Carpe diem; I now know what it means
By cyberfluf
@cyberfluf (4996)
Netherlands
August 28, 2008 12:28pm CST
I have been in contact with a girl over the internet for years and years, we had very good contact. We send each other cards but I never had the guts to call her and we allways were planning on meeting each other but it never would happen.
She died of Cystic Fibrosis last december, I only found out a couple of months ago because she wouldn't come online anymore and I feared the worst because I knew her condition. I saw het picture in an online shop she used to model for and that she had passed on and that they were collecting money for research on CF by selling bracelets or just a donation via paypal was possible too.
I cried my eyes out and never was more angry with myself for nor seizing the day, I will never have the oppertunity to meet her again.
This has changed my life and up to now I did not want to post about it but I think it is important to remind everyone how happy they should be being healthy and alive and please treasure every and any moment with your loved ones!
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7 responses
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
28 Aug 08
This is certainly a sad situation and I can understand how you must feel terrible about it. Hindsight is a wonderful thing I guess and all we can do is learn from it. But it doesn't mean that all is lost! Cystic Fibrosis is obviously not limited to this girl and surely there are others that you could assist in the way you did her? By doing so in a way you would be honoring her memory and making reparations for the way you regret how things turned out. We should definitely not just seize the day but seize every moment of every day! This life is short and we need to embrace the highs wherever and whenever we can.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 08
You are very right. I am studying to become and pedagogue and in this work we face children with dissabillties and illnesses every day. I have actually pondered about working as a pedagogue in en hospital with children with CF or other life threathening diseasses, but it sounds hard as you will also loose a lot of lifes along the way; you need to be very strong to do that.
I honoured her memory by passing the exam I had the next day, I owe it to her to become a good pedagogue and help other children and youngsters facing trouble, telling them to seize the day aswell.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
29 Aug 08
Yea, seize the day... a powerful phrase.
This is not an easy thing to do but succeeding will likely make you more productive, efficient and effective.
As for your said experience, well, that's life. We often don't know how to appreciate someone (enough) till it is too late. If you feel this has an impact on you, seize it to make carpe diem your phrase of the life.
Good luck! 
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 08
That's true. I don't think it was a lack of appreciation, it was merely not seizing the day and actually getting along meeting her; I guess from both sided bot she had the excuse she would get very sick from time to time so it was harder or impossible to travel. I will never make that mistake again.
Thanks for adding to this discussion.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 08
I think so too, and everyone is entitled to an opinion.
If I don't want responses that might hurt my feelings I should not put it out in the open; even though I do think making a statement should be something you do trying not to harm the other person. Thanks for your reply.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
29 Aug 08
If it makes you feel better, think it happened for a reason!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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28 Aug 08
Hi Cyberfluf, Oh I am so sorry for your loss of your friend, you may never have met her but you had beome close and thi is so sad to hear. Lost loved ones people we'll never see again but they will always know they hold a special place in our hearts eh! My thoughts and prayers are with all her friends and family, including you, even though you never met you were a frined too. Seize the moment I agree, count our blessing daily how ever small they may be a we are here. She is at peace now though bless. A big healing from the hurt huggle. Ellie :D
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 08
Thanks Ellie, I did send out a card to her mom as she knew we were in contact over the net and by letters and cards. Even though I did not get a response I know I did the best thing to at least let her know I am so sorry to hear what happened.
I was sad I didn't know earlier but I had no way of contacting her other then internet and letters basicly. Once again thanks for your sweet words.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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28 Aug 08
Hello cyberfluf,
Do not be too sad that you never got to met her, you were not meant to but you made her happy and was her friend and she knows that so that is what you have to treasure and be happy, she is watching you while you are thinking of her and being on online because you made her there.
Tamara
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@playmateshorty (365)
• United States
29 Aug 08
i am so sorry for you loss, i really truly am.
a life experience yet, that you learned...hard as it might be.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 08
True, some things are very hard but you learn from every experience.
Thanks for your kind words and thanks for adding to the discussion!
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jul 12
You know - this friend of yours is still helping you out by reminding you to seize every moment and opportunity that comes your way. Always make it happen and not simply pass you by. I know it's have to lose someone you had been communicating for so long. You simply have to forgive yourself and move on carrying with you the lesson of your mistake. I'm very sure that wherever she is, she is very proud of you.
I extend my sincere condolences to you for losing her through this illness.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
7 Aug 12
Thank you so much for your kind response. It's been a while since I visited Mylot and it sure is wonderful to see that after four years people are still finding this thread. It's a hard lesson indeed, but it doesn't go to waste when remembered for the future.
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I do agree that we should seize every moment in life and spend time with the people that are most important in our lives. Because you never know when it will be your last time with them. I always try to look at it that way when spending time with people and contacting people. I just recently got ahold of a friend that I have not talked to in a long time, for like 5 yrs and since then I promise myself I will never lose tuch with her. Because you never know what happens. I thank God every day that I am healthy and I try to seize every moment.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 08
That's wonderfull, sounds like you are doing a great job!
I just got back in contact with a girl who was my best friend in elementary school and we are going to meet up soon, I don't want to loose contact with her ever again either. It's great to have found her back and I don't want to make the same mistake and let it get away.
