How Long Do You Hold Hatred in Your Heart?

They say,"Forgive and forget".And that love flourishes in giving and forgiving.I feel good when I read all this but in reality I feel when someone hurts you badly it is difficult to get over it.The pain remains i really don't know how long but it's there.I know its a waste of time and life just brooding over it.I try to get it out of me so that I can move on in life.I keep reading alot of self-help books and I try to get over this hate.I do not want to waste my life after all we have only one life.

if you can, just let bygones be bygones... such hatred thing really makes you feeling bad. maybe sometimes bury the lurking things is kinda good methods to make you feeling relax!

I neither forget nor forgive. I keep balances in my relationships. Hate never comes into play. There may be pain and sorrow, as well as wariness...but I don't really make the habit of hating people.

i cannot hold hatred inside for long, i can forgive easily but during the time that i am really hurt especially by the person i really love the most or i really treated as my own i is not easy for me to forget the pain. i can still remember this one group who purposely did hurt me, actually they are my "so called friends" then, not my really gal pals since they all graduated ahead of my, well this so called friends became my friends during my last semester in college and i really treated them nicely, i really thought they felt the same way towards me and that they really treat me as friends but i found out eventually that they only use me to pass the course. i was so hurt by that time.

Impossible for me to hold hatred in my heart for someone till I live. My anger and hatred is just like bubble burst on top of boiling water. I can't keep hatred in my heart as I am polite, soft spoken and kind hearted. This doesn't mean I don't get angry but my anger is temporary and it passes away.

It is easy to say forgive and forget and mean it 100%. Now I always forgive people of their trespasses because thats what it says in the bible. It says if you dont forgive them, why should the Father forgive you of your sins and trespasses. So I always forgive people, I don't forget, but I do forgive them because I do not want to be robbed of my blessings!!

Not for long nowadays because life is too short. Longest I held it for was maybe 10 to 15 years, but that just brought me down. If you do hold in anger too long then you are only hurting yourself in the end.

The "H" word has no place in my vocabulary nor my life so it will have never been in my heart in the first place! I will not even type it here and try to not even type it anywhere if possible. The only time I WILL state the word is when pointig out to someone that it is an emotion that we should all try to remove from our lives. It is such a strong word and should be buried alongside people like Hitler! No it is not easy to forgive and forget; and having feelings such as these will ensure that it is even HARDER. In my own opinion, removing this term and mindset from our lives is a massive step towards overcoming many obstacles or pains we may face.

I am an easy going person and that applies in my attitude to life n emotions.I dont hold hatred...i am easy to forgive but forget is something i cant do easily in some case as u rightly mentioned it depends on the circumstances... but over time..i think we tend to forget the incidents and go on to live.

For me, i don't hold hatred that long... I really have to forgive but not totally forget..there's no use holding this hatred in your heart..it will just cause you pain the same way to that person that you hate..take time to be healed with the pain..and when you're ready to forgive..then let go of that hatred in your heart...

I dont hold hatred in my heart... I can forgive but never forgets. For me, holding grudges will just give you more stressful moment in your life and I believe that I will never be happy if I have a heavy heart.

I have two type of hatred in my life, towards my family and people around me. I hate my family for not even making an effort to show me that they love me and they want to see me because they miss me not because they can get money from me. I hate an ex BF who talk advantage of my innocence about 4 years ago. I hold hatred longer that what I can remember but i have a role on my self, once that person apologize to me I can just cry and let go but while not I couldn't. I try though but i just really cant.

well....i hold hatred, until it comes out of my heart on its own, time heals all wounds, some times you can get burned so bad, that it takes a long time to forgive someone.

I can hold a grudge for a long long time. I know it's probably wrong and I shouldn't do it, but I really can't help it at all! I don't like apologising to people unless its really something I've done wrong, so if they're too stubborn to apologise I will never make the first move.

i can't really tell how long the hatred stays within my heart.. i think it depends on how much pain and anger i had.. but as much as possible, i try my best to let it go.. I always pray and ask for God's help in doing this because i know that with my own efforts, nothing will happen and the anger will go deeper within me.. yes, it hurts but it's better for me to let go of this pain to free myself from this awful feeling than to bare it and ruin a part of my life..