How old are you when you got marriage or when will you get marriage?
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
China
August 31, 2008 7:30pm CST
Hello everyone . I was born in 1983 .I am 25 years old this year. As a boy .most of my friend
have got marriage .my mother is always complaining about my marriage and she expect that I get
finsh my marriage as soon as possible .she is even expecting to see her grandchildren as soon as
possible. However. I just graduated from an college last year and I have little money . and the important thing is no house .you know in our country house is most important things .most
people always spend most of their’s life for the house .my girlfriend just finish her school
this year .in this situation. We must hard work for at least 3 years .maybe when I am 29 years
old I can think about my marriage .
So my dear friends. What’s your plan for your marriage? Do you worry about your house ?when
will you get marriage .if you have already got marriage .can you tell me your ages at that time?
I just interst in other countrys’ marriage .thank you .
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26 responses
@Jul14nch0 (1414)
• Argentina
1 Sep 08
I think i am going to get marryed when i realy fall in love with someone and i choose her as a partner for the rest of my live, and i wont care for nothing else, but if the realationship is not very solid i or i am not sure of that i wouldn't do that.
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@Ann2407 (305)
• China
1 Sep 08
maybe you are right on some degree,but you know,girls more easily become old than boys,few people think a boy of 30 years old too old to get married,but girls are not so lucky as boys,a 30 years old girl who isn't married may be thought to be a witch,that is not kidding,hahaha...and i think your girlfriend must be a positive girl and won't let you bear the pressure by yourself.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Yes. She is .she will come to this city next week and we will get together in future. However .just severs months ago .she wanted to continue a undergraduate course .but I was opposed to hers decision.(many reasons) ..finally she gave up and decide to work with me .
Well .personally .girls always have little living press than boys .for you . you just waiting for your coming prince .he will appear in a few days .hehehe. I know you are Chinese .by the way .which city do you work now ?can you tell me your profession.?
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Hi. Dear Ann2407. You know in our country .boy always be faced with more stress than girls .except under an obligation to support both of parents . they also have to earn much money for their’s present family or for girlfriends. So you need not to worry about your future. Your coming boyfriend will consider about this things before you .hehe. Good lucky for you!
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I think you should get married whenever you're ready to be married, not because people are trying to make you get married.
I never had a plan for marriage. It wasn't important to me, I really didn't care. I figured I wouldn't get married until I was almost 30, like most people do. But, I got lucky and met someone early. I got married soon after I turned 21 and my husband is 23.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
2 Sep 08
No, I meant I never intended to meet anyone. I had planned on focusing on my career and education. I was never one of those little girls who dreamed about weddings. I just happened to meet him.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Hi GloomCookieLex. You are lucky for met your husband . you never had a plan for marriage but not your husband .I guess at one time he thought over for your marriage .
.thanks for your command and Best wishes for your family!
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I'm not yet old enough to marry (in 2010 I'd be), but I doubt it'll be within the next five years. It doesn't help I'm not really the marry'n type.
My Mom wants grandkids too, but she'll most likely have to settle for adopted kids..that is, if my life's ever decent enough for me to be able to take care of children (and I'm not fully confident in that maybe either lmao).
Do I worry about getting a house? Well, this day and age, yes...but that has little to do with marriage. It's more of a financial thingamajig...
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
A financial thingamajig.will be solved by our both hands .lol..
@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I think you should get married only when you've found the person you want to live with for the rest of your life, and then, only when you both feel the time is right. I was 21 1/2 and my husband was 22 1/2 when we got married. We were also best friends besides being in love. And, it's lasted over 44 years. So, do not let anyone pressure you into marriage. Sounds like you two have a smart head on your shoulders.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Yes .love is important before get marriage .it is no questiong about that my grilfrend and I love each other very much .maybe we should wait the best time for the marriage .Your marriage have last 44 years ..so when you got marriage you had a far-sight for your love and marriage.
Good blessing for you!
@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Thank you. Yes, we took our wedding vows very seriously. Many people get married, not considering that it will not always be a bed or roses. They don't realize that you and your spouse are individuals and we think differently. But, when you have real love and respect AND communication, you can always work things out. So many just opt to get out of the situation without ever trying communication. And, to me, that is one of the most important things to a marriage. It's not a one-sided communication, but a sharing between the two of you. When you have that combination and a strong will to make it last, you won't have any problems growing old together.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
When we have different idea both of us should trying communication .then we love will last all along. And the marriage will be more firm .sounds great !it is no question about that it is a pure-hearted love summarize. We have real love so we have belief to growing old together .
Everythings could work out .thank you !
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
Personally, I think you're too young to get married in this age. Average age for married guys in my society is in late 20 or 30 something. I am 20something this year and I am still studying. I think I am gonna get married 5 yeard from now. I guess having properties and good financial planning before having a family is a very important. Housing and a place for living is also a good thing to be considered.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Hello klaudine .I guess you are a beautiful and clever girl .Well .I am 25 years old now and
next month I am gonna 26 .no young for the marriage .lol.. having properties and good
financial planning before having a family is a very important. And also this my struggling
aim.
Thanks for your command!
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@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
I work in a company of ship yard design only for 6 months .although wage not enough high .the situation would be improve with my hard working .my girlfriend will come to my city next week and begain work for a company .so I am glad that we have a good future. Money will increase day by day .
Well .for the baby .I think we would not think about it before get marriage ..lol… and also except that you could find your fere as soon as possible (maybe already)and ready for marriage like us . good lucky!
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
Well, thank you... I am glad that I am helpful. If you are still struggling with financial problems, the best is to have both of you working and postpone in having baby. That what should be done if you still want to get marry as soon as possible. I think if you have a job, that would be good because you can support your family with the money. But having baby is a different thing... try not to have baby before you're just stable enough... :)
good luck. I hope I can hear the good news soon :)
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I think I'd marry when I'm between 28-30. The timing should be right. And I'm after a man who's more mature and older than I am so that when we argue it will make sense. About the house, it doesn't really worry me. In my culture we either move in with the boy's family or are given a house by one set of parents. So it shouldn't be much of a problem.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
You are lucky .you won’t carry about future and money because you have a good boyfriend.. he or your parents could support a house for you .I really want to a girl .just like you .no bother .no living press .lol…it’s a joke. Thanks for your responses!.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
1 Sep 08
hi dear i am born 1986 and i got married last year. i am happily married.
i wish all the best to all of you.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
You got marriage at 22 year old ..it sees as if you are happily with your partner .Best wish for you and your family !
@summersent (292)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Just see some teens and young people getting into marriage and then having kids, no house, no job, they become their parents' burden. They did not wait and are facing the consequences.
For me, 29 years is just a good age to settle down. It's actually good that you are planning for your future. Just wait for God's perfect timing for your marriage.
For me, i really don't know yet. But definitely not now. For my single years, i would like to serve the Lord and wait for His destined one for me. :)
@prinzess1515 (1341)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I am 23 and I have a two year old boy and I have never been married. I used to live with my sons father but things didn't work out. So I am now back at home living with my parents.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Oh .that sounds not good .maybe you should trying to have a communion with your son’s father. Afterall .take care of your boy by yourself is more difficulty than both of you. Two. And it may take some discommodiousness to your parents. I hope that both of two you could solve you problem as early as possible.
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
1 Sep 08
hello @ all
the first time i was 25 he past away
the second time i was 35
and next year i am 44 then it will be the last time
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Sorry to hear about that you divorced .I guess your present husband love you better. I wishes you have a happy marriage.
@jelamar (44)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
For me getting married would not be after for the age, its a matter of responsibility, you should be aware that getting married is a big deal because you have to consider a lot of aspects... First is money, getting married is somewhat expensive because you have to prepare for your wedding,right? And wedding is not yet the yet the end of the story because it's just the beginning. After the wedding you will think of how you and your partner survive in your everyday life by that you have to work... See, its not the age that you should think for you to get married its how will gonna live with your partners for the rest of you lives...
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Yes. many things must be considered .thanks for your commands!
@raayven420 (2)
•
1 Sep 08
I'm 40yrs old, been with my boyfriend for 14yrs and we are not married or have any plans to get married. I SAY WAIT!, who cares that all your friends are married. At least one of them will be divorced by the time marriage is on your mind, if at all.
Next dont let mom or girlfriend make you feel guilty or pressure to do it because you might hold resentment towards them unknownlly because you werent ready. Like you said about just graduating with not much money or a house. If you want to be financially stable first, do it. What you do for yourself now will make your future even better. I bought my own house 3yrs ago, have a great job since finishing school and im still not married so.... Do what YOU want, and when. On my last note, marriage is over-rated anyway! Spend all this money on stuff that your going to enjoy (maybe) one day and leading up to that special stress induced day, a piece of paper that says: Whats mine is hers & whats hers is hers.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
Hello .dear raayven420.in my opinion. A person who have not gotten marriage when he/she was 40 years old is unimaginable . at least in our country .most of people would not do it .they even considering that get marriage and then have a children could provide for theirs’old age .after all .their’s son or daughter could take care of them when they growing old .well .maybe we have different value concept .or we have different custom .no matter what .all of us have right to pursue our blessedness.
Personally .I always belive that it is not time for get marriage .but not many years .maybe 30 years old .or 29 .at that time .many things maybe improve .and also the condition is well .
Thanks for your sincere words !
@jacky_crist (14)
• China
1 Sep 08
I am 27 years old, and I got married last month. I understand you feeling for the same experience. I think marriage is a kind of responsibility to each other. And you will never rashly undertake this responsibility only when you have no hesitate.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
2 Sep 08
You got married last month .Gratulation! many things must be provided
enough .love .money .house .well. I am not sure .so I have three years for ready.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Hmmm, I was married at the age of 19.. My ex was going into the military and they told him if he wanted to take me we would have to be married. he had two week before he entered basic and I only had that time to decide. So being that we had been together and living together in an apt at the time I decided to take the plunge.. To be honest marriage is over rated.. It's the next step in a relationship is all .. I have been in a committed relationship now for 7-8 yrs and I'm not sure if I want to mary again. Not saying I don't love the man I'm with it's just that marriage is a piece of paper it doesn't make you any more committed to the relationship than your already were. Sorry about the ramble.
But no I didn't plan for the first marriage I don't plan on the next if it happens then it happens. Now about a house that can be rented or bought at anytime it doesn't have to come before the marriage.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Sep 08
hi zhubaohuisdme wow what a name . I was 32 when I got married, and I was married for thirty four years.We rented for the first year but when i was pregnant with my first child my father made a down payment on a house and gave it to us. So we did have a house after we were married several years.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
i was born 1973 and i got married august 30, 2002. i got married when i was 29 years old and now we are on our 6th year. we have a two year old son and we are stronger and better. marriage is not something that you can hurry. you must find first someone who you really are ready to spend your whole life. i found the girl who is perfectly fit for me 9 years ago and we had a relationship for three years before we decided to get married. find someone who you will love to grow old with then if you are emotionaly ready and financialy ready then you can get married already.
@zhubaohuisdme (240)
• China
1 Sep 08
You have a happy marriage ! I guess your sun is very clever ! yes .that’s right .we must find a person who is my best love .so we can deside get marriage I meet my girlfriend for one years (3th..Septmber.2007). we love each other very much .
thanks for your responses!
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I am not yet married.. I just graduated my bachelor degree only this year.. I am already working for almost 3 months now.. While my boyfriend is not yet working since he need to finish first his thesis for him to get his diploma... So, for now we can't engaged ourselves into marriage life because both of us are not yet ready to face the marriage life.. Well, here in our country house is also important.. It is good to have your own house and not staying together with your relatives/parents/in-laws so that you are free to decide for your own family and most of all to be responsible... But most of the couple here are still staying in the house of their parents/in-laws since they don't have a house and most of all financially unstable.. They were still asking financial help from their parents..
I am still 20 years and my boyfriend will be 21 soon (since he is celebrating his birthday on September 30).. We are planning to get married 5 years from now so at the age of 25... But on that age we must be sure that we are already ready like we had already build our own house, financially capable and most of all ready to face the responsibility.. It is hard to get married if there is no plan or goal because when you are already in that kind of situation/life you might get lost since you don't have a guide on how you want to happen in your life.. So, I agree with you that you should not get married if you are not yet ready...
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
i was born in 1982.. i got married last year and im 24 years old that time..now im happily married (",)