how would you react to someone whom you just found out to be a child molester?
By Aniakim
@Aniakim (351)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
August 28, 2008 8:32am CST
i have a cousin who has this foreigner friend she got to know through chatting on the internet. they have been having this long distance relationship for over a year now and they're scheduled to meet up early next year.
being a relative, my cousin introduced me to him and i have the opportunity of talking to him on the phone and through YM. He seems like a fine person and ever since, he'd been very transparent about how much he loves my cousin considering my cousin's present situation.
My cousin is married and is a self-confessed battered wife, that was what prompted her to start looking for someone else on the worldwide web in the first place. But the foreigner guy accepted her situation as it is, even if my cousin still lives in the same house with her son*****itch husband.
now, the point of the story is, a week ago, someone sent me a comment on my Zorpia account and told me that the foreigner guy is a "Child Molester." When I first read it, I couldn't believe it. I thought it was just a prank or just someone sourgraping on a past relationship on a warpath to destroy the others' reputation. But I told my cousin about the comment and I even have her see the comment for herself.
She asked the foreigner guy about it while they were chatting but he denied the said story. The following day, he sent my cousin an email, there he told the truth. That the "Child Molester" story was all true, that it happened years ago, that the victim was a relative and that he had been jailed for doing it but got out because his family made arrangements to settle the case. And the reason why he hadn't told my cousin about it is because he is afraid my cousin's not gonna talk to him again. He said he's a changed man, he had been rehabed and promised that things like that will never ever happen again.
My cousin don't know how to react to him after that revelation. She got scared knowing the guy's dark past. If you were my cousin, what would you do about the situation? Are you still going to talk to him?
2 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
now that is something i will have to think over if i was your cousin.
first: keeping it from your cousin is what people is presumed to do, i mean not all of us are walking cardboard with all our past written all over.
i agree though with our fellow mylotter that she might have stepped out of a problematic relationship only to enter to another one. he is a child molester, rehabilited, alright but as much as we would want to give people a chance, i shall say that just one stroke or mistake could bring up all his past behaviours.
@ydb777 (36)
• United States
28 Aug 08
That is a disaster waiting to happen. She will be losing one bad relationship just to enter another one. Why does she just feel like she has to have a man in her life after leaving an abusive relationship. I think you should talk her into spending time finding out what it is she really wants for her future. Tell her not to go looking for love but that when the time is right God will send her the right mate. I think she should end the relationship.
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Aug 08
In a way, the foreign guy has been a good influence to my cousin. It was with her relationship with the guy that she strives to better herself and be independent from her husband. She takes her strength from this new found love. It's because of him that she's starting to build her dreams - for her, for her kids, and for the soon to be complete family this guy promised her.
She got accepted to a job abroad and will leave the country next month. She wants to prove something to herself first, become accomplished and all these because of the guy who we just found out was a child molester.
I don't even know what to say to her or what to tell her to do. I know she's devasted by what she just found out and I want to help her really bad.