Who takes care of you kids when you go to work?...

I don't trust anyone. Now when I go to work, my younger one comes with me. He goes to the toddler group where I teach kindergarten and he stays back at school till I finish my work and we come home together. So, besides his teacher who takes care of him during school hours, I am the one who takes care of him. My older son is 8 and I have a neighbour who is a very good friend and I leave him there if I REALLY need to go anywhere. But I can't leave my younger one who is 21 months with anyone. If I really need to go somewhere and where I can't take him, I usually ask my house help to accompany me and leave him outside with her. She takes good care of him but I can't really leave her alone at home with him....she's young and wouldn't know what to do in case of an emergency. My in-laws live in another state and my parents in another continent! And anyways, my younger one would not stay with either one.....feeding him is really tough when someone else (including my husband) does it.

Hi, asertedd, we usually ask girl who is our friend to take care about our 1,9 years old sun. My wife is thinking to go to work in a short while, so we are going to hire our friend for full time to take care of child. And we have a 12 years old daughter, she also takes care of her small brother when we are absent for short time.

When i was working i have to leave my baby girl to my own mom and then my baby will go to his lola(my mother n-law) i pitch him every night and bring him there every morning which is so very tiresome because he cries everytime i leave him there. He ends up very sickly and also my daughter always go to the doctor and my work was very much affected..i decided to resign from my job and stay home and take good care of my kids, now they are all 3 kids, i just had another baby (she is now 2 months old) and i look after the three of them, its hard coz sometimes im left alone with three small children...but i manage even if its very exhausting...but yeah i love them and they are very dear to me...i could never leave them again in exchange for work...that is why im trying to be a working mother homebased that is...smile.

[i]HI aseretdd, My friends here have babysitter whom they trusted a lot and working with them for quite sometime, so, when they want to do something, they can just drop the kids to the babysitter's house and enjoy works or appointments with less worries and hassles! My friends and relative back home, they can always ask their parents also and in-laws to take care the kids , that is nice there![/i]

I'm a stay at home dad but not a shackled at home dad. If I have to leave and my wife's at work I just take the little wonders with me. It gives them a chance to see how things work in the world. Sometimes when my hair falls out after turning grey in one day my wife will "send me to the store" so I can get some fresh air. We move a lot and family is usually 24 to 10 hours away so they depend on me to take them places and do stuff. Often times I'm the only stay at home dad where I'm at so I've got a nice iPOD to keep me entertained while the kids do their thing.

When I read your post it seemed like a great discussion to respond to. When it comes to my children I'm the stay-home mom and my husband is the working one. We live appox. 1 block from his parents and appox. 4 blocks from my parents. my youngest is only going on 4 months and we have gotten rid of our boys only about 4 times since we had him. And before we did have him the last time we were able to have time alone was about a good 3 months before we had our youngest. So they are always almost with us. My mom said she would love take them more then what she does but when she still has 3 teens living at home and one of them has a child of her own and when she has almost a 2 year old that she adopted it's hard for her cause she has a busy life which I understand cause my parents hardly ever get time alone or get to leave without the kids. Today is the first time in about a good 5 months and it is to go to a funurel. And as for his parents we arent to sure why they cant take our boys over night at least once week when they take the other grandchildren over night as much as they can. The way we do it here is that when he comes home from work he takes care of the boys and gives me a couple hours to myself on the computer and if he ever wants to take a walk without the children he does.

My daughter just started daycare last week. She is two years old. Before that my grandma was watching her while I was working but she is getting up in age and it was hard for her to keep up with a very active toddler. Plus my baby never gets to be around other children so I thought daycare would be a good experience for her.

when my kids were small hubby and i worked different hours and swtiched them between us. it was hard but i tried daycare once for a few months and well they hated it, i hated it, they got sick, it was a nightmare. when they got older we moved to the country so that the price of living was cheaper and well i went to work and hubby stayed home and does odd jobs, etc. we home school the kids too so therefore he has a full time job with that lol. i have let family members watch the kids a few times and well it was not a good idea. i have a sister n law that i would let the kids stay with and shoot i will let them go to her house for a week during summer. she is great but she lives 4 hours away so that doesnt happen often. now that the kids are 11 and 13 they stay home alone when we go to the store soemtimes cause we are gone like 30 mins and the neighbor watches the house lol.

You are so lucky to have them to take good care of your child. My child goes to the kindergarten everyday except for Saturday and Sunday. When I go to work, then my aunt will send him to kindergarten in the morning and also take him home in the afternoon. After that, my mom will look after him until I am home. I love China

well, whenever im at work, i leave my son to our yaya, good thing that all the maids that we got lately is trustworthy and really taking good care of my son 1year old

Dear friend, My sister's son is 2 year old and most of days my sister leave her child at my parents before she is going to her office. Luckily my sister and her husband house is just near to our home. It is my parents who looks after my sister's son.

I have a 10 year old son and my mother or my sister takes him when I have to work. If they are not available my grandparents do it. I have it good though, I only work 9-3 so he is in school while I work most of the time. Other than shool breaks or my Saturday job when my sister takes him.

I am a stay at home mother of a 4 & 1 1/2 year old. I use to have family that kept my 4 yr old when she was a baby where me and my husband could go out, but not anymore. I stay at home because its too expensive to put them in a good daycare and only get a babysitter which is a friend of mine and thats only on occasions. My dad will watch the oldest sometimes, but he gets stressed real easy when it comes to kids. The fact is no one can care for your kids the way you do!!

I have a younger brother, and I have always had to look after him when my Mum and Dad were working. Before I was old enough to look after him though my Grandparents would come up during the day, but it's getting to be too much bother for them now, so I have offered to step in (I am adult after all.) and take time out from my social life whenever they need me to. They did offer to pay me the same rate that a babysitter would get, but I turned them down as they have done so much for me in the past and I would not be the person I am today without them.

I look after my son as I am not working. I am a parent looking for job, but was never fortunate. I am happy that my son has grown well under mu guidance and for that reason I am happy. At times, I take help of my friend to take care at times,not always. Else, I ask my husband to adjust at his office to take care for few hours when I go out. My husband can work from home if required.

Well I am so very lucky to have had in-laws who took care of my son since he was born. I rejoined my office leaving my 45 days old baby to my MIL who has since cared for him. Recently I have moved out of my in-laws house and stay near my parents, so now I keep my son with them.

Hello aseretdd, I am lucky to have a good babysitter who loves my son like her own. Her own children are all grown up except the youngest daughter who is 9 years old now. She takes care of my baby son from 7a.m. to 5 p.m. during weekdays. Whenever I go out, I will bring my baby son with me. My eldest sister lives nearby my house and in case of emergency, I will always ask for her help. Anyway, she has been thinking to take care of my son when she retires next two year *smiles*

I'm a single mother and I really need to go to work for me and my daughter's needs. When I go to work, my father takes care of her. Sometimes my mother when she's at home. Most of the time my daughter is left with my father. There is a disadvantage because my daughter become a spoiled brat. My father always give what my daughter wants. Because my father really don't know how to take care of toddlers sometimes when I go home, I can see my daughter very untidy and not yet eating dinner. When I see this I just want to quit working to take care of her but it's impossible. We will starve if I will not work. But infairness to my father even he didn't took care of us when we were young he is doing his best for my daughter.

I am sending my kids to the baby sitter. We are living away from our native place so my parents and in-laws are not available. Earlier my mother-in-law was with us to look after the elder one. She left us because of her aged problems (She is 74), the climate is also not suitable to her at this age. My mother is no more so I have no otherway. In the initial stage I have some problems but now the kids are also adjusted with the new atmosphere.

Well I am lucky that I always work from home so can work around the children. When they are at school I work all day, when they are on holidays then I only work a couple of hours in the afternoon. My hubsand works night shifts so he looks after the children. I try to fit my outings in when the children are at school or husband again looks after them. We don't seem to go out as a couple, costs too much