How do you feel about it?
By Jessbowers
@Jessbowers (391)
United States
August 29, 2008 11:19am CST
Sometimes my husband has to travel for work. He has gone to Japan and many cities in our state. Usually when he travels in the state it is a day trip. Japan was over 2 weeks. They have asked him to go to mexico now. It would only be for a few days and the money would be great but how do I let him know that it is ok for him to go without him feeling that I want him to go. I hate it when he travels but like I said,the money.We are trying to build a house and that would help out a great deal.Should I tell him to go? How do you feel when your spouse travels for work?
1 response
@Hyde21k (65)
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29 Aug 08
I would say tell him in bed when you're relaxed and comfortable. Just tell him it's ok for him to go, that the money is great and it will help you in the long term with building your home. If it is only for a few days but it will get you a lot further to your goal of building your own home, then it has to be a great thing. I think the only way he would think that you're trying to push him out is if you don't explain why you think it's a good idea for him to go. Also make sure you make him feel that he was missed when he comes back. An ex of mine told me she wanted me to stop staying overnight because I disrupted her morning routine with her son, but when we met up again in the afternoons she never made me feel like she missed me, so we ended up drifting apart and eventually splitting up. So, as long as he feels that you missed him and you explain that it's not that you want him to go, but it will help achieve your longer term goal, everything should be fine.
@Jessbowers (391)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Thank you very much for that advise. When he was away in Japan he knew I missed him. I spent 200 dollars on a calling card so I could call to wake him up and to tell him goodnight. Thank you for your response.
