I am hating life right now miussing my grandsons
By Lafemcrafts
@Lafemcrafts (475)
United States
August 27, 2008 12:41pm CST
I am learning my lots is a great place to vent.. so here I go .. My daughter and I are on bad terms .. she lived with me for over a year .. had her third child ( 3 diffrent men ) and moved back home to have her son.. The father of the third one had mistreated my daughter to make her want to come back home.. drugs .. abuse .. endless calls here all night long.. She feared for herself and her boys.. She started to see him again.. moved out .. caused promblems with my parents and me and I was have not been allowed to know where she lives.. her phone number.. or see my grandsons whom all were born and raised in m,y home .. my eldest grandson spends his summer in fla with his dad.. his dad called me over a month ago told me he had a suprise for me .. he put my grandson on the phone.. we have been speaking a few times a week .. His dad was suppose to bring him here to see me before he took him to his mothers.. well he's been fighting with her .. and I told him look .. I don't wand my grandson upset.. chocking up I asked him to bring him stright home to his mothers .. my heart is breaking .. thease 3 boys are my world and I miss them so.. the baby who was 6 months old when she left more then likly would not know who I am anymore.. I am sitting here crying my eyes out aching to see there sweet faces once again . I have to go to work and I know my make up ius running down my face.. I am just hating life today .. I love my family but I just wish they would love me back .
thanks for letting me vent and reading
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3 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I'm so sorry that you're feeling so down right now. A few things came to mind while I was reading your post. First of all, as a survivor of an abusive relationship I can tell you that this man is intentionally keeping your daughter cut off and isolated in order to have more control over her. My ex was very good at manipulation and he engineered a fight between my sister and my parents and me so that contact between us would be cut off and he kept it that way by reminding me that they did not care about me. Eventually your daughter will get her senses back and I hope that you will be able to forgive her for the many ways that she has hurt you when that happens.
The second thing that popped into my head is that you have rights as a grandparent. Because you have an established, close relationship with those boys you can file for visitation rights just like a non-custodial parent can and you can usually do it without having to hire an attorney. I know that I don't have to tell you that those boys love you, too, and miss you so you might want to consider calling the Clerk of the Court's office in your area and find out what the procedure is for filing for visitation. In many areas you can find the forms online and it's just a matter of turning in the paperwork and having a court date set. I think this would be a good thing for all of you...you will get to see your grandsons regularly, they will get to see you regularly and the lines of communication will be open (sorta) with your daughter.
If you're interested in looking into this and need any help or advice PM me and I'll be happy to help you.
@Lafemcrafts (475)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Thank you very much for your advice.. I have been talking to my husband about doing the same exact thing but I was not sure how to go about it or where to even start.. I would love your help I will ask you to be my friend and then I will e mail you on where and how to go about starting..
great advice and thank you so much for posting
@painkiller77 (2073)
• India
28 Aug 08
see, love takes some time to be reciprocated. little girl, have some patience. people always tend to understand your value when you are far away. then only they realise your worth. otherwise they take you for granted and pile up problems upon you. may the almighty be with you. ALL THE VERY BEST
@Lafemcrafts (475)
• United States
28 Aug 08
thank you painkiller for your post.. and for your kind words .. I am feeling a little better today about the whole thing but myheart is still broken. all three of those boys were born from my home and raised in my home ... it just hurts to miss there birthdays .. seeing them .. playing with them .. and cuddling them ..
hugs
me
@Lafemcrafts (475)
• United States
31 Aug 08
thank you for your comment .. I just miss them awfull .. starting my paper work for the courts so I can get to see them .. keep your fingers crossed for me ..
Hugs
me
@painkiller77 (2073)
• India
31 Aug 08
time is the best healer. give yourself some time. also allow them to think . they will surely feel your absence and they will return back. to you, for all your love you have given them. after that, they will stay with you till eternity..bye little girl..
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@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
27 Aug 08
You poor thing, that's an awful situation. I'm mentally hugging you right now! I hope things get better...most situations like this tend to improve on their own over time.
I know it's hard with you not knowing her phone number or address, but is there any way for you to reach out to her? It sounds like you and the first dad are on good terms - could he casually let her know how you're doing and that you love her and miss her and you love and miss the boys?
