giving second chances... are you up to it?

it really depends. i believe that trust once destroyed is hard to fix, but it depends on the sincerity of the person, if i still love him, if he still respects me and the degree of the fault done in the past. if what he has done in the past is really not that big, and i know that he is really sorry and he is asking for another chance, that's okay with me. i can't imagine losing somebody i love for stupid reasons. but trusting him totally again will take time and he will have to prove that he can still be trusted too.

I have always given second chance to everyone who has broken my heart, my trust. If they are sorry and admit they have done it wrong, then they sure deserve forgiveness. The following words are getting a little meaningless in nowadays world like mercy, faith and kindness. Every one is running fastly, don't know where he wants to reach. People racing to be on moon first I guess. If man is rich, he still be worried. You know it very well that the tree branches bend if they have fruit on them, so why not you bend a little so God can give you juicey and tasty fruits in your life.

Ohhh, based on my own experienced, i am 5 years separated with my husband now. and i can surely say that i could never,never let back the trust i have with him before and the intensity of love i feel for him. And would u believe that i cant even forgive him??? Lol!!! I am more happy without him now that i having him in my life... all i know is losing him was never been my loss... because i know that i did my best and i was a good wife for him...

I tell people that I am a "three chance" woman, that is, I will give you three chances and I will forgive you all three times, BUT, if you have to reach round three, be sure that there won't be a round four because that shows you do not respect me and because I kepe forgiving you, instead of patching up the pieces, you keep doing the same thing over and over again and as such do not deserve any mroe chances...time to part ways. While the love and trust may be changed, I will still give that person a chance to prove that they deserve my love and trust 100% again

Its easy for me to forgive someone,but the hard thing is I dont want to trust him anymore,and I dont want to start a new life with him,because when you get hurt It always remain in your heart,so Its better not to see him anymore and move on.well thats my own opinion.

The only time I would ever give someone another chance is when I'm finally and truly over that hurt he/she caused me. And that means a clean slate. For me, there is no point in giving someone another chance if in some way, I still hold a grudge for that someone and still have some trust issues. I believe I never could give the same kind of affection and trust I once hold for that person if at the back of my mind, I worry that it's going to happen again. So it may take a long time for me to get over a hurt, but when I finally do and am ready to try again, then that means I've sincerely forgiven that person. I have to add though that I believe if someone cheated, that person's more likely to cheat again. I've had at least two friends who went through this experience and I know I shouldn't generalize but I just came to a conclusion that I would be better off not giving that person another chance if that happened to me. And as for the people they cheated with and decided to be in a relationship with, if he/she did that to his/her previous partner, then what makes you so sure he/she won't do it to you with someone else?

I give everyone exactly three chances. Mind you, this is for major occurences, small stuff doesn't really count. A person gets to hurt me that badly three times before the toll is due. I give everyone full warning of this rule of mine. Three may seem like alot or too little to some people, but it's all I can manage.

everybody deserves a second chance...for me, as long as he really feels sorry and also if he is willing to change...i can give him a second chance..but he has to really work on it..the trust is broken,,it is hard to repair but can be repaired..

I believe in second chances when it comes to trust. But when it's broken again it's over. After a couple of times it's hard to get it back. Why bother with someone when there is always doubt in your mind? You can only take being hurt so much when you have to cut ties and move forward.

I am a person who can forgive people but not so easily, it is sometimes hard to start anew on someone who hurt you, I know, we are not that perfect and I can commit mistakes too, but I often saw myself distant to the one who hurt me and its difficult to gain back the trust given and the pain inflicted, through time, maybe we can be close as we used to.

It's hard to say, first I think that one has to find himself in such a situatione and then valuate from case to case, and important is which kind of relationship ist and how solid it is, what hey have in common, if it was a sexuall desire or also something more emotionall..are to many the things to evaluate for give an exact answer... Nun

I agree. Trust is the main key to keep the relationship intact but once it's broken and it's really hard to pick up the pieces. In my case, i've experienced to be betrayed by my one and only love but i gave our relationship another shot and it worked. =) Everybody deserves a second chance so why not give it a try?