch your self..The person who know detail about you is yourself.
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
In all truth, I think you may want to consider moving some distance. You need space to digest what has been happening to you. In this life, I think that we must be more attentive. Don't surrender your morals to a man's perception. It is awesome that you are brave enough to stand up for yourself and to begin to come into the space where you want to be in this life. Try to avoid meddling tomatoes.
There is nothing wrong with a solid, content function in the world. I almost want to suggest a trial separation from the harmful people in your life and surround yourself with this goodness.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Aug 08
i am with you. here i am and this is what you get. don't like me for it oh well. i figure as long i out and treat everyone with respect, no matter how different we are. and even if what we belive in is different. it's call respect.
not going to like me because i have a big house, lots of money. not good looking or in shape. oh well.
@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Good for you! It took me a long time to stop trying to be what everybody else wanted me to be. I know now that the people who are truly my friends are my friends because they already know I can be a bit strange, or moody, or a total b!tch. They like me anyway. I think that if you are yourself, you will go with no regrets.
