My dog passed away the other day...

August 29, 2008 3:53pm CST
Her name was Sweet Potato and I loved her to death. She was going to be 10 months old tomorrow. She was very sick for about two months and no one could tell me what was wrong with her. Not even the vets. I just want to know how to get over this pain. It's like losing your own child. I have her brother, Pumpkin, but for some reason having him without her just doesn't feel right. They were a pair when we got them and now half of that pair is gone. I feel like half of my heart went with her. I still talk to her when I walk into a room. I miss her so much but I can't be selfish either. She was in pain and I am glad that pain is over but I really want her back. How and when does the pain stop?
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22 responses
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
Hi. I'm truly sorry for your loss. I understand how it feels. I just lost my pet too. The pain of losing will always be there and getting over it takes a long time. The sweet and happy memories are all there to keep and to reminisce all that you have shared together. Your pet's brother can help you greatly to ease the pain. And in time you will be healed.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I'm so sorry for your loss. It hurts a lot to lose a pet. We had to have one put down a couple of months ago. We have another one but it's not the same without him. We had him since he was a puppy and he was almost 13 yrs old. I'm not going to say you will get over it because you probably won't. But as time goes by, it gets a little easier. But there will be times when you'll stop and think of her and wish she was still there. I do that a lot. Hang in there. {{Hugs}}
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
29 Aug 08
Hi jacki87, It will take some time for the pain to go away, but you are right about not being selfish, if she was sick, be thankful that she is no longer in pain. Remember too that the other half, Pumpkin, needs your love, he may also be missing her. I lost a cat that was a part of the family for ten years back in April. I still think of him but I wouldn't wish him back because he was suffering. Blessings.
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@dmpres (9)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Hello Jacki87, I am so very sorry for your loss. I quite understand the pain. I am afraid to say that the pain may never stop entirely. One way that I have found to help alleviate it though is to focus more attention on the other puppy, remember that he is suffering a loss as well. Sincerely, dmpres
30 Aug 08
wish you the best of luck. i know what it feels like for someone to pass away like that
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30 Aug 08
That is so sad. Wish you the best of luck.
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@debny711 (264)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I am so sorry for your loss. What a young age to loss a life. I have lost many pets that were part of the family and it hurts for awhile. Remember though that the other puppy lost someone too and he is also hurting. Keep him close to you and you will comfort each other.
6 Sep 08
I keep him as close as I can because I know that when he's roaming the house he's looking for his sister and that makes me ache for him.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
31 Aug 08
I am so sorry for your lost and i can completely understand what you mean about them being a pair and feeling like half your heart is gone. it's so sad too, she was so young! not even a year yet. and your right it is like losing your child. The pain is something that is just gonna take time to heal. It'll be hard but only time can heal wounds. Try not to focus on what you've lost but rather remember the happiness and joy she brought into your life and you still have her brother Try spending some more time with him. it might be painful at first because it will probably make you think of her and not having her around... but Pumpkin is probably in pain too. He lost his sister and best-friend probably and dogs can be come depressed. I really am sorry for your lost. I know its hard and nothing can be said to ease your pain.
• United States
29 Aug 08
I am so, so sorry for your loss. It must be so painful. The pain will go away but for now you will have that "this must be a bad dream" feeling. Cry often and hard. Get it out of your system. Cry until you have nothing left. Let the surviving dog comfort you. Dog kisses have a healing effect on tears. Don't seek her out, though. Go out more. Distract yourself as much as possible. Whenever possible, make yourself laugh. The night I had to put my dog of 15 years down there was a Monty Python's Flying Circus marathon on. I watched ever episode and laughed as hard as I could. It let go of some of the tension and pain. I will will pray for you.
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@shontia08 (846)
• United States
30 Aug 08
i just wanted to say that i'm sorry for your lost. i know the feeling. at least she won't have to suffer anymore. take care.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
29 Aug 08
I don't really know how to answer your question. This hasn't happened to me so I'm in no way an expert. I can only imagine what you must be feeling right now and I want to send good wishes along your way. Those two months must have been very terrible for you. I freaked out when our Kanani lost her toenail and felt really bad that I wasn't there to prevent it, how much more not knowing what's wrong with a sick loved one? Boyfriend's mom was very sad when she lost her beloved corgi. She swore never to have another one but ended up getting another one. And it's very obvious Rufus makes her happy.
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@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
I am so sorry for your loss. ='( You know what, i feel depressed too. Our dog is in critical condition. She was diagnosed with blood parasites, jaundice and leptospirosis. There's only 20% chance of surviving and I hope and pray that she'll recover soon. Please pray for our dog, maxie...='(
6 Sep 08
I'm sorry about your dog. I know the amount of pain that you are or are going to go through. I will pray for your dog and that you don't have to let her go like I did with mine. Best wishes for a speedy recovery...
@pking0 (18)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Hey, i know how this all feels... I lost my dog to an illness a year ago, very VERY sad thing to go through. I have a new dog now, which has helped the pain go away. But it's still hard to get the pain to go away when your so attached to something that you love so much, but know that it has to go away sometime :( I hope you feel better, and try doing an activity with freinds to make the pain go away. Try excersising, or doing whatever you like to do in your free time, such as a hobbie, and that might help. It helped me when i lost my dog.
@Grudee (66)
• Thailand
30 Aug 08
I feel truly sorry for your loss also but don't forget that it is not only you who lost Sweet Potato but also Pumpkin! The pain will stay with you at first but time can help you. Give your love and care to Pumpkin and spend more time with him. Sweet Potato was gone in live but she will still remain in your memory and feeling. Keep the good thought about her in mind because the life must go on. If you want to cry, cry! After that you will feel better.
6 Sep 08
I keep him close. I let him know that we both miss her but we can get through it together. He looks at me with those sad little eyes of his and then gives me big wet kisses. I know that he's trying to comfort me as much as I try to comfort him.
@douchrti (176)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Im so sorry for your loss. She will live on in your memories. Hugs
@gabbana (1815)
• China
30 Aug 08
hi, i really don't wanna hear such tragic news. the best way to go through this is only TIME ! , i can understand your feeling. i once lost my puppy. losing a dog is just like losing a family member, or sometimes even more.
@mlh8087 (368)
• United States
30 Aug 08
The how and when, well, there's no answer for that. The pain eventually fades. What happens with me, I just go get another animal. Go to the pound or the humane society or wherever and get another dog. Take Pumpkin with you so the two of you can pick out a new friend. Time is the only thing that helps you get over the pain of loss.
• India
30 Aug 08
Hi Jacki, It is sad to learn that you have lost your sweet dog. In my view You should get a new female dog and try to consider her as your sweet potato. As you know that dogs are very friendly and soon you will feel that your old dog is with you. Slowly slowly you will regain the same relationship with your sweet. Best of luck
@razor123 (979)
• India
30 Aug 08
I'm so sorry Jacki87 to hear that your dog expired. Please accept my deepest sympathies for this. I can understand how your feeling and what you must be going through. When one has a pet and bring them up from small its just like bringing up one owns kid up. You kind of become like a parent for the dog. And then when such a thing happens it really hurts so very much. I know a pet is considered as good as one of us and as dear as any other member of the family. Your other dog must be going through a lot of depression at the moment too I'm sure to see its pair pass away. But don't worry dear as time passes by you'll get used to it. Time is the healing factor. All of us lose our near and dear ones some day but that is how life is. We cannot do anything about that. All i can say at the moment is please take care of your self and things will get back to normal for you pretty soon.
@bruzka (1)
30 Aug 08
sorry for what happened, guess u have to focus yourself to other things and maybe get another puppy and love that puppy too.