Seeing the Ex Tomorrow
By SinfulSweet
@SinfulSweet (146)
Canada
August 27, 2008 8:58pm CST
I am seeing my ex tomorrow, I don't really have much of a choice as he is the father of the child I am carrying right now. I am not sure how I am feeling about it to be totally honest with you. Almost a year ago we had a huge fight and I told him to go on with his life. Well he showed up on my door step and pretty much told me that he wanted to marry me and have children with me and I took him back.
I feel a fool now, cause as soon as I did get pregnant he has been a totally different man. The plans that we had for my son and I to move in were suddenly out the window and then he became more and more distant... there is always an excuse as to why we can't see each other. Not only do I feel hurt, but my son feels rejected too.
So he is coming down for the ultrasound tomorrow but I really don't know how I feel about it. I'm not sure I can forgive him for being so insensitive and not being there for me when I need him the most... I'm just not sure I am woman enough to forgive him right now. Oh and to top it off a few days I asked him if we could get together for labor day weekend, and he said sure... now he has plans to help his buddy fix his house... makes me feel pretty low on the priority list and I will not have my daughter thinking that she is not a priority in his life... what do I do, do I forgive and see where things go or am I justified in being pissed off and more than just a little jaded of him at this point?
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
29 Aug 08
Well, I guess by now you have seen him...
So sorry that you have to go through all of this and I know that you are not looking for sympathy but it is sad that no one has responded here and I think you deserve to have some support on this!
I have no idea why some men are the way they are but unfortunately if they are going to change it often occurs when a child is brought into the picture!!
I do believe that "Honesty is the best policy" and "Forgiveness is the key" even if it is old and considered cliche but you also have to do the best thing for both your son and your daughter...when is she due?
I do want to congratulate you on your courage and your new little one!
I do hope that your day went well despite all that has gone....It seems like you have had quite a week!
Take Care
~Heavens~
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I just saw your discussion today and it is two weeks ago. I would be leery of your ex. He wasn't there when you needed him and he shows up now. I would be doing some serious talking to him. Your kids deserve to know that they come first with their mom and dad. I would explain to him that with his kids his priority is that they should come first, no excuses because kids should never feel like they are second they should always know they are first. It is more than understandable that you are pissed off. If he made plans with you than he should keep them. It would be hard but you need to forgive him for yourself. You are only hurting yourself if you don't forgive him because whenever you think about what he has done you will get upset all over again. It is not worth doing that because it will make you sick and you don't want him having that kind of control over you.
