Change Me!

Hi P1kef1sh, It would depend on whether it was good advice or not. My friends will often tell me I should do something but I will ponder over it for a while before coming to my own decision but appreciate what input they have given. Some of my online friends I accept into my completely whereas others I keep at a slight distance but you P1key total acceptance and I wouldn't want to change you one incy wincy bit as I love you just the way you are, whioch is what friends do eh! Don't expect presents for the brood though 450,000 just a few too many to buy for LOL. Ellie :D

Well it really depends if I believe it is the right advise It also depends how close my Friendship is with the Person, I have a few as in about 6 that I trust very much indeed and yes I trust them enough to let them in on my Life

i don't know a lot about but the little that i know of you I'm quite comfy with it.if there was something stink about your personalty that needs to be changed then as a friend i would try to change that. i would can change easily but I'm stubborn and i believe that there is nothing wrong with me and you want me to change for negative you would be wasting your precious time.

Hi plkeflsh, I am good at giving advice to people and I have given some advice to some on my online friends as well, I can only do it if some is being truthful and to tell me somthing about themslves and be honest about it and yes I will axcept you warts and all. Your friend. Tamara

i always ask for advice from those whose advise i respect. like john. i always respect his opinion as he has only the best in his heart for me. do i always take that advice? no. but it goes into my information bucket to help. i love people. i love my online and offline friends. however, i don't believe they make me a better person. they may make me a richer person in the complexitity of texture and depth. the only one who can make me a better person is myself. i hardly know you, except for what you have posted. but, i take you warts and all !

Could I change you? Would I change you? *Low throaty chuckle* Does that tell you anything?

I would take their advice seriously into consideration and think it over and maybe even use some of it. But I don't know about giving them total command of control to change me to what they want then I just wouldn't be myself, even if it was what they considered better.

You don't need changing and if you did I'm sure Mrs P would be quite capable of doing it.

I take advice from some online friends but not many. I might listen to people's advice but there are not may whose advice I am likely to heed. I would happily give advice to anyone who asked for it if I could, even if I was unsure, if someone wanted advice, I would always tell them what I think even if it's that I don't have a clue! I wouldn't do what you said with the making a better person. There are certain things which people could do to be better but, really, if a person needed to be taken warts and all and be changed in the way you insinuate then I would probably not be friends with them, I certainly wouldn't have the patience to make them a better person! I think you are fine as you are mostly. :) There are probably a few things you could change for the "better" but then you wouldn't be you.

I wouldn't want to change you nor anyone else I make friends with on here. You are who you are and I am me, if nobody likes who I am then so be it. I have taken a lot of advice from this site, mostly from my friends. If they ask for advice, I will give what I can and it's up to them to take note of it or not. There are only a few that I let into my personal life, not a lot of it but a bit of it. It only happens once I get to know that person really well and we converse not only through mylot but via email. We might even call each other too.

I would say, p1kef1sh, that my answer would depend upon how much of my true self I want to reveal to my online friends. Trust is a major issue in any relationship, and I would not want to bring anyone into my personal life whom I could not trust. I also believe that friendships are built and maintained. The nature of most of the "friendships" I've seen on this and other sites are not on that level. I think it would be great to have an online friend with whom you could become so close. I thought that a friendship I was developing with someone awhile back was approaching that level, but it turned out that I was mistaken. I really believe that many people have a problem with trusting online friendships.

I rarely ask for advice, unless I am really torn over something. The trouble with advice is I am never satisfied with what advice I am given so rarely heed it. I am very wary when it comes to friends, too many bad experiences it too short a space of time, made me feel that I could never trust anyone too much because people I thought I knew, people who I had known for years hurt me in ways that I never thought they would. I withdrew from people, I totally tucked myself away, I only now have acquaintances. I start off OK, I try and let folks in but then it is like I just put my hand up and hold them back, "whoa Ok that is close enough, back off to the sidelines". Strange but true.

I ask dumb things or tell dumb things, but would never ask them to change me..since i'm not dumb enough..lol..I have friends that think they are better than anyone, and other friends that think I'm special..now i really don't care what my friends are like as long as they still want to be my friend cause they like me as me... I would never try to change you or anyone, but I would be there for you if you needed someone to talk to or a hugg..

Would I??? YES Could I??? YES Know enough??? YES Anymore questions??? My guess is YES!!!

I think it will be depend what is the topic & it will be the right answer to your topic too. we need a friend online, we share but as we know we need also to understand much about what we are asking & what they said to us.

I have to admit I have never stayed in one place on the internet long enough to make friends and think any friends advice would have to speak to you before you would take it to a life changing event.. Say exercise meditation self respect eat more vegetables eat less sugar ect those might speak to you and you could take that advice other wise to the buyer beware....

I do ask for advice here on the lot. Most of the time, I do take it. Some people here really keep my thoughts and feelings in perspective for me so I really treasure that advice and sense of well being that they (and you) give me. I'd be crazier without it. I definitely know enough about you to give you advice, I think. Will there be a test?

Awww... P1ke, i love ya warts and all, i wouldn't want to change a blemish or freckle on you! As for taking advice from others on the lot, um... i don't really ask advice. i don't live a lifestyle that most people can relate to. i like my life and don't want to change it. People may give me their opinion... i may take note, and file it under things i may need to know in the future... but as for changing for the sake of strangers, um no thanks. i accept others for who they are, if they can't accept me they can lump it. i answer to one man only. (frankly He is the only one who's opinion directly impacts my life.)

Hi p1kef1sh! I ask for advice from my friends online probably more than i do offline! People that don't know me so well are more likely to give unbiased advice, i'll always listen and take it on board but i don't always take the advice that they give me, i'll think about it and then make my own decision taking into account other people's opinions about it! I accept my friends into my ife in varying degrees, in a lot of ways i am probably more myself on here than i am at other times, not that i am false in my life but i can talk about what i want without the fear of being judged, and even if people do judge me, they don't really know me that well anyway! not sure if that really makes sense! I think if people are to be accepted into my life then they have to earn it, and vice versa, i have learnt to be wary of the peopel that i trust in order to avoid being hurt or disappointed by people!! I doubt very much i could make you a better person - you seem pretty sorted as you are, you have a lot more life experience than me and can probably teach me a lot more than i can teach you!! xvx

There are friends online that will give you advice like you have met them in person. If I feel like the advice is good, I will take it. But of course, I have my own thinking also.