to make an enemy do someone a favor?
By skenthal
@skenthal (1020)
Turkey
August 26, 2008 5:51pm CST
I once helped a buddy out. He was dying to go out with this girl and begged me to put in a good word for him. I didn’t think much of the favor and did it. I said a few good things about the kid and soon they are together all the time. A few months later, my buddy broke up with the girl and blamed me for hooking them up. He said I should have warned him about how crazy the girl was and never should have said anything or gotten involved…now how did I go from doing him a favor to being the one to blame? Is it true that to make an enemy all you have to do is a favor for someone?
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@bigtom1 (1573)
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27 Aug 08
People who point fingers at others are usually the ones to blame and he should infact be thanking you for your service as you just showed how committed you are to helping others. He wanted you to hook them up and not conduct a search on the girls behaviour and you did just that. You did not get involved at all, he got you involved so just close your ears whenever he goes on about that again. He does not deserve a friend like you.
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@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Sounds like your friend just likes to blame others for his problems and mistakes. He needs to grow up a little. It is no way your fault that him and this girl did not work out. You were in a no win situation there. Had you said no and told him she was crazy he would have wanted her more and been mad at you for not setting him up. I think that saying does have some truth to it.
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I don't think your friend should blame you for them breaking up, I think even if you did no she was crazy that wouldn't have stopped him from going out with her. Maybe he's not really mad at you; but himself from the breakup,and finding out this girl wasn't who he thought she was. I think in due time he'll get over it,and you guys will still be friends.
@metalhalo (599)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Pssh..I think I would've reminded him who exactly it was begging you to put in a good word about him to this "crazy" girl. Doesn't sound like it was her that had the mental problem...
I really don't mind doing favors for others as long as I feel some sort of appreciation for my effort. If it becomes a ritual of neverending favors..
well that just gets annoying. I think it goes both ways too...is the person willing to do a favor me as well?
I really don't mind doing favors for others as long as I feel some sort of appreciation for my effort. If it becomes a ritual of neverending favors..well that just gets annoying. I think it goes both ways too...is the person willing to do a favor me as well?