Should I ask for financial support from the father of my child?

Hi, I think he should support your daughter in the first place and doesn't have to ask for.It may not easy for you to track him down, but If you still have contact with his family maybe try to explain your situation with them and ask them to help you find the father. Your daughter has the right of getting a support since she was born or to have contact to his father all the time, even he has a new family. I hope that you will find a way to better your situation as soon as possible.

Hi! In answer to the question you posted as title, YES. Do ask for support from your child's father. In this country, it's within the law. And I should say, it has become a moral and emotional issue already, considering that your daughter has been trying to reach out to her father. If you haven't done it yet, maybe you could first try and email him yourself, explaining your situation. Maybe you can also send him communication through his employers or employment agency. God bless you and your daughter.

why not? i guess it depends what country you live in but here in north america you can take your husband to court and get money from him. i dont know what its like in the philippines. can you do that?

I just have to ask, why has he not paid any support up til now? After 9 years, he probably does have his own life, possibly a wife and children, so after 9 years you'll be lucky if you locate him. Who made the decision in the first place that he would pay no support? If it was you who decided to raise her on your own, I think you need to explain that to her. That you chose to raise her without his help and now times are tough and she may have to change schools.

Hi, your situation sounds like mind but only my sons did not carries his father surname. we both plan to have baby before. and I tried to ask financial support from him. he work in cebu pacific ticketing office which is quite better job in the Philippines. since the baby born I haven't recieve anything from him. I kept texting him till the baby was 3 months old. then I stop. we gonna sturve if I wait for his reply. right now my son is 3 yrs olds and I still havent heard from him. So far I am very blessed co'z I found my american hsuband and I am here in U.S.A. I think I can support him until he grow older. he don't need an irresponsible father.

as the father of your child been signed the child's birth certificate that means that he is acceptiing that he is the father and the responsiblity that he has to his child.Contact him via email or ask friends who know him for his whereabouts. You really doing your responsibility to your child and its his turn now to do his turn.If you can't really find him because he doesn't have an intension to show up, well just find another way, another job to support your child.Coz you can't force someone to do something if he really dont want to do it.

Yes, you definitly need to try to find him. Regardless of how much money you were making, you still should have gone for child support just in case something like this happened. I know, woulda shoulda coulda, you may have already thought about that. But yes, He's the father, he should pay, even if he does have another family. That was his choice.

You should have gotten support from the beginning. You should first try to get in touch with him and or his family. If that does not work, and if he is still a citizen, you should try the courts. Is there a family services there? If there is, then you can go through the courts. They should be able to find out where he is and garnishee his wages.

ohhh....that is very sad! I mean I can't imagine him not helping out for the child's education! I guess the explanation needs to be more legal, I mean hope we will have here members who have the same experience and will give you some guide about this issue!

I think that you should ask for child support. Don't take this the wrong way, but he helped make the child, he should help support her. Even though it has been awhile, he should still have to pay child support. In the U.S. if the father is on the birth certificate the father is responsible for supporting the child. I hope that things get better.

yes, you should. He does have a share in bringing the child into the world and therefore he does have a responsibility. There should not be a question about this. I believe this is a natural responsibility.

It is a sad situation for you and I wish I knew what to tell you. I feel sorry for your daughter. Break ups with children involved are not always easy. Monetary problems are not good but the emotional repercussions for your daughter can be harder to deal with. Just be there for your daughter and I can tell you that the father took part in her conception and should be responsible for her wherever he may be.

I think just tell your duaghter to mail her dad.Because as you said that they only communicate throught internet.I think her dad was just busy just wait untill he will reply cause theres nothing you can do now just wait untill he reply and if he relply try to ask a help to him i think he will understand your situation.

Absolutely he should be paying child support! You need help and he is her father. I would see about locating him. You can do this through various means. I don't know the laws there, but I'm pretty sure the court would side with you on this matter.

You can never erase the fact that your daughter will always have one biological father. He should be there to support. It's a must. If he can't afford to do such, he should be asking and seeking help from his relatives just to support his daughter with you. If he has his own family already, he is responsible for your daughter. If everything goes wrong, you should consult a lawyer about this case. Happy posting.

hi,gne925.. I was in your shoes a few years back.. Definitely, ask for support.He gave his name and signed the birth certificate, so, you have grounds for financial support, even though you're not married,that is the law.He claimed to be the father, so the law says he must act as one. UNLESS, HE CAN PROVE THAT HE IS JOBLESS OR BANKRUPT,that is another thing.For how can he provide, if he doesn't have any money. UNLESS, the court obliges him to find a job so he can give support. You mentioned you will go to PAO or Public Attorney's Office and ask for their help..That is a great idea. I have gone to a private one to speed up the case but mind you, I also dont have work at that time. The money came from my boyfriend who is my husband now. His reason was, he wanted what is right for my son. Not only monetary but also the right to be known as his biological son. But be prepared for what is coming. PAO have tons of cases in their hands. You might be surprised when you find out that they will schedule you for JUST a preliminary interview after a few months from the first encounter. If you can find a LADY lawyer who is married and have kids, your chances are higher, because they will feel for you and your daughter, for they are women and have kids too.. But before going to a lawyer, you must secure the following documents: 1. Authenticated CERTIFIED XEROX COPY of your daughter's Birth Certificate from NSO. Be sure that the page where the father signed his ACKNOWLEDGMENT is present and is also certified..If you decide to go to court for support,this is one pertinent document that you will need. 2. Get a CERTIFIED XEROX COPY from POEA or Philippine Overseas Employment Agency, of the father's Work Information. If you say that he works in Dubai, he should have a file at POEA, whether it is land based or not, direct hired or thru an agency here, UNLESS he falsified his documents or entered other country illegaly. Ask someone there where you can a copy of your exes files.They would ask for his complete name and where you think he was the last time you communicated. If you already have his file, go to their overseas help desk and ask what they can do with this kind of problem. Keep in mind that you are not married, therefor, you have no legal basis to sue him, or I may be wrong, just ask them. I have gone through this all. My problem was the same as yours. The POEA personel said that since my ex works in Japan, they have no jurisdiction, the lawyer said that too. What POEA can do was send the employer a letter that i am asking for support. But they cannot guarantee it because he was out of the Philippine's jurisdiction. Now, I don't want you to lose all hope. That was my case. yours might be different and could be successful. If he has a local agency, you could go there and tell your story. It might be embarrassing for some, to be looked at, like begging for money,but for me,I couldn't care less. This is my kid's battle too and I would do anything to win it for the kid. They could send the overseas employer a letter too. Best if you already have a "demand letter" ready signed by a counsel,and notarized, to make it legal. He could ignore the letter, and pity, you can't do anything about it. But, pray that he won't ignore and come to his senses that his daughter needs him now.. If, the lawyer says that you have basis for financial support and he is within the jurisdiction, then go for it. Be ready for it will be a long battle. It could take years and by that time, you are stable again and won't be needing him anymore. For the meantime, look for a job so you will be able to support your needs. STRIVE HARD, SO YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO DEAL WITH A VERY IRRESPONSIBLE FATHER. Take this ordeal as a trial for you and make this your obsession, so your daughter wont have to "beg".. My kid is in a way fortunate, because his dad finally realized that his son needs him financially, because my son has some physical disabilities and requires proper management, and that costs a lot.. I pray that your daughter will get what she deserves. I pray that the father will soon come to his senses or may his conscience bother him for the rest of his life for abandoning an angel...

Good day... I'm sorry about your plight but reading and understanding your post I've come to a conclusion that it's going to be hard or near impossible to ask support from the father, since he's already been out from both of your lives for 9 years emotionally, physically and financially. I just hope you can find other means of supporting your child's schooling and not wait for his or his family's help. It's just annoying to see a man's irresponsibility that can possibly deter a child's potential and might ruin their future. I just can't imagine it.

i guess if you were the one for not accepting his support then it will be really hard to get it now. in the beginning you should have thought about your daughter instead of thinking about your self-esteem. i hope you do find him & he agrees to support you in future.

hi, you know I understand your situation very well and we both have the same problem right now, the only difference we have.. my son was never been acknowledge by his father. And even I want to file a case I can't able to do it not unless I can prove to the court that he is the biological father of my son and that is through DNA test which is a very expensive one and that costs 18thousand each and DNA must be conducted for the 3 of us and since I am the petitioner I will be the one to shoulder the amount, that is according to the lawyer. I consulted about this matter because like you I wanted to ask for a financial support in a legal way. That time he was working in Saudi. My son is already 18 years old and I never ask or beg any single cent for 18years but like you I am now financially incapacitated. Although the father is already here in our country and I know his location it's so difficult to talk to him because his wife doesn't know up to now that he has a son to me.thanks to my best friend,(my best friend was the one who gave you a long advice.. eidhra..) she managed to talk to the secretary , he has his own business now and fabricate a story so we could talk to him. Then, we saw each other and talked about our son and told him that it's about time for him to give financial support, he said he would do it but what irritates me he hasn't called yet and didn't do what he promised. So you see it's difficult to rely in verbal agreement and I can't do any legal move not unless I have enough money to spend for the DNA thing in order for me to get the financial support due for my son.To think that for 18 years I never ask anything and he haven't seen his son also for that long years. So if I were you follow my bestfriend's (eidhra) advice because you have a bigger chance to win the case since your daughter is acknowledged by the father. I've witnessed eidhra's case and tell you it was really a long procedure and you need a long patience but surely it's worth waiting for...Fight for your daughter's right. Ok Good luck to you and I'll pray for your courage. God bless

the father of the child should take responsibilty of the child. even if both of you dont live together but the fact that he is the father entitles him to every responsibilities he has for the child:D