Children!!! Uggghh When s the right time to have children?

The best time is when you are able to have them. People in Asia and Africa have children young and they make out all right, but us Westerners are told wait until you bought a house, have a good job, and what happens if you do not have a good job? What if you have to work temporary, and are unemployed for a while, no children? You might wind up to be forty and may not be able to have any. And some women cannot have any past their twenties, even if they do not have menopause until they are in their middle fifties. Many of my friends had children from eighteen on and then they went back to work after the children were in their teens. You can work after the kids are old enough. Oh and it is best to be married. Then if something happens, your husband is there to take up the slack, but please be sure you get a regular checkup first to see if everything is working fine inside.

hi fairygrl! i think the right time for a woman to have children is when she is 25 years old. as for gentlemen it could be any age. because during this times both of theme are now stable, and they can support a family of their own. also, for the woman, it wouldnt be to hard for her to bring out the child from her womb because she still have her strenght unlike when she is older. and another, is that this is the right age because, the woman now can still enjoy her life while enjoying her babies. for the man, any age past 25 is okey because they are viril and they could impregnate a woman no matter what there age is. so if i were you...double think about your decision, it is not easy to raise up a child. and you are still young, you still ahvent see much about life.

well i think when you and your partner is ready for the responsibility, then i guess it is already okay to havve children.

I wanted to have kids by the time I was 25 but unfortunately that did not work out because I never had to right guy. I always wondered why old people (at the time I considered women 40 to be old) would even consider having children. But there I was in my late 30's having kids. There is no right time, and if you wait until you can afford them, you will never do it. In a way I'm glad I waited because I had so much fun in my 20's and in my 30's I was just really ready to settle down and I don't feel like I missed out on anything in my life. A lot of my friends have teenagers, and I have toddlers but it all works out and as long as you love them. They don't need fancy name brand clothes or the most expensive baby furniture, they just need the basics and lots of love! Good luck!

I lvoe children and in one mindset i feel there is never a wrong time to have them, as they are total blessings. However, in reality there are times when its not good. I agree with your list of things taht should be in place before having a child though. You definitely have to be able to take care of yourself before taking care of someone else. I also agree you dont have to be married, its great to have a two parent home but if you and the father are living together that works too, and well heck now a days single woman are getting pregnant the "modern" way without even sleeping with a guy, and raising chilren on their own, and things turn out great for them..so be independent enough to take care of yourself, then i see no harm in having a child.

You're right, you have to be able to pay the bills and have enough money over each month to be able to support another little person living with you. And obviously your partner would have to want children and be prepared to support a child as well. You should know that it would be much better for a child to grow up with two parents, so make sure you really love the person you're going to have a child with, otherwise you might regret it. Other than that, good luck! I know you'll have a beautiful child :)

I think the question should be "When will you be ready to born and start raising a child?" Of course people will answer your question based on their experiences. They had their basis on when they were ready to have a child. As for you, you need to ask yourself, "are you ready with it? including the responsibility you're going to undertake?" If you could honestly have an affirmative answer, then you'll know when you would want to have your own children. Thanks! ^_^

I personally don't think that there is a set age to have a child. When you are stable, and you feel that you have stable relationship with your spouse is a good time to have a child. I am 20 years old, and my daughter is now 8 months old. So... a lot of people would say that I am to young to have a child. Well... for some 20 year olds, yeah they are to young, but others it isn't. My fiance and I own our home, own 2 cars, support ourselves and our child, and have a great life. Not everyone is able to have that. What I'm getting at is that you will know when the right time to have a child is. Just follow your heart, and dreams.

I think the right time for having baby is different for different people. I don't think that it is merely depend on your age, but age is an important think to be reconsider... because when you are reaching 30 something, your ovum would be weaker than it used to be... according to the biology book, the perfect age for having the baby is when you rach 25-27, because it is the golden moment of the eggs on your body. From psychologycal, the perfect moment to have a baby is when you feel ready and you really want it. You would encounter many problems of the baby, if you are not ready psychologically you would feel stressed out and you might end up stressing the baby up too...

When's it thr right time to have children when's ur stable in marriage, have a house for them to live in, both mom and dad can share responsibility for the children. Also if the mother not have illness or any sickness. Ect.....

Well, it's said that more and more couples choose not to have kids. LOL,forget it! I think the right age is between 23-26, at that section of age, a woman's job is stable, and she can support herself even without her husband. So in case of the divorce, she won't have troubles bake at home. I know an American girl who is 19, and she has her own baby at that age, wow, incredible,right? She is still in college...

If you wait too long it will be hard to have a baby. A mans sperm count can go down the older he gets and the same for ladies. Having them too young can be an issue because of lack of experience. Not just with dealing with babies but having someone rely on you. To know how to deal with everything going wrong in your life and no one to help you because this is how it will feel sometimes. Especially after you just have the baby and are up every two hours 24/7.

Well this is a nice question. I you are having your own business then there is no problem, you can think of having child right now. But if you are serving somewhere, i.e. having job, then it is good to have child when you reach the age of 25 to 29 years, so that your child is on his legs till you reach your retirement.

The rediness to have a child shouldn't be defined by an age limit thats for sure. I know 40 year olds who are horrible parents. If you are struggling to take care of yourself it would be very irresponsible to bring a child into this world. If you can manage taking care of yourself and your child then yes you should make a great parent. First you'll have to think it out thoroughly... -- Can you take a few months off when your baby is finished cooking (lols) -- Can you afford the neccesities (clothes will probably be taken care of by family members and friends) like a crib, extra food... -- Will you have enough time open to spend with your child? A baby cannot take care of themselves... They need attention 24/7 if you are not there who is going to take care of them? -- do you have a room or place for you baby? A cramped living space may not be safe for yer babies growth. babies are made everywhere all the time. Basically if your finances are ok and you can afford a little rascal then you should be fine. Attend some parenting classes and read some books. That way you are better prepared. If you feel you are ready then you are ready, but take proper steps to make sure you become the responsible parent your baby needs.

I'm 29 and I'm kinda worried it might be very difficult for me if I get pregnant past 30. Some of my close friends who are my same age still have no boyfriend to date. (Late bloomers we were.) I think 21 is still a young age to have a baby. But if you're financially stable at that age and feel like you're ready to have it, why not? But then think also of the things you'll be missing out. I have never heard from any of my friends who had gotten pregnant between 17-22 years old that they never regretted having a child early. They got through it, but still, they tell me it would've been nice if they were a bit prepared. At my age I ought to be having a child already. But financially, I'm still not quite there yet. I can barely take care of my own needs, much less another human being which is my own. I really don't want my children to have the same difficult experience we had when we were young. Poverty sucks.