my heart i sinking.

Pakistan
August 30, 2008 1:01pm CST
hello people... rigt now i am chatting with my husband, we will be getting married in oct, infact i was supposed to shift to his house in oct as he is an army person... but right now he told me that he will come to marry me in oct... and he wont be getting an accomodation in his unit for me right away, so i will be staying with my mother in law.... i feel like crying, i cannot share it with my hubby, coz he is already tense, and i can not share it with my parents, coz they will get worried... all i can do is share it with you ppl... :( hope i had a shoulder to cry on right now
8 responses
• United States
31 Aug 08
Is your future mother-in-law that bad? I know alot of people that don't get along with their in-laws, especially the mother-in-law for some reason. I am the type of person that can get along with a piece of wood if I had to..LOL but in all seriousness, you might get along great with her. Just give it a try. If you think about it negatively and don't give it a chance then you will be miserable. I get along great with my mother-in-law and all the other in-laws.
• Pakistan
31 Aug 08
the point is not mother in law... point is that i dnt want to spend my precious and intimate moments with my mother in law, rather than my husband... the initial days are supposed to be the most intimate one... and cooooll... i will be spending them with her... rest of the life is same and boring, only these initial days are important... i hate getting married
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
30 Aug 08
that ok this is sumthing many woman has to go thru...listen dont panic from now on let the time come pray god that he should help you may be things would be better.. try interacting with your mother in law a bit from now on...as u need a shoulder the same way even ur hubby needs it too as he would also be needing wanting and missing you the most...donot show ur hubby that u dont want to be with his parents..but u can juz talk to him after few days that to adjust in new house it would have had been better if he would had been with you...juz make him undersatnd that u would need his support during those days the most.. all the best.. take care..god bless u.. dont let this tension harness ur happiness of getting married.
• Pakistan
30 Aug 08
i wish i had a sister.... thanx for your support
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
that's alright. just cheer up. everything will not be easy at start, but eventually it be alright and smooth sailing. cheer up and smile. you are getting married and you will be the most beautiful bride on your wedding day. if you can open it up to your fiance, the better, you should tell him how you feel. you should share with him everything that's worrying you, that's how marriage should be right? so tell him the soonest time you can, he will understand and maybe he can still do something about it.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
31 Aug 08
Hi friend,Develop a liking for your mother in law,at the very start if you feel depressed then you wont get along well with your mother in law.She may be friendly and understanding and you would too enjoy being with her.so be happy and dont spoil your enjoyment thinking something else.happy mylotting.
@marisriel (1156)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
you will find many friends here in my lot! and it's good you can share your feelings here, better than nothing really.
@4magoo (396)
31 Aug 08
There is no such thing as the "typical" mother-in-law. My suggestion would be to say somthing like, "I want to get to know your mother better but my parents need me right now. Maybe I can come stay with your mother for two weeks so we can get to know each other." This way if you get along with your new-to-be in-law you can stay but if you think it might not work, you have an acceptable excuse to go home until your husband-to-be and you can get together. Good luck ... cry away but celebrate your love.
• Australia
31 Aug 08
chin up have your cry then put on a smile, you still have a month any-thing can happen between now and then so stay positive you have a wonderful day coming up for you .Are you having a honey-moon something to look forward to as its time spent together.Staying with your mother-in-law until you can both be together will mean you can get to know each other,this is the women who shaped the man you fell in love with she's worth getting to know.
• United States
31 Aug 08
welcome to HELL Im not trying to be funny or hurtful.... Go to your mother or dads house until you get married. Tip: Never stay alone with your mother in law. When you see her make sure your hubby is around to protect you. Also if she bugs you about something you are doing wrong... (in her eyes) Just tell her you and (hubby) are both in agreement. she wont bug you if her son is in agreeement with you. Go to your moms...