Prenuptual Agreement? What should I do???
By ljforte1024
@ljforte1024 (150)
Canada
August 26, 2008 11:11am CST
I got engaged recently and my fiance` has shown interest in consulting an attorney concerning his assets. I have none and I'm not sure what to argue. I'm not marrying him for his money, however I expect to have security should anything happen. I understand he wants to secure his two daughters but I'm not sure how I should go about discussing this.
Please help.
4 responses
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
6 Sep 08
prenups??hmmm...!i never heard about it yet ljforte,but if you love him im pretty sure u dont after his money,right?but of course you eed security also if ever he passwd away.I can tell you any about it but to make sure u understand evrything better consult your attorney so they can advice you better.Goodluck and creful for signning anything.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Well from the start of my relationship with my gf I ask her why didn't she got married at the first place. She told me her reason why. And it's all about her two daughters who she love most in this world. I want every share I have will go to them. So now were discussing it more and really love her very much. It's not the material things she have it's really her who I love. I was planning to proposed very soon! One time her cousin asked me would you sign the nuptial agreement I said yes cause I love your cousin very much with all my heart,her cousin smiled and said when? Hey if you love him seat on it and discussed it,if you really mean that you really love him open up. Tell him what you feel,what inside you everything. Just to prove that you really have good intentions of being her future bride or wife to be. Just be yourself... I think that is the most important you to be. You love him for what he is,and he loves you that is what is the moct imporant. Have a nice day!God will make a way! God be with you!
@Rebelrose60 (18)
• United States
27 Aug 08
It would not be easy for anyone to help you in this without first knowing what the pre-nup will stipulate. Often times (but not always) the person requesting the pre-nup wishes to protect what they had prior to the marriage. I agree with this aspect, to a certain degree. For example, if he owns his home, and you are only giving up an apartment, he may not want to be forced to sell his home in a divorce settlement. On the other hand, if you own your own home, he owns his, and you make the decision to sell your home and move into his, then obviously you will want to protect your interest, and retain your ability to purchase another home in the event of divorce.
Personally I would accept a pre-nup that states what belongs to each of you prior to the marriage remains so if you divorce, and anything obtained during the marriage be divided equitably amongst both parties. Equitable of course being determined by full marital contribution.
@krkchn (160)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Prenups are serious business and at times necessary. Make sure to read all the fine prints and make sure that you are given enough share should anything go wrong in the relationship. Don't take it the wrong way, some divorce without prenup result the resentful wife taking almost everything when it favors with them .