Can You Blame Him? Thoughts on suicide
@lipsticknladdles (814)
Philippines
August 26, 2008 1:37pm CST
I have a very strong respect for life. Never did I attempt to kill myself, despite devastating problems. I believe that our life is borrowed and only God could take it back. But awhile ago, I answered a post about suicide. AFter asnwering it,I remembered a very sad incident that occured last May. My husband and I were enjoying our anniversary trip in Florida when I got a call from my Mom. My 13 year old god-son committed suicide. He drank some jewlry cleaner and died after a few hours. I was devastated. When I was still in my home country, I see to it that I checked on my godchildren. I never forget their birthdays and if time permits, I often have long talks with them. This particular boy, had been thru a lot. His dad beats him, pushes him in the stairs and puts his hands on the flame. I once had a fight with the mom and told them that I will inform the police about these incidents. I did call the police but the dad hid and there were no follow up after. Then my husband and I migrated to US. The last time I heard, this boy suffered from stomach ulcers but no treatment was given. The family is so poor they dont even regular meals. I asked my mother to give all the help we can provide. But then that thing happened. The boy left a suicide letter that states that all the pain-physical, emotional is just too much to bear.
In this kind of situation, can you blame a 13 year old boy for committing suicide?
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@3cardmonte (5098)
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26 Aug 08
no i cant blame him at all,this must have given him the kind of feelings and thoughts that a fully grown adult could not cope with. The dad is clearly the monster in all of this but the mother is also hugely at fault,did she stand back and say nothing whilst his father did this?
@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
yes 3cardmonte, she's so darn afraid to lose his husband but not his son. that's why we had a fight. i told her that she gave me the right to interfere when she had me as his sons godmother. but i can only do so much, i have no control over their lives.
this is a question that will forever be engraved in my heart & mind. i just hope my godson will be forgiven for what he did.
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i dont have kids too (still hoping i would).
so these godchildren of mine means so much to me. adolescent is such a crucial phase and the boy could've use lots of love, understanding and guidance. if I will be blessed with kids of my own, I cannot guarantee that I will be a perfect mother but just like you, i vow to protect my children from anyone that would hurt them.
thanks for taking time to read and respond.
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@lindsey7 (72)
• United States
29 Aug 08
The bible does not word it this way,but if you take a life,whether it is your's or someone else's,you are going to hell.The only way to escape it is to not know what he was doing was wrong.I believe a thirteen year old is accountable,especially if he was able and smart enough to leave a note.The Bible also says that God will not put anymore burden on you,than you can bare.I believe in God and his written word.Life is hard and at times it can be unbearable,but it is our life and when we take it and destroy it we will suffer for wasting it.
@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
26 Aug 08
What a sad, sad story. The boy child had so much heartbreak and pain I don't think any one could blame him for doing what he did. It is such a tragic thing though that the police did nothing to try to help this child. I do not understand how parents can purposely hurt the children that they have. My heart goes out to you in the loss of your God-son. May the God lord bless him with eternal peace.
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@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
thanks travibabiesgirl, may more prayers help his soul to find peace.
i was kinda hesitant to post such sensitive topic here in mylot, but im glad i just did, at least now i know that 3 more people uttered a prayer for my godson's soul.
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@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I am glad that posting has brought you a little comfort during this time. That is the great thing about mylot, it can be so helpful in making us feel better in our hard times. I will not only pray for your God son but also for you so that God may send you comfort and peace. God bless you.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Aug 08
how very sad that that child was not gotten out of such an awful situation. they should take jewelry cleaner & pour it down both parents . i know the dad was doing the dirty but the mother was standing by doing nothing about it. there's no way i would let anyone mistreat my children or grandchildren. i'm sorry for u, iknow it was devastating. where did you migrate from? i hadn't heard from in a day or two had wondered if you were sick. good to hear from you even tho it's w/such a sad story.
@lipsticknladdles (814)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i was from the Philippines, the economy is so low that poverty has eaten the filipinos. i dont know if you have heard of another sad story from the philippines. an 8 year old kid killed herself with a rope because she is too tired of being embarassed in school since she dont have the money to buy all the projects requires. its really, really sad.
im ok, just took a little break from mylot, need to focus on my online school for a while.
i hope you're doing good & its good to hear from you too.
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@3cardmonte (5098)
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26 Aug 08
amen,i think you just said what everybody was thinking
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