Do You Forget and Forgive Easily........!!!
By nupats
@nupats (3564)
India
August 28, 2008 5:11am CST
well about a month back a man had slapped my three year old son because my son was playing and accidentally bumped into this man and spilled his drink....so i was very furious and hurt because he has no right to hit my son for a small accident..i met him yesterday in the park and he came and apologized and said he was short tempered and felt sorry for having hit my son. i am still very furious with him and i dont think i will ever forgive him for not being kind and patient with a small kid. i just told him that i dont care what he feels and his sorry will not change the past and he had made my poor baby cry and even i felt miserable for days...all i said was sorry never makes a dead man alive and i just left him and went away...i am normally never so rigid but in this case i cannot forgive him and say it is alright. am i very rude or was i wrong? would you forgive and forget had you been in my place? do you easily forgive people? i find it very difficult to forget and forgive in some conditions.
6 responses
@ydb777 (36)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Forgiving him is important to do for yourself because it will free you from bitterness and hatred. Unforgiveness can steal your joy, but I understand how you feel. It would have probably very hard for me to forgive him also. I probably would have attacked him if it were my son and then felt bad about it later. Why didn't press charges on him. He had no right putting his hands on your child and that was assault and he could go to jail for that. But in the end we are suppose to forgive. Let the courts deal with him.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
28 Aug 08
hi dear thank you i am normally not so rigid but this guy i just cannot forgive..i still felt like boxing him in his face his very sight makes me angry..i hope i never see him again...seeing him just brings back the pain..yes there is a very bitter feeling because my son is just 3 years old and kids are so innocent..that guy is a monster
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I would have done the same thing. How many other mean things has he done and received forgiveness for? It's easy for him to lose his temper, he knows he'll be forgiven. Good for you! There's no excuse for treating a child that way and even if it was an adult he hit, still no excuse.
Let him stew, let it bother his conscience. He's old enough that he should have some self control. If it were a child, I'd say forgive them. But not an adult. He should have been apologizing to your son, not you. But then, your son would probably forgive him. Then he'd just do it again.
You did the right thing.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
3 Sep 08
Hi Neetu
well i am aware of that incident
but if u met this guy again yesterday and he says sorrys again it means that he realize his mistake so if i would be at ur place i might forget and forgive her. ome times ur do it impulsive and then u regret after that
And if one realisze and admit then u should also think of forgiving
Take care
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 Aug 08
No, never. I can't forget and forgive. You are right, that man has no right to slap your child. I can't tolerate if somebody scold my kids so I try my best to control them so that they won't do any wrong things to others. But kids are kids sometimes it happends. I can unerstand your pain. Time will heal the wound. Please enjoy with your son.
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
28 Aug 08
No you weren't wrong. When someone hurts children it's unforgivable. I am very against hitting children, even spanking it doesn't teach them anything except to hurt people when you are upset by what they have done, it makes me wonder if this man was abused as a child or what would make him so angry as an adult.
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