Is this the end?

Hi dhangski please dont think that all is lost and over..you have a really good friend there he knows you are there for him..only our physical beings keep us apart but if he is in your heart you are in his and as such as a good friend he would feel lost if he lost you and your support..I have a partner it is a long distance relationship we sms each other and talk we see each other as and when we can but we still hold on to the trust and love we have for each other..iy is hard and always will be especially as he is hopeless with computers and also is moving to france but we have arrangements with that... All is not lost dhangski hold on it doesn't have to be the end of you unless you really want it to be...though you cannot have you could always have if you let it...your friend littleowl

[i]Hi dhangski, ohhh...I am very sorry to hear about that..I know how it feels, I have tried that situation when I was in High School and I know that it was a bye bye for the 4 os us, my friends, since each one of us will be going to a different places for College! It was hard to move on and each day really of my College life, I was hoping they are with me and sad to say, after that, we never had a chance to meet! I have talked to them on the phone but never got the chance to meet due to distance! Let's hope that your BOF will find another job so that you can continue your communication, I know it is very different when only txting, very limited![/i]

i am sure it is not the end. if he does consider you a good friend (even if you only met online) just give him space to breathe. i am sure he is just worried, he is just confused but i am sure he will turn to you, his friend about his problems. do not force him to do so, he will just do that on his free will when he is ready. just always be there for him and that will make your relationship grow stronger.

Hi dhangski, I know exactly how you feel, I have lost friends as well and I am very fond of neil myself and don't want to lose him as a friend, you must be going though hell as well because you have known him a long time, I can only pray for him and his family right now as they need it, so please join me in a pray and hope things will look up for him. Love & HUGZ Tamara

I'm sorry to hear that of your friend. It must be really tough to have everything come crashing down on your world at the same time! What with his son being sick, and being hit with the news that he would have his job only till the end of the month. That must be a huge blow to him! If I am in his position, I would feel very down on myself too. Well, hopefully he would get his life sorted out by end of the month and everything would run smoothly for him by then. Well, disstance is never a factor in any relationships - be it friendships, love relationships or family. If you are sincere in really wanting to help him out, you can do so by just being there for him. Perhapes drop him a mail every single day just to find out how he is doing, leaving words of encouragement for him and well, just be there for him whenever he needs some support from his friends. That would be sufficient. Sometimes, we don't need the person to be there physically with us in order for us to feel better and loved. Just be there for him, and I am sure he will feel your sincerity and will cheer up with your encouragements and support! What do you mean by losing your friend? Lol from the way I read your post, at least you still have the option of keeping in touch with him and that is through SMS, which means to say you have his mobile number. In that case, both of you can still stay connected with each other everyday! Losing friendships means that the friendship is severed to the extent whereby it cannot be salvaged or just that both of you had totally lost contact with no means of contacting each other. That is not the situation in your case. I admit that I am confused by your statement. Whichever is the case, if you have a strong friendship with this friend, you will definately not lose him. I have been in this situation once when I was 11 years old, which is also exactly 11 years ago. Lol. I had this one best friend who is an American, and had been with me as my best friend since 7 years old when she came to Singapore to study. (Her mum is Singaporean and her dad is American). 4 years down the road, her mum chose to reunite back with her dad in the States and she too, relocated back to the USA. Nevertheless, we lost touch after the first 2 letters as she shifted to a new address after 6 months of settling down there when her parents marriage came to an end leading to a divorce. During that time in 1996, there was no such thing as the internet, neither were handphones heard of. International calling is just too expensive $1.00 per minute. And so, there was absolutely no way of tracing her.. and no way of doing anything about the situation.. untill recently in 2008. We had lost touch for about 10-11 years before thanks to the internet, we found each other in Facebook just 2 months ago. And we had been keeping in contact ever since. So, I would have to say that you are luckier in the sense that this is the 20th century and we are still contacted via lots of other means even though one means of communication becomes out of the question, there is still other means to keep in contact. So, don't dwell too much on the negativity of what is going on and be thankful for what you have! Well, take care of yourself ok? Happy mYlotting!

Of course, I would be worry as well on hearing that situation with your friend but the only things you have to do is to wait for your friend because if she really need help then for sure she will let you know and ask for your help and if not then for sure your friend can still manage the situation......

A good friend, no matter what the distance lies between you two, will remain a friend that will remember you and still try to kkep in touch with you. Problems are only temporary in our live and I believe that GOD will always be there, no matter what happen to enlighten us in our lives.. I hope that the friendship that the two of you have will remain forever..

As long as there is life, nothing would stop. friendship, love, fear, any feelings. Its up to us if we wanted to stop. If you both really treasured the word friendship, then, both of you wont lose it no matter how long it takes for you to communicate like what you do before... Just be happy and stay friendly...

It really is a hard situation to get into. I myself am leaving my current work to another job and sadly I will be leaving my bestfriend there. She first left the job and I was sad without her. But she came back and life has returned to me at work. Now I am leaving her here and it really is with heavy heart that I'll be doing it. I know I will just be around and anytime I want to see my bestfriend is always my option. But it still is a different thing when you know she's just steps away from you. Hopefully we get to work again together. As for you, there are other ways to keep in touch and it is just a matter of time before you realize it. To you, goodluck and keep your friendship stronger than ever. Thanks!

it really is sad to lose a friend..even if he is just an online friend still he is a friend..I just hope and pray that God has good plans for your dear friend..and somehow along this trials are success in the end of his journey..God is always there and we all know that despite this trials and problems He will still lift us up and help us rise from our fall..just do not lose faith and help your friend as best as you can..God bless..

Oh yes dhangski, I also read his posts about his problems and that really touched my heart as well. I can feel the burden myself. It's atough situation he is having right now but I am certain that all those trials will come to pass. God is good! I know God will replace his second job with a more productive one and yes he can still go online and you can continue your friendship. And yes of course, I have always been afraid of losing a friend. I value my friend so much especially the good ones. I am very glad that I have not been in such kind of situation yet. That would also bother me so much if ever.

first of alli didn't have best online friend, so can't feel wht u go through. but i have a friend told me u can meet really good friend who share and encourage you when ur own friend who u thought they can just be good listener. if i ever go through same situation like u go through.. i will ask or his address..post letter to him.. it take longer but yet still stay in touch.. the interesting part is .. when the letter arrive, before u open and read. you are the only person who can feel the feeling of excitement..for your grandson to read too.. out there.. is there really a friend so care for you? is very subjective.. i have a lot of net friend but only the sincere one stay as i always use the law of attraction .. to only attract the good one.. dhangski..be strong... even this sayin is 'old fashion" to some ppl.. but have strong faith..when there is a will there is a way i do have a friend who wanted to leave for good .. leave this land tht i'm living now he wanted to leave all sorrow behind.. i only can have strong faith on myself.. faith that he won't leave me.. be strong and think of result that you want say what you want but you dun have, dun say what you have but you dun want..

if you think he is your best friend ,i think you should know him and understand him.he is in the trouble now ,you are his best friend ,you should now what he need best now.and you should try your best to help him.i bet he think you are his best friend ,too.come on .to do you want to do,now, good luck to you.

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SInce u say he's your best fren, then no worries about that ^_^ As long as the both of u still has got a way to contact each other, that will do just fine ^_^ At least it's better than no being able to contact each other right?? hehe ^_^ I have lost alot of frenz and including my best frenz too when they moved away and lost of contact, and i regretted that because i have known them for more than 10 yrs.. So dun worry on your part, it's only 1 month or so, thta u cant chat with him online, but everything between the two of u should remains ^_^

Hi dhangski, I know it is rerally sad about neildc, i think its wrong for his second job to do this kind of thing to him. and for it to come when his son is sick as well:( Mabey he can find a cheap dial up service were he lives and when he can get online then he can mabey work on ebsites that pay him just a small amount and use that is enough to pay for the dial up.. that is if he has a computer at home... If not and he was my best online friends i know i would be VEARY sad as you are:(. i guess writing to each other all the time through the mail. keep the sms going and mabey theres a library he can swing by a few times a week that has computers for him to get online?.... somtimes friends move away or in your instance cant get on a computer for awhile, but that doesnt mean you cant be friends youll always have him in your heart. and being so far away and not being able to talk ismuch just might pull your guys closer. for when you do get to talk everyonce inawhile youll have so much to say to him and to tell him so much more things... I dont think it wil be the end for you and him. just keep him in your heart and do what you can do to talk to him as much as possible.... i wish your guys's friends ship the best in every situation you guys go through..

this situation is not really a signal for best friends break up! there are really times that we don't have that time to talk to our friends. friends can't be stopped by time or distance. i do believe that they stay friends whatever the circumstances are. we may not be there physically for our friends and all we can do is pray for them and send them sms. i have a guy best friend too. as much as i want to be there for him all the time and i know he does feel the same way too, we just make up too each other when we find time to be together. if two person are really friends and they love each other. even we don't have any real words to say, they always know what's inside our hearts and mind. cheer up! smile!

i don't think this will be the end.. in fact i think this will be the start.. Since he is full of problems at this moment, i think it's good to give him encouragement every now and then. Chatting is better than sending sms but think of the positive side, at least yo can still communicate with him by sending him sms messages and you can also give him encouragement in this way.. it's god to keep in touch you know and i also think that this will strengthen your friendship.. Just show him that he has a friend that cares for him.

NO its never the END!! heheh had the need to say that really...