do you expect an "i love you" back?
By kayedanda
@kayedanda (1850)
Philippines
August 27, 2008 11:40pm CST
when you say "i love you" to someone, do you expect the person to say the same words back? in my case, if my husband is the one i am saying it too, then i would expect him to answer, if not the same words then something like "too" or "more". i need to hear him say something to affirm our feelings for each other on a daily basis. if you ask if i'm the jealous type, yes, i am. i guess that's the reason why i to hear him say he loves me too all the time. when i say i love him before going to sleep and he is already drowsy, i'd wake up him just so he'd be able to say he loves me too. hehehe.
but when it comes to my other loved ones (like my mom and my sisters), i don't expect them to say the same. maybe because i am secure in how they feel about me, having known me all my life.
how about you? do you expect an "i love you" back? :D
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23 responses
@Santkumar (2)
• Norway
29 Aug 08
Love is very important part of life but it is not everything for life.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
29 Aug 08
Hello kayedanda,
I love to show my affection to my husband but he doesn't. For him, personal affection is only between the two of us, not for public to see. Unfortunately, my husband is not a romantic type too. It is not all the times he will reply whenever I say I love you to him. So, I get used not to hear a positive reply from him *smiles* But if he is the one who says it first to me, he expects to hear the same from me!
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@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
28 Aug 08
I do expect an "I love you" back when I say it to my hubby. Like you, I need to hear everyday, but I think my hubby is a bit oblivious to what I want.
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
aw. then you should make it more obvious :p
like i do with my husband, i nag him until he says he loves me too. hee hee. even if i DO know he loves me because he shows it through his actions, i still need to hear the words everyday. idk, it just makes me glow inside to hear him say that to me, even if i have to FORCE him to say it to me. haha! :p
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
I do but it's okay if I don't get that back as long as the person has a positive reaction. :)
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@johmonster17 (19)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
Hello,
Of course I expect the word to come back to me.Last time I said I love you to a special someone, unfortunately she just smile and turn her back on me..Ouch, that's really hurt.Maybe because I'm such a loser.
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
oh. Don't think of it that way. maybe she didn't hear you well enough? don't ever think you're a loser just because somebody else did not answer back. it's the other person that has so much to lose, not you:)
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Yes, I always expect an "I love you" back from my boyfriend because the minute he stops saying it, is the moment that I am sure that he does not love me anymore. As long as I keep saying it to him, he better keep saying it to me. And as long as he says it to me, I will always say it to him.
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I think we all expect an I love you back, whenever we say that to someone. My husband usually says it to me first, then I'll say it back to him, if for some reason I don't he'll look at me like he's waiting for me to say it..lol. I grew up in a home where we didn't show that much affection for each other, that's just the way my culture is, I knew my grandparents loved me by the things they did for me, they didn't have to say it. So when I got married, my husband showed me affection all the time, like always hugging me or holding my hand, and he'd always say I love you. It felt odd for me to do that, but I finally got used to telling him that too, and got used to him hugging and holding my hand all the time, I mean it was even hard for me to say Thank You to anyone...lol.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Well what matters to me is that I have said it to someone. Well for it's meaning to stay true it must really come from the heart. I really don't expect my girlfriend to say that to me always but I know in her heart that she loves me too. 
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
It's kinda a routine for us, I say I love you and he says i love you too, I think I could never think of any situation that he said it first (I am the vocal one) it has become a habit that sometimes when he speak to someone in the phone he almost said I love you too so much
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@playmateshorty (365)
• United States
29 Aug 08
im the same way!!! haha. I do expect my husband to say i love you back, you never know what tomorrows going to bring...
other people...not so much.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
28 Aug 08
It really depends who I am saying it to at the time to be honest. I will generally expect one back, as I think it's just rude not to reply to something like that when someone says it to you. But, at the same time, I think it's bad to say it when you don't mean it. So I guess I would only want a person to say it to me if they truely meant it.
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@Fairygrl (348)
• United States
28 Aug 08
When I say "I love you" I do expect someone to respond... Forexample im in a relationship and I feel if I say I love you and you feel the same way then you should respond.. So I know we both feel the same way.. What good is a relationship if you dont feel the same way or agree on the same things.
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@4my1nonly (352)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
Yes,when i say iloveyou with my husband i'm always expecting him to answer me, but it's also ok with me if he can't reply as long as he show to me that he loves me.Action speaks better than words...^__^
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@falassion (419)
• Brazil
28 Aug 08
Yeah, I always expect an "I love you" back, but I kinda get upset with the answers normally.
I'm the kind of person that kinda needs to hear something to affirm what the person is feeling, and by not hearing it back, I feel kinda insecure.
Great topic, by the way. Very creative. =)
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I only say I love you when I really mean it so I think the same way for the other person. I'd rather he/she say those three words back if he/she really means it.
It would be nice to hear them say the same thing back to you but I believe that if you love someone and you just want to let them know you love them, you can't expect them to say I love you back to validate your own feelings.
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@davipiero (175)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 08
Yeah sometimes. With my girlfriend, i want her to say back to me. But, remember, too much saying "i love you" will make this loosing its power. Believe me!
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