Why are some religions so dead set about marrying out of that religion?
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
August 28, 2008 9:47am CST
In today's news there is a story about a German woman who grew up Muslim (she is 25) and planned to marry a non-Muslim. She and her fiance visited the family in Turkey and he left before she did. When she didn't return on her planned flight, her fiance called the police. Apparently her had took her passport and return ticket, forcing her to stay in Turkey.
Can someone explain this to me? Why are some religions so dead set about marrying outside of their religion? Also, why is this father trying to control a 25 year old that doesn't even live under his roof?
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@kennycaxton2006 (82)
• Nigeria
29 Aug 08
i think that is not the right to do. i dont know why people are doing these. to me it does not really matter the religion the person is or where the person comes from u know. i think they should look deeply into it again. infact the truth is that if the guy actually love the girl i think there is nothing they will tell the guy that will make him to change mind. i think that kind of thing should be aborlished in our modern society. these kind of thing happen almost every where. but its not good.
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
28 Aug 08
i can only speak for my religion which is Christianity my scripture definatlly tells me not to join with a person of another FAITH
2 Corinthians 6: 14. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
15. What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
16. What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
17. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.
@filmore (44)
• Barbados
28 Aug 08
Hey Revdauphinee
I might be wrong, but I understood it as two different religions intertwining. They both are believers but are from different religious backgrounds.
I am Christian, but my husband is not. We were unbelievers when we were married, but I became a Christian after my marriage. However he has not committed to this faith as yet.
You are absolutely right about the scripture " do not yoke together ("righteousness and wickedness(a believer marrying a non believer.)) But what if they both believe in the same diety, but their religious practises were different?
Explain "a person of a another faith", they do not worshipping idols, but use the scriptures as a daily source of knowing God.
Remember God does not view religion as a plus, He searches us from the inside. Our Heart. We as human beings cannot tell what a person is like just by looking or even by their actions. People react differently to whatever situation, and sometimes we are surprised to see the most vicious criminal becoming humble at his/her breaking stage in life. These traits were already there, God knew this before they became criminals. He knew when it was the right time. If our hearts are in the right place with God, lining up with His Holyness, religion has no value. Our soul is more important to God. Only God can know how we really are, by looking into our hearts.
What are your views.
Filmore
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
28 Aug 08
for instance Muslims or Hindus or such not of the christian faith who worship different Gods such as Allah who has no sons when we worship Jesus the very son of our God!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
30 Aug 08
So if you found your soulmate and they were a different religion - even a different for of Christianity - you would not marry them?
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@property (453)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Very simply it is because of the children. The easiest way any church can increase its membership is from procreation. It is much easier to keep someone in the church than it is to "recruit" membership. This is why you have to convert to say Catholicism if you marry a Catholic and promise to raise any offspring as Catholic. Sure, there are other things too, but mostly it is because of the children. Family is very important still in some countries and familial influences are strong. i live in the U.S. Here families are spread out across the country and young people do as they please. i'm not sure that this is something that should be encouraged... but this is what society has embraced.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
30 Aug 08
A lot of people marry into a certain faith and then don't raise their kids that way or do raise their kids in that faith and then the kids don't like that faith. For example, my husbands family - all the kids were raised Catholic. He has 1 brother and 2 sisters. None of them are practicing Catholics. Out of the four 2 believe in a "god", one is an atheist and the last one isn't sure. My brother and I were raised Catholic and we don't prescribe to the faith either. Same goes for my 3 cousins. In both of our families our parents - and other family members - are still very active in the religious community.
Where was I going with this again? I forgot LOL... Oh yeah, just because you marry your own faith and you have kids and raise them in that faith, that doesn't mean the kids will follow the parents footsteps.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
29 Aug 08
Well, I suppose that she can marry the guy, provided he convert to her religion (that's what is required over here).
However, should they divorce, and the guy wants to convert out from that religion - it would be a big hassle! Sometimes it's just not worth the trouble!
@janaktank (28)
• India
29 Aug 08
that's not good and u have to talk to your familiy member for his and also have to convince for the same.
regards
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Aug 08
I remember reading about something like this before.
I guess its an extreme example for guys believing in property ownership.
Some people, especially in these very old societies, think this way.
Its wrong, of course, I think that woman would be crazy to marry under those circumstances.